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Announcement: Summer Break And Season 6 Updates

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A quick update to let you know we're taking a summer break from the podcast — we’ll be back with SEASON 6 in September! 

I'm so excited to share what's in store for Season 6... we have lots of exciting updates, a new look and feel, and deeper convos with brilliant and thoughtful guests. 

In the meantime, you can stay up-to-date by subscribing to the show on YouTube and Spotify to watch all the episodes... leaving a review really is such a helpful way to support the show so I can keep making this every week!

And if you haven’t subscribed to my Substack, it would mean the world if you did. I’ll be posting more writing and insights there in the coming weeks. 

Thank you guys for tuning in to season 5 and being a part of this amazing community.

If you have any topics or guest suggestions that you’d love to hear in season 6, please send me a message or DM. I love hearing from you!

I hope you all find time for whimsy, community, and the hobbies that light you up this summer. 

See you in September!

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The Psychology of Whimsy: Maybe Life Doesn’t Suck… Maybe You Just Need Whimsymaxxing

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Finally… a happiness habit that actually works. Whimsymaxxing is everywhere right now, and for good reason. But this is more than just another internet trend… the vitality of whimsy reflects something much deeper about what so many of us are craving.

In this episode, we're exploring the psychology of whimsy, why adults desperately need more play, wonder, novelty, creativity, and delight, and why intentionally romanticizing your life can improve your mental health, resilience, and overall wellbeing.

In a world obsessed with productivity, optimization, and hustle culture, whimsy is becoming an act of rebellion. A much-needed pendulum swing away from over-optimizing, biohacking, irreverence, and minimalism. Whimsy is an act of hope and joy against the seriousness of adulthood and the uncertainty of current times.

And it’s more than just vibes… whimsy is a measurable psychological strength associated with greater life satisfaction, stronger relationships, improved resilience, and lower symptoms of depression. Even more good news: it’s not a fixed trait. Research shows playfulness can be learned and developed.

So whether you're feeling burnt out, stuck in autopilot, or wanting to reconnect with childhood joy, this episode will inspire you to reclaim the magic of life in small, meaningful ways.

Tune in to hear about:

  • Why whimsymaxxing is becoming one of the biggest trends

  • The psychology of whimsy, playfulness, and wonder

  • How romanticizing your life can improve happiness and mental health

  • Why novelty activates dopamine and makes life feel richer and more memorable

  • The surprising research on adult playfulness and resilience

  • The power of nostalgia and reconnecting with childhood joy

  • How to break out of autopilot and make everyday life feel magical again

  • 15 easy ways to add more whimsy, creativity, adventure, and play into your life this summer

Let’s savour every sunset, dilly dally our days away, and spend the summer being wildly impractical and frivolous.

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How To Stay In Love: Top Divorce Lawyer On Why Marriages Fail & The Habits That Save Relationships, with James Sexton

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More than half of marriages end in divorce… so why do we still choose to tie the knot?

In this episode we get profound relationship advice from a perspective you might not expect… a world-renowned divorce lawyer and authority on relationships. Because there’s a lot that we can reverse engineer from someone who has spent their career witnessing endings.

We're joined by James Sexton, America's top divorce lawyer, and bestselling author of How to Stay in Love and How Not To Fuck Up Your Marriage. After more than 20 years helping couples navigate the end of their marriages, James has rare insight into what actually causes relationships to fail, and how we can build stronger, healthier, lasting love before the start.

We cover the real reason people divorce, the biggest mistakes that end marriages, what the red flags are that a relationship might be unsalvageable, emotional disconnection and the toxicity of social media for couples, and advice for anyone about to get married.

In this moving conversation, we also explore the deeper philosophy of grief and impermanence, and what we can learn about building more connected relationships from someone who has witnessed a lifetime of endings.

Whether you're dating, engaged, married, navigating relationship challenges, or simply want to become a better partner, this episode is packed with practical relationship advice that every couple (and anyone hoping to get married one day) should hear.

Tune in to hear:

  • The main causes of divorce after 20+ years in family law

  • How we “lose the plot” in relationships

  • The red flags that a relationship is breaking down or beyond repair

  • Why couples’ connections “go bankrupt slowly, then all at once"

  • James Sexton’s "Hit Send Now" philosophy for honest communication

  • Check-in rituals and habits to stay connected and avoid drifting

  • Why couples experience different versions of the same relationship (we’re unreliable narrators!)

