Ep. 257: How To Overcome Fear, Self-Sabotage, And Panic Attacks To Make Quantum Leaps Towards Our Goals, with Lori Harder
I’ve been hitting a ceiling with my upper limits lately — in love, business, and life decisions, limiting beliefs and self-sabotage have been showing all the way up. So I revisited this episode with Lori Harder, and it was a powerful reminder of how to get out of my own way… it felt right to throw it back to this top-performing episode today for anyone who needs to hear this.
I’ve been hitting a ceiling with my upper limits lately — in love, business, and life decisions, limiting beliefs and self-sabotage have been showing all the way up. So I revisited this episode with Lori Harder, and it was a powerful reminder of how to get out of my own way… it felt right to throw it back to this top-performing episode today for anyone who needs to hear this.
The biggest thing that gets in our way of the success and fulfillment we desire isn’t external factors, it’s ourselves. So listen in to this masterclass on how to stop upper limiting and break up self-sabotage.
There’s no one better suited to speak to resilience and transformation than Lori Harder, who pushed herself out of her comfort zone to go from a broke, unhealthy, anxiety-ridden introvert, to a confident and abundant self-made millionaire, speaker, podcast host, fitness world champion, and cover model. Lori is a serial entrepreneur and CEO of multiple companies, including Glōci and Lite Pink. She’s a best-selling author and the host of top podcast, Earn Your Happy.
Tune in as we chat about:
What are quantum leaps, and how has Lori harnessed them for her success?
Dealing with anxiety and panic attacks
Using fear as a compass to find our purpose
Practical tips to overcome public speaking anxiety
Overcoming the fear of failure
Using resistance and challenge to create inner strength
How upper limiting is holding us back from our potential
The different disguises of self-sabotage
The power of our relationships and social circles in our success
Follow Lori on Instagram and on her website.
Listen to Lori's Podcast, Earn Your Happy.
Order Lori's book, A Tribe Called Bliss
This show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
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Ep. 256: How To Regulate Your Nervous System And Process Trauma using Somatic Therapy, with Therapist Simone Saunders
It’s World Mental Health Day this week, and we're having lots of important conversations to increase awareness around emotional wellbeing. I called in Trauma Therapist Simone Saunders to learn more about somatic therapy, how our mental health impacts our physical health, and how trauma and distress shows up in our bodies.
It’s World Mental Health Day this week, and we're having lots of important conversations to increase awareness around emotional wellbeing. I called in Trauma Therapist Simone Saunders to learn more about somatic therapy, how our mental health impacts our physical health, and how trauma and distress shows up in our bodies.
Anxiety and mental illness can show up in so many ways physically — from getting sweaty and experiencing heart palpitations or nausea, to general posture and shoulder stiffness, gut issues, and sleep problems. More and more we're seeing physical diagnoses like chronic pain and IBS linked back to trauma and nervous system dysregulation. And it doesn't always have to be a big T trauma... we talk a lot in this interview about how repeated micro traumas can build up to have the same impact.
So if you want to take control of your mental health and expand your techniques and awareness, this episode is a must-listen.
Simone has a Master's in Clinical Social Work, with a specialization in trauma, emotional regulation, anxiety and depression. As a trauma therapist and educator she has over 800,000 followers across her Instagram and TikTok accounts, the cognitive corner, where she helps people understand the connection between the mind and body and patterns that your nervous system engages in.
Tune in to hear more about:
Signs we might struggle to regulate our emotions and nervous system, and the best tools for nervous system regulation
The typical survival responses we cycle through when triggered
Navigating familial relationships or partnerships that trigger the dysregulation loop
Unhelpful coping strategies that might make you feel worse
Cognitive bypassing: The difference between intellectualizing and feeling
How trauma manifests physically
What if you can't remember your trauma?
Somatic therapy techniques and processing stored trauma
Building a life that's healthy for your nervous system
Navigating the loneliness and isolation on our mental health journey
Follow Simone on Instagram and TikTok.
Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
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Ep. 255: Build Your Mental Health Toolkit With 5 Expert-Backed Tips For Emotional Wellbeing
We’re heading into mental health awareness week, and these conversations are crucial as we face a global mental health crisis, with 1 in 3 people struggling with a mental health issue in North America.
We’re heading into mental health awareness week, and these conversations are crucial as we face a global mental health crisis, with 1 in 3 people struggling with a mental health issue in North America.