  • How social media can be damaging in modern relationships

  • What grief work and divorce law taught James about love, gratitude, and impermanence

  • The most important advice James gives to anyone about to get married

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How To Feel More Empowered & Confident: The Psychology of Personal Power + Locus of Control | The Quickie

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Do you feel like you're in the driver's seat of your life, or does it feel like life is just happening to you?

Empowered people have an infectious confidence and energy, and a lot of that personal agency comes down to a powerful concept in psychology: locus of control.

Do our choices, habits, and actions shape our future? Or are we at the mercy of luck, circumstances, other people, and forces beyond our control? Your answer has a major impact on your confidence, resilience, motivation, mental health, relationships, success, and optimism.

In this episode, we unpack the difference between an internal locus of control and an external locus of control, why some people feel empowered while others feel stuck, and how our childhood experiences, upbringing, and life circumstances can shape the stories we tell ourselves about what's possible.

Tune in to hear:

  • What the concept of locus of control is in psychology

  • The difference between an internal vs. external locus of control

  • Why locus of control influences confidence, resilience, happiness, motivation, and success

  • The connection between external locus of control and anxiety/depression/stress

  • How high performers often develop a stronger sense of personal agency

  • How childhood experiences, parenting styles, and socioeconomic circumstances shape our beliefs

  • Why your locus of control may differ across areas of your life

  • Strategies to feel more empowered and build confidence in your abilities

Whether you're navigating anxiety, building self-confidence, or trying to feel more empowered in your life, this is a powerful framework for understanding how your mindset shapes your reality.

I believe in you!!

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Why Your Friendships Feel Empty, Lonely & Disconnected in Adulthood, with Psychologist Dr. Elisabeth Crain

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You have friends… so why do you still feel lonely?

Friendships are more important than ever in adulthood, but they become increasingly hard to make and maintain. But we’re in a real loneliness epidemic where most adults feel unseen, alone, and disconnected even though they have lots of connections in their lives.

The real reason no one’s talking about? The “depth gap” that keeps us from being truly vulnerable and connected. Because the problem isn't always that we need more friends… it's that we don't feel known by the people in our lives.

In this episode, we're diving into the psychology of modern friendship with psychologist Dr. Elisabeth Crain. From attachment styles and friendship patterns to reciprocity, resentment, and friendship breakups, this interview is a roadmap for healthier, more fulfilling friendships.

Tune in to hear:

  • Why adult friendships are harder to build and maintain 

  • The "Depth Gap" and why loneliness is often a quality issue, not a quantity issue

  • How fear of vulnerability and rejection impact intimacy

  • Attachment styles in friendships

  • Understanding your friendship blueprint and relationship patterns

  • Fast-burn versus slow-burn friendships… why pacing matters

  • Managing reciprocity, imbalance and resentment

  • The importance of healthy criticism

  • Tuning into your body’s reaction to people 

  • The art of discernment in picking the right friendships

  • Why friendships fracture in adulthood

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How To Stop Avoiding Your Life: Why Avoidance Makes Anxiety Worse & Shrinks Your Life (And How to Overcome It) | The Quickie

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What you resist really does persist… and the anxiety-avoidance cycle can keep you trapped in a small life for years.

If you avoid social situations, difficult conversations, travel, dating, decision-making, presentations, or anything that makes you anxious, this episode is for you.

Avoidance is one of the most common coping mechanisms people use for anxiety… but it's also one of the biggest reasons anxiety continues to grow. And the problem with avoidance is you can’t stop thinking about something that you’re trying to avoid.

In today’s episode, we're unpacking the psychology of avoidance and how it ultimately reinforces fear, shrinks your comfort zone, and keeps you stuck. Tune in if you want to learn how to face your fears, build confidence in your ability to deal with stress, and live a more expansive life.

We cover:

  • Why avoidance is one of the most common coping strategies

  • The anxiety-avoidance cycle and how it feeds anxiety

  • Why avoiding difficult conversations creates more stress than just having them

  • Internal avoidance: avoiding thoughts, uncertainty, decisions, and emotions

  • How avoidance can shrink your world and limit your opportunities

  • How Metacognitive Therapy approaches anxiety and avoidance

  • Building tolerance for uncertainty and discomfort

  • Using gradual exposure: the "fear ladder"

  • Prompts to change how you think about your anxiety

  • The Fear List exercise that helped me get unstuck

If you've been feeling trapped by anxiety, fear, and avoidance, this episode is your reminder that discomfort is not dangerous… and life usually expands on the other side of the things we're afraid of.