Almost every person I’m close with has been affected by mental health struggles, and I dealt with my own uncomfortable bout of anxiety and depression this September. During this tough month, I found myself referring back to some of the amazing tools and conversations I’ve had with guests on this podcast who shared perspective-changing insights that have changed my mindset and mental health.
These are a big part of my mental health toolkit that I draw from when I need reminders, support and tools to get me through a rough patch, and I'm glad I can share them with you today.
Tune in to hear advice from:
Mindset coach and bestselling author, Leisse Wilcox, on having agency over your response to life’s hardships, cultivating hope and optimism, and using your feelings as feedback.
Clinical psychologist, Dr. Lauren Cook, on identifying the Four Ds of Distress and when to seek help from a therapist, plus the truth about how nutritional deficiencies and gut health impact anxiety.
Psychotherapist and author, Whitney Goodman, on radically accepting your feelings and why we’ve been programmed to engage in toxic positivity.
Mindfulness expert and best-selling author, Nina Purewal, on navigating the chatty mind, dealing with stress spirals, why we’re addicted to negative thoughts, and CSI-ing the shit out of your thoughts.
If you’re struggling with your mental health, know that you’re not alone. Please find someone to talk to, and know that you are loved. I hope this mental health toolkit helps you as much as it’s helped me.
Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
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Episode 253: Is Life Speeding You By? Slow Down Time Using Novelty (And The Case Against Routine)
Do you guys feel like time keeps passing by faster the older we get? When we’re kids, summer stretches endlessly, and in adulthood, it’s gone in the blink of an eye. Today we’re diving into the intersection of time, memories, novelty and neuroscience to figure out how we can slow down our perception of time and make more memories.
Do you guys feel like time keeps passing by faster the older we get? When we’re kids, summer stretches endlessly, and in adulthood, it’s gone in the blink of an eye.
Today we’re diving into the intersection of time, memories, novelty and neuroscience to figure out how we can slow down our perception of time and make more memories. Enter: Liz Moody’s Novelty Rule. It turns out, when we’re learning and experiencing new things, we create new neural pathways, and time feels longer/slower.
As we get older and fall into rigid routines and monotony, we’re not laying down new neural circuitry, so everything blends together and we lose track of time.
So how do we stop time from flying by? Tune in to hear about:
The neuroscience of time perception
My relationship with routine and boredom
Explaining Liz Moody’s “Novelty Rule”
Easy ways to create weekly novelty
Applying dopamine menus to memory-making
Why Shared Experiences is a key Love Language
Keeping the spark alive in relationships with novelty
Tracking and scheduling your new novelty habits
Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
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Episode 251: How To Know When It’s Time To Let Go, & Why Trying Less Can Lead To Success | I’m The Problem, It’s Me
Welcome back to another episode of “I’m the problem, it’s me,” where I call bullshit on myself for the things I’m getting wrong, so we can all learn from the struggle. Today’s adulting confession: I’m terrible at letting things go. I never know when to walk away and call it quits, and I try to make things work long past the point of productivity or hope
Welcome back to another episode of “I’m the problem, it’s me,” where I call bullshit on myself for the things I’m getting wrong, so we can all learn from the struggle.
Today’s adulting confession: I’m terrible at letting things go. I never know when to walk away and call it quits, and I try to make things work long past the point of productivity or hope
If you’re listening to this, you’re probably feeling a little overwhelmed or frustrated at how hard you’ve been trying in some area in your life.
This episode is your permission slip to stop trying to do something if it’s not working.
We’re taught our whole lives that “quitting is bad”, and “If you try harder you’ll do better” — but trying harder isn’t always the solution to achieving more.
Tune in as we explore a beautiful metaphor I heard at Lewis Howes’ Summit of Greatness. We dive into a story from Price Pritchett’s book, You2, on the power of redirection, pivoting, and NOT trying harder when there’s a smarter, more effective solution just around the corner.
I haven’t always known when to let go and walk away from something, but I’m setting out to change that.
If something isn’t working in your life and you’re still desperately trying — stop and reevaluate. There’s probably a better way
Read Price Prichett’s book, You2
Our show is produced by:
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Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
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Episode 249: The Quickie: Hack Your Productivity & Time Management Using ‘Parkinson’s Law’
Do you ever feel like you're less productive when you’re less busy? It’s like the more time you have, the longer it takes to get anything done, and the busier you are, the more you get done. You’re not alone my friends — that’s actually thanks to a phenomenon called Parkinson’s Law.
Do you ever feel like you're less productive when you’re less busy? It’s like the more time you have, the longer it takes to get anything done, and the busier you are, the more you get done. You’re not alone my friends — that’s actually thanks to a phenomenon called Parkinson’s Law.
Parkinson’s Law is the idea that work expands to fill the time allotted for its completion… a task will grow more complex and all-consuming the more time you have to get it done. For people (like me) who struggle with time management, this can equal A LOT OF WASTED TIME if you don’t leverage it properly.
But imagine you could get your 8-hour-a-day job done in 5 hours? I’ve tried-and-tested time management strategies and self-imposed deadlines, and found that I can get way more done in less time when I use this phenomenon to my advantage.
We’re in our work smarter, not harder season, so tune in to learn more about:
The origin story of Parkinson’s Law
How it leads to major inefficiency and wasted meetings
How to use it to our advantage to get more productive
Setting time limits and deadlines to keep you on track
My favourite time management and calendar strategies (hellllo pomodoro)
Banishing ‘busy culture’ and reworking the corporate 9-5
Why multitasking can work against you
Let’s take back control of our time and get back to living.
Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
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Episode 247: How To Hack Your Habits, Rewire Your Brain & Leverage Dopamine, with Neuroscientist Nicole Vignola
I don’t know about you, but no matter how old I get, September will always feel like that fresh back to school milestone where you get back into your routine and set new goals and habits. And today’s episode is a must-listen to help us get back on track — we called in the internet’s favourite habits and brain expert, neuroscientist Nicole Vignola.
Welcome back to the show!!! We have an incredible fall lineup planned, and I’m so glad you’re here.
I don’t know about you, but no matter how old I get, September will always feel like that fresh back to school milestone where you get back into your routine and set new goals and habits. And today’s episode is a must-listen to help us get back on track — we called in the internet’s favourite habits and brain expert, neuroscientist Nicole Vignola.
This interview is an empowering reminder that you are not stuck in your life. No matter where you’re at, you are capable of rewiring your brain and changing your life for the better. We’ve probably all said or heard, “I’m just wired this way.” But the science is in… and that’s not true. We can completely reshape and rewire our subconsciously programmed beliefs and change our thoughts, behaviours, and routines.
So today, we’re diving into·the science of breaking bad habits and how to make good ones, the principles of neuroplasticity and how to leverage it for positive change, neurohacks for changing our behavioural patterns, how to focus better and learn new skills, and how to improve our mental health by improving our brain health.
Nicole Vignola is a neuroscientist, keynote speaker, author and expert in organizational psychology who teaches people around the world about the science of human optimization, health and longevity, mental health, and peak performance.
Tune in as we learn about:
The principles of neuroplasticity
Why it feels so hard to make big changes
The anatomy of a habit, and the key to making a new habit stick
How long it takes to fully integrate new habits
Building a routine around time of day and your chemical reactions
The truth about negativity bias and positive reinforcement
Using big life changes as a catalyst
Reducing our phone usage
A genius way to break a bad habit
How dopamine impacts motivation and warps time
Boosting productivity by maximizing your mental currency
Why brain health is key for mental health
Nicole’s refreshing take on failure
Follow Nicole:
- Get her revolutionary first book, Rewire: Break The Cycle, Alter Your Thoughts and Create Lasting Change
- Follow Nicole on Instagram
- Check out her website
Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
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Episode 241: Stop Perfectionism With This Game-Changing Reframe On Success | I’m The Problem, It’s Me
I’ve always struggled with perfectionism and getting caught up in an endless cycle where no success is ever enough, I’m constantly dissatisfied with my achievements, and always in search of something I can’t grasp because I’m forever moving the benchmark of what success should be.
Today’s adulting confession: I have a toxic relationship with success.
Welcome back to another episode of “I’m the problem, it’s me,” where I call bullshit on myself for the things I’m getting wrong, so we can all learn from the struggle.
I’ve always struggled with perfectionism and getting caught up in an endless cycle where no success is ever enough, I’m constantly dissatisfied with my achievements, and always in search of something I can’t grasp because I’m forever moving the benchmark of what success should be.