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Endometriosis & PCOS/PMOS Explained: Symptoms, Period Pain, Diagnosis & Treatments That Actually Help, with Dr. Karen Tang

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If you’re listening to this episode, chances are you or someone you love is struggling with a hormonal, inflammatory, reproductive, or chronic pain condition like endometriosis or PCOS/PMOS… I know firsthand how exhausting and frustrating it can be to get proper care, and how much these conditions can impact your life, from pain and fertility struggles, to metabolism issues, bloating, and the impact on your physical and mental health.

The good news? Women’s health conversations are finally starting to change around conditions that have historically been dismissed, minimized, or misunderstood.

In this episode, I’m joined by renowned gynecologist and gynecologic surgeon Dr. Karen Tang to unpack the truth about endometriosis and PCOS (now more accurately named PMOS — Polyendocrine Metabolic Ovarian Syndrome.

This interview is packed with validating, practical, and empowering information that every woman deserves to hear.

We dive deep into the symptoms, root causes, inflammation, hormones, fertility struggles, diagnosis delays, treatment options, and evidence-based lifestyle interventions that can actually help women living with these issues.

Dr. Tang explains why endometriosis is far more than “bad period pain,” how it can affect the entire body, and why it often takes women an average of 7–11 years to receive a diagnosis. We also cover PCOS/PMOS as a metabolic and hormonal disorder (not just a fertility condition) including insulin resistance, blood sugar dysregulation, and long-term health risks.

Dr. Tang is a leader in reproductive health, has taught medical students and residents at institutions like Harvard and University of Pennsylvania, and she reaches millions of viewers on her social media channels where she explains gynaecology, pelvic pain, and reproductive rights. She’s the author of It’s Not Hysteria, Everything You Need To Know About Your Reproductive Health (But Were Never Told).

Tune in to learn about:

  • The signs and symptoms of endometriosis and PCOS/PMOS

  • Why women’s pain is so often normalized or dismissed in healthcare

  • The stages and severity of endometriosis

  • Common triggers for endometriosis flare-ups

  • Anti-inflammatory diets, supplements, and lifestyle changes that may help

  • Fertility considerations for women with endometriosis and/or PCOS

  • Why doctors prescribe birth control as a treatment

  • Non-hormonal treatment options that can help address the root cause

  • How to advocate for yourself when doctors dismiss your symptoms

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Boost Your Mood With Expert-Backed Supplements, Foods, & Gut-Brain Health Hacks To Improve Anxiety, Depression & Mental Health

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May is mental health awareness month, so I've gone back and pulled the top tips and advice from neuroscientists, psychologists and biohacking experts on how to improve your happiness, anxiety, and depression through specific supplement protocols, brain health hacks, and healing your gut.

Because we can't ignore the physical side to mental health, and taking care of our bodies is a key piece in taking care of our minds. 

Tune in to hear about:

  1. Our mood has EVERYTHING to do with our brain health. So what do top neuroscientists recommend for psychiatric issues? Dr. Kristen Willeumier offers her EXACT protocol for improving anxiety without a medical prescription. This is game-changing advice on the power of supplements for managing anxiety and psychiatric disorders, from an award-winning neuroscientist with a PHD and Masters in neurobiology, Masters in Physiological science, and postdoctoral scientist in the Department of Neurology at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in LA.

  2. Your gut can play a huge role in your mental health (95% of the serotonin in our body is housed in the gut!). Clinical psychologist, author, and founder of Heartship Psychological Services, Dr. Lauren Cook, breaks down what tests and bloodwork to get, the supplements that changed her brain, and how gut health is intrinsically linked to mental health. 

  3. If you're struggling with persistent low mood and energy, this surprising supplement recommendation from chemical engineer and biohacking pro Chloe Deutscher could be the answer. Learn why certain supplements and vitamins can help with depression, calm anxiety, and boost your serotonin.  

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3 Top Mental Health Experts On The Root Cause of Anxiety & How To Actually Manage It

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May is mental health awareness month, so we’re rounding up some of the most game-changing advice and insights we've heard on the podcast about managing anxiety and improving your emotional wellbeing, from three leading experts. We cover the root cause of anxiety and the beliefs that fuel it, managing our distress with the “anxiety hierarchy”, and the ways trauma is stored in the body — along with how to move it. 

These perspective-changing concepts have really helped me better understand my mind and improve my mindset.

Tune in to hear advice from:

  1. Clinical Psychologist Sunniva Itland, founder of one of Norway's largest private psychology clinics and co-founder of metacognitivetherapy.com: On the root of our anxiety, and the transformative anti-therapy therapy that's changing lives.

  2. Dr. Lauren Cook, therapist, consultant, speaker, author and founder of Heartship Psychological Services:  On the framework that helps you measure your level of anxiety when faced with challenges, so you can live your life without letting anxiety, avoidance, and control stay in the driver's seat.

  3. Trauma Therapist Simone Saunders, somatic psychotherapist and founder of The Cognitive Corner: On signs that you’re chronically dysregulated, nervous system regulation tools that help or hinder, and how trauma manifests physically.

If you’re struggling with your mental health, you’re not alone. Please tell someone… and know that you are loved.

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Narcissism & Borderline Personality Disorder Explained: Why DBT Works When Psychodynamic Therapy Doesn’t, with Dr. Suzanne Wallach

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It’s Mental Health Awareness Month — and while we’ve covered emotional and mental wellbeing a lot on the podcast, we’ve never explored complex mental health disorders and how to navigate them.

Our culture talks endlessly about therapy, but I don’t see enough conversations about how to help those struggling with severe mental illness. Because it doesn’t always look like venting to your therapist and unpacking childhood trauma. For many people, the issue isn’t a lack of self-awareness or needing to dive deeper into their feelings. It’s a lack of tools to manage what’s happening in real time.

So, whether you’re struggling with a mental health condition, or this is impacting someone you care about, we’re deepening our understanding of personality disorders like Narcissism and Borderline Personality Disorder, Bipolar Disorder, and the tools that can help people who are really struggling. With the help of Dr. Suzanne Wallach, we explore how approaches like Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) can shift the focus from why you feel this way to what you do when you feel this way so you have concrete skills, like emotional regulation and distress tolerance — even when you’re triggered.

Dr. Wallach is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California with a Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology and Doctorate in Psychology. She’s a Dialectical Behaviour Therapy expert who works with personality disorders like Borderline, substance abuse and addiction, eating disorders, and complex trauma. She’s been on podcasts like Call Her Daddy, and is a wealth of knowledge when it comes to treating complex conditions with compassion and skills-based techniques.

Tune in to learn:

  • The truth about Narcissistic Personality Disorder and the trauma that leads to it

  • Signs you might be dating a narcissist

  • Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder

  • How to be in relationship with people who have personality disorders

  • The difference between Type 1 and Type 2 Bipolar Disorder

  • When medication is needed, and the different modalities that can help

  • How Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) offers real-world tools for people with mental disorders

  • Why sequencing and developing distress tolerance in therapy matters more than most people realize

  • When to do psychodynamic/psychoanalytic therapy VS behavioural techniques

  • The difference between between DBT, CBT, and MCT

If you’ve ever felt like talk therapy made you more self-aware but didn’t actually change your destructive patterns or improve a mental disorder, this episode might help with a new approach. Wherever you are in your mental health journey, know that you are not alone, and there’s life-changing help available.

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Are You Exhausted No Matter How Much You Sleep? The 4 Types Of Fatigue No One Talks About

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If you’ve been feeling constantly exhausted, burned out, or mentally drained, even after you’ve caught up on sleep…this episode is for you. Because sometimes we’re tired in ways sleep alone can’t fix.

Today’s truth-bomb: sleep and rest are not the same thing. And most chronically drained people are missing the kind of rest that would actually restore them.

In today’s quickie, we’re breaking down the 4 types of fatigue that could be draining your energy — and why most people are trying to fix the wrong problem. This will help you identify why you’re so tired all the time, and what actually works to feel better.

Backed by research, fatigue is a multidimensional experience, and until you address the specific type of exhaustion you’re experiencing, no amount of sleep, coffee, or productivity hacks will fix it.