I’ve learned that the antidote to this unachievable idea of success is (spoiler alert!) learning to embrace the journey, and find fulfillment in the doing.
Today’s episode dives into the game-changing reframe my amazing career coach gave me to help me redefine success and overcome my limiting beliefs. If you’re feeling stuck, this is a must-listen tool that has stopped everyone I’ve shared it with in their tracks.
Tune in to hear more about:
Perfectionism and defining your self-worth
Feeling dissatisfied with your successes
How my toxic ideas of success have held me back
The a-ha advice that reframed my idea of success
How I now define failure
Overcoming comparison and procrastination
The power of self-accountability for confidence and self-efficacy
You’ve got this!
Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
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Episode 210: What's the Worst That Can Happen? A Tool To Stop Catastrophizing And Get Unstuck
If an endless supply of “what ifs” are keeping you stuck in fear and inaction every time you need to make a decision or move forward, this tool could be a game-changer for you.
If an endless supply of “what ifs” are keeping you stuck in fear and inaction every time you need to make a decision or move forward, this tool could be a game-changer for you.
In today’s episode, we’re diving into the valuable advice my career coach shared last year to help stop catastrophic thinking and get to the root of what’s actually causing you worry or paralysis. Because the answer to “what’s the worst that could happen?” usually isn’t as bad as we make it out to be, and even the worst case scenarios are almost always figureoutable.
Whether you’re stuck in business decisions, dating, networking, trip-planning or big life changes, keep digging one layer deeper until you find out what’s at the core of your worries, and if that’s something you could handle.
Tune in to hear more about:
How catastrophic thinking can hold us back
What was keeping me stuck in inaction
The simple tool my career coach used to change my mindset
Examining the root of your discomfort
Weighing out the worst-case scenarios
How this way of thinking helped me invest in real estate
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Episode 39: How To Have An Adult AF Home
A big part of levelling up in adulthood for us has been moving past those university-dorm-room living habits and creating an actual adult home. Because anyone who’s ever called their parents asking for laundry tips or cooking questions knows...adulthood hits differently when you have your sh*t together at home!
So this is your quick and dirty guide to all the kitchen tools you *actually* need now that you’re adulting, the scoop about everything from pans and knives, to linens and laundry, grown-ass bedding and those fancy touches that will make your space functional and elevated. Are laundry tips sexy? No. Are we all trying to figure this stuff out? Yes. We hope this episode shows you that you DON’T need to wait for a wedding registry to get nice things that make you feel at home where you live, because even small investments in yourself and how you live can make a huge difference in your happiness and efficiency.
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A big part of levelling up in adulthood for us has been moving past those university-dorm-room living habits and creating an actual adult home. Because anyone who’s ever called their parents asking for laundry tips or cooking questions knows...adulthood hits differently when you have your shit together at home!
So this is your quick and dirty guide to all the kitchen tools you *actually* need now that you’re adulting, the scoop about everything from pans and knives, to linens and laundry, grown-ass bedding and those fancy touches that will make your space functional and elevated. Are laundry tips sexy? No. Are we all trying to figure this stuff out? Yes. We hope this episode shows you that you DON’T need to wait for a wedding registry to get nice things that make you feel at home where you live, because even small investments in yourself and how you live can make a huge difference in your happiness and efficiency.
And even though we’re covering a lot of things that you can buy for your place, we just want to flag that today’s advice isn’t all about spending a lot of money and acquiring a bunch of stuff. This can all be really budget-friendly, so wherever you’re at with your living situation and your budget, and whether you rent or own, know that you can follow these tips with super limited savings!
Tune in as we chat about:
The kitchen tools and unexpected appliances that are actually worth it
The essential kitchen knives you need and how to care for them
The different pans on the market and why we’re cast iron and non-stick fans
Fancy dishware, glassware and barware for your home
Why a good, luxurious bed is the best investment you can make
How steamers, air purifiers and humidifiers will change the game in your bedroom (and skincare routine)
The lowdown on linens: how many you need, and the right way to launder them
How a good couch can make your living room whole and how to get one on a dime
The importance of mood lighting and music
Which plant babies are the easiest to take care of and will look cute in your home
We hope this episode inspires you to make your home feel like yours, and to invest in easy upgrades that will make all the difference in your grownup space.
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