Tune in to hear about:

  • The 4 main types of fatigue: physical, cognitive (mental overload), emotional, and existential

  • Why doomscrolling, screen time, and constant stimulation are worsening your exhaustion

  • Active vs passive mental fatigue (and why both leave you drained)

  • How people-pleasing and unreciprocated emotional labor lead to deep exhaustion

  • Why you need to close those “open mental tabs” with monotasking

  • How to reduce digital overload and give your brain real rest

  • Why monotasking and closing mental loops can instantly improve focus and energy

  • The power of awe, purpose, and gratitude in reversing existential burnout

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How To Embrace Where You Are, When You're Not Where You Want To Be | The Quickie

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Do you ever feel like you’re behind in life? Like everyone else is hitting milestones while you’re stuck waiting for your life to finally begin?

Whether it’s your career, relationships, finances, or major life milestones, this episode dives into the psychology of feeling behind, comparison, and the pressure of the invisible timeline we all think we’re supposed to follow.

From your late 20s into your 30s and beyond, it can feel like a race: finding a partner, advancing your career, buying a home, starting a family. And if you’re not there yet, It’s easy to spiral. But there’s no correct cadence to life. We become so obsessed with hitting that next milestone we completely miss the beauty of the stage we’re in right now.

If you’ve ever thought: “I should be further along by now” or “It’s too late to start over”… this episode is for you.

Tune in to hear:

  • Why you feel behind in life (and the psychology behind it)

  • How comparison and social media distort your timeline

  • The cost of chasing milestones and “the arrival fallacy”

  • Practical ways to stop comparing yourself to others

  • How to bring what you’re craving (love, kids, success) into your life right now

Remember, your life isn’t on hold… It’s happening right now.

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Why Modern Dating Feels So Hard: How to Stop Self-Sabotaging & Find Lasting Love, with Amy Chan

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Modern dating feels like a shitshow, and if you’re struggling to find love, burnt out by dating apps, or wondering why dating feels harder than ever… this episode is for you.

In part 2 of our conversation with relationship expert Amy Chan, we’re diving into how to date smarter, overcome toxic dating patterns, and build healthy relationships that actually last. Amy breaks down why the modern dating landscape feels so dysfunctional (half of US singles went on ZERO dates last year), the difference in modern gender dynamics, biggest mistakes singles are making, and how to stop self-sabotaging your love life.

We also explore the truth about chemistry vs compatibility, why instant sparks aren’t always a green flag, and how to recognize when your “type” may actually be keeping you stuck. 

Amy has been a trusted voice in modern relationships for almost two decades. She’s the author of UNSINGLE: How to Date Smarter and Create Love that Lasts (which comes out this April 28th!) and her popular first book, Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart, was featured in The New York Times. She’s the founder Renew Breakup Bootcamp, the world's first heartbreak retreat, and she’s on faculty at Esalen and The Omega Institute.

If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re being too picky and expecting perfection, or struggling to know if someone is “the one,” this conversation is a science-backed no-bullshit guide to navigating dating with confidence and emotional intelligence.

We cover:

  • Why dating feels broken right now

  • How dating apps and social media have changed relationships

  • The biggest self-sabotaging dating patterns people fall into

  • Amy’s Dating Funnel framework for getting unstuck

  • Have we become “ick”-obsessed assholes?

  • How much chemistry matters early on

  • What you might not realize about your “type”

  • The debate of going slow VS fast in dating

  • The real green flags and red flags that predict lasting love

  • What actually creates healthy, sustainable relationships

This is part TWO of a two-part series with Amy Chan! If you’re going through a breakup and missed part one, be sure to go back and listen here.

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How to Get Over a Breakup: The Mistakes Everyone Makes, And Why You Can’t Let Go Of Your Ex, with Amy Chan

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Breaking up is hard to do… we’ve watched hundreds of movies and listened to thousands of songs about the universal experience of heartbreak — yet no one ever really teaches us how to navigate breakups, let go of love, and move on in a healthy way.

So today, we called in the breakup pro: I’m joined by relationship expert, author, and founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, Amy Chan, to cover the psychology of breakups, why we stay in the wrong relationships, and how to actually heal after heartbreak without losing yourself in the process. Amy offers a scientific approach to healing the heart, revealing what actually happens in your brain during a breakup, and why heartbreak and situationships can take on an addictive quality.

Amy has been a trusted voice in modern relationships for almost two decades. She’s the author of UNSINGLE: How to Date Smarter and Create Love that Lasts (which comes out this April 28th!) and her popular first book, Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart, was featured in The New York Times. She’s the founder Renew Breakup Bootcamp, the world's first heartbreak retreat, and she’s on faculty at Esalen and The Omega Institute.

Whether you’re in the “should I stay or should I go” phase, currently going through a fresh breakup, or ready to move on from an ex, this conversation will give you the clarity, actionable tools, and perspective you need to come out stronger on the other side.

Tune in to hear more about:

  • How to know when it’s time to break up (even when nothing is “wrong”)

  • The 4 key pillars of a healthy relationship to assess compatibility

  • Why we stay in unfulfilling or dead-end relationships

  • The psychology of heartbreak and emotional withdrawal

  • Is it easier to initiate the breakup or be broken up with?

  • The biggest breakup mistakes

  • Why you need to stop creeping your ex on social media

  • Why breakups and situationships can feel addictive and how to stop toxic patterns

  • Why we romanticize our exes (the rose-coloured glasses effect)

  • Can you stay friends with an ex?

  • The rules around post-breakup contact

  • How to set boundaries that support healing and closure

This is part one of a two-part series with Amy Chan! If you’re ready to start dating again, don’t miss next week’s episode on how to date smarter and build healthier, lasting relationships.

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If You’re Burnt Out Or Hate Your Job, This Is For You: The “Achievement Lie” That’s Ruining Your Career, with Top Career Coach Megan Hellerer

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Feeling stuck in your career, burnt out, or questioning if it’s time to quit? This episode is for anyone navigating a career pivot or craving more purpose and fulfillment in their work

We’re joined by career coach, author, and former Google executive Megan Hellerer to unpack how to find an aligned career and make confident decisions about your next chapter.

We explore the truth behind the Achievement Lie, and why so many millennials feel anxious, lost, and burned out despite being successful. You’ll learn the difference between your “fear self” and your “true self,” why logic alone won’t lead you to the right decisions, and how to start making decisions based on what actually feels aligned.

After doing everything “right” — graduating from Stanford, landing a high-powered role at Google — Megan found herself deeply unfulfilled and ultimately quit away with no plan. She went on to develop her now widely recognized framework, Directional Living®, and wrote a popular book with the same name, helping ambitious but disconnected high-achievers (like Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez!) rebuild careers that actually feel good.

Tune in for more on:

  • The “Achievement Lie” and how it keeps you stuck

  • How to know when it’s time to quit your job (vs. making changes to stick it out)

  • The difference between burnout from overwork vs burnout from misalignment

  • How to tap into your intuition and inner navigation system

  • The difference between your fear self vs true self in decision-making

  • Practical exercises to uncover what actually lights you up (even if you feel lost)

  • Why your curiosity and joy are so helpful

  • How to overcome fear, uncertainty, and decision paralysis

  • The 4 decision-making “omens” to avoid

  • Why there’s no single “right” career path — only what’s right for you right now

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This Quality Is The #1 Predictor of Success (And It's Not Talent Or IQ) | The Quickie

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What if the biggest predictor of success isn’t talent... but grit?

According to psychologist Angela Duckworth, grit is: Passion + perseverance for long-term goals. It’s the ability to stay committed, even when things feel hard or uncertain. As Winston Churchill said: “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”

In today's quickie, we’re breaking down the psychology of grit, and why your ability to stay consistent matters more than IQ, natural ability, or connections.

If you’ve ever felt behind, not “naturally gifted,” or unsure of your potential... this episode will reframe everything.

Tune in to hear more about:

  • Why grit is the #1 predictor of success

  • Angela Duckworth's groundbreaking studies on success

  • How to stop disqualifying yourself from your potential

  • The link between grit, resilience, and mental toughness

  • Why passion matters (and burnout happens without it)

  • When to quit vs stick it out

  • How to build grit in your own life

  • The connection between grit and happiness

If you want to measure your grit, you can take the official Grit Scale by Angela Duckworth:
👉 The Grit Scale Quiz

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Your Brain Wasn’t Designed for This Much Bad News… How To Protect Your Mental Health When The World Is In Chaos

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If the news is ruining your mental health, listen to this. 

News anxiety is at an all-time high as we’re bombarded with breaking headlines and social media coverage of... every single shitshow that's simultaneously unfolding globally. And unlike previous periods of unrest throughout history, it's all delivered straight to our phones, 24/7, for us to worry about.  

Washington D.C. therapist Steven Stosny coined the term "headline stress disorder" to describe the huge mental health impact of our nonstop news cycle. In this re-release, we explore how to stay informed and consume the news responsibly while protecting our mental health. Because we can't make an impact if we're operating in overwhelm and hopelessness. 

Tune in to hear more about:
✅ How the 24-hour news cycle fuels anxiety & fear-based algorithms
✅ Ways to stay informed without feeling emotionally drained
✅ How to break free from doomscrolling & social media-induced panic
✅ Practical strategies to set news boundaries & curate mindful media consumption
✅ Why focusing on what you CAN control is key to mental resilience
✅ The importance of hope & positive news for your mental well-being

Looking for uplifting news sources? Check these out:

✨ Good Good Good

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How To Stop Being So Judgmental (And The Judgments I’ve Had To Release) - The Quickie

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Did you know that happy people are less judgmental? Nobody likes being judged… and for the judgmental ones, it doesn’t feel good either. We’ve all been judgy, and the truth is, being overly critical of others is often linked to insecurity, anxiety, perfectionism, and unhappiness.

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In this week’s quickie, we’re unpacking the psychology of judgment: where it comes from, why we do it, and how to become less judgmental in a world that fuels comparison and criticism about everything from how we parent, to how we look, to how we earn and spend our money.

Judgment usually says more about our own wounds than someone else’s behaviour. So we’re exploring the psychological drivers behind judging, and psychology-backed tools to shift into a more curious, understanding, and compassionate mindset.

Tune in to hear:

  • Why the ego needs to feel “right”

  • The link between perfectionism and criticism

  • How insecurity and comparison fuels judgment

  • The connection between self-judgment and judging others

  • Understanding the Fundamental Attribution Error

  • The blind spots I’ve had to confront in my own judgments

  • Using curiosity as the antidote to judgment

  • Challenging your assumptions and biases

  • Practicing self-compassion to reduce projection

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Moving In With Your Partner? Money Conversations You Need to Have First, with Alyssa Davies

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Moving in with your partner? Before you sign the lease, you need to talk about money.

As I prepare to move in with my partner for the first time (your girl’s growing up!), I revisited our practical and helpful conversation with personal finance expert and author, Alyssa Davies, about how to navigate your finances when you’re merging lives with your partner, and how to set yourself up for success when you’re moving in together.

We dive into the financial conversations every couple should have before moving in — from how to split rent and household expenses when your income is different, to structuring joint finances in a way that feels equitable and aligned with your shared goals.

Because merging lives means merging money — and that’s hella vulnerable.

Alyssa Davies is a 2x author and the mastermind behind award-winning Canadian personal finance website and YouTube channel, Mixed Up Money, where she dishes out financial content for women who care about their money. 

Tune in to hear:

  • Alyssa’s advice for couples who are moving in together

  • The most important money conversations to have

  • Different ways to structure your joint and separate accounts

  • Equal vs equitable expense splitting (and how to divide rent when your incomes are different)

  • How to protect your assets if your partner moves in

  • What to do if you have different spending/saving habits

  • Saving for big milestones together (travel, home, wedding, investments)

  • Avoiding resentment around money and contribution

  • Tools for successful budgeting with your partner

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Feeling Lost? Your Childhood Interests Can Predict Career Satisfaction. Here’s How To Reconnect With Your Essence | The Quickie

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Feeling lost in your career? Questioning your life direction? So many of us spend our 20s and 30s chasing the job titles we’re told we “should” have, lofty income goals, or status, only to end up feeling disconnected, unfulfilled, and like we’ve sold our soul along the way.

What if the answer to career clarity and job satisfaction isn’t ahead of you… it’s behind you?

Research shows that people whose adult careers align with their early interests experience higher job satisfaction, better income, and greater educational attainment. If you loved writing, building, organizing, performing, asking questions, leading groups, solving problems, or creating things as a kid, those patterns can still guide what feels meaningful and easeful in adulthood.

So in today’s episode, we explore how your childhood interests and your true nature as a kid can offer clues for what will bring you long-term career fulfillment — and why reconnecting with who you were as a child is an evidence-based career strategy.

Tune in to hear about:

  • Why so many adults feel lost or misaligned in their careers

  • The disconnect between societal expectations and your authentic self

  • How your childhood “essence” reveals your natural strengths

  • Prompts to uncover your core nature

  • The new research linking childhood interests to adult job satisfaction

  • How interests are often more stable than personality traits

  • Holland’s RIASEC career theory in the 6 interest categories

  • How to use your younger self as a practical career compass

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