Episode 133: The Quickie: How To Breakup Without Being An Asshole
Breakups are generally unavoidable in life, but that doesn’t mean we’re any good at them. The stressful conversation, the guilt, the division of friendships, navigating all the emotions and aftermath… it’s not a fun time. So this week, we’re taking inspiration from our girl TSwift, the breakup queen herself, and diving deep on how to call things off, in the kindest way possible.
Breakups are generally unavoidable in life, but that doesn’t mean we’re any good at them. The stressful conversation, the guilt, the division of friendships, navigating all the emotions and aftermath… it’s not a fun time. So this week, we’re taking inspiration from our girl TSwift, the breakup queen herself, and diving deep on how to call things off, in the kindest way possible.
The key to a healthy breakup (or a conscious uncoupling, a la Gwenyth) is honesty and accountability. No two relationships or breakups are the same, but the modern era of dating has seen a rise in general assholery when it comes to ghosting and ending relationships. So whether you’re trying to end a casual situationship, a long term relationship, or something in between, tune in for tips on how to lead with compassion and break up with grace.
Join us as we chat about:
The era of ghosting and dating douchebaggery
What to consider before broaching the conversation
How to be honest, without being cruel
Constructive criticism and “I” statements
Getting real with yourself about the actual reason for the breakup, and the role you played
Avoiding a prolonged breakup
Co-creating your conscious uncoupling, and setting expectations
Breakup sex?!?!
Answering the age-old debate: Can you stay friends?
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Episode 60: How To Get Through A Breakup, with Relationship Coach Lindsey Ellison
If you’re fresh out of a breakup and are feeling alllll of the feels, this one's for you. Navigating a breakup is never easy, but you’re far from alone. A study last year showed 25% of Canadians between the ages of 18-24 split up during the pandemic, and 5 million Canadians have experienced a recent breakup.
Experts say it can take 6-8 weeks to get over the initial intensity of heartbreak, but with a lack of access during lockdowns to the normal stuff we do to get over our exes, and an ongoing mental health crisis, the “getting over it” part has been hard lately. That leaves us with the inner work we have to do: Finding out who we are again, rewriting our narratives, filling that void, and loving ourselves first.
We called in breakup expert Lindsey Ellison to help us fall in love with our life again and manifest the dream partner that we deserve. Because when you can feel happy on your own, you're raising the bar for the next partner you bring into your life.
If you’re fresh out of a breakup and are feeling alllll of the feels, this one's for you. Navigating a breakup is never easy, but you’re far from alone. A study last year showed 25% of Canadians between the ages of 18-24 split up during the pandemic, and 5 million Canadians have experienced a recent breakup.
Experts say it can take 6-8 weeks to get over the initial intensity of heartbreak, but with a lack of access during lockdowns to the normal stuff we do to get over our exes, and an ongoing mental health crisis, the “getting over it” part has been hard lately. That leaves us with the inner work we have to do: Finding out who we are again, rewriting our narratives, filling that void, and loving ourselves first.
We called in breakup expert Lindsey Ellison to help us fall in love with our life again and manifest the dream partner that we deserve. Because when you can feel happy on your own, you're raising the bar for the next partner you bring into your life.
Lindsey is a relationship coach who helps people navigate breakups or divorce. She’s the author of the best selling book, MAGIC Words: How to Get What You Want from a Narcissist, and host of the popular podcast, Unbreakable You: Breakup Without Being Broken.
Listen to our chat to learn more about:
Gill’s biggest advice for navigating a breakup
How to know when it’s time to leave a relationship
The best way to heal and change your mindset after a breakup
How the type of breakup you’re going through affects your recovery time/process
Tips for getting over trust issues
Managing triggers and relationship reminders
How to avoid becoming jaded or cynical about love
Building up your confidence after heartbreak
We hope this episode helps you get through the tough moments, and inspires you to start putting your needs first.
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Episode 43: How To Start Dating Again
One of the many things we’re loving about life after lockdown is that LOVE IS BACK, BABY! So many people are jumping back into the dating world, but we’ve also heard from lots of single friends that they’re feeling a little apprehensive or unsure of how to get back into it all after over a year of isolation. In our recent Instagram polls about dating, 47% of you said you’re a litttttle nervous to get back into dating post-Covid, too, and lots of you have had less than ideal experiences on dating apps.
Navigating love and the dating world in 2021 ain’t easy, so we called in love and relationship coach, Lauren Zoeller, to answer all of your burning Qs, and give us the advice that everyone needs to hear, whether you’re newly single, have been on the market for a while, or are in an open relationship.
One of the many things we’re loving about life after lockdown is that LOVE IS BACK, BABY! So many people are jumping back into the dating world, but we’ve also heard from lots of single friends that they’re feeling a little apprehensive or unsure of how to get back into it all after over a year of isolation. In our recent Instagram polls about dating, 47% of you said you’re a litttttle nervous to get back into dating post-Covid, too, and lots of you have had less than ideal experiences on dating apps.
Navigating love and the dating world in 2021 ain’t easy, so we called in love and relationship coach, Lauren Zoeller, to answer all of your burning Qs, and give us the advice that everyone needs to hear, whether you’re newly single, have been on the market for a while, or are in an open relationship.
Lauren is a CTA certified Love & Relationship Coach, motivational speaker and podcast host. She helps high performing, female executives attract the dream relationship and life they crave, and she’s the creator of The Aligned Love Experience™, a coaching program that teaches women how to attract love. She’s been featured in international publications like Prevention, Shape, Business Insider, Thrive Global, Money Inc., and more. Believe us when we say love is her language!
Tune in as we chat about:
The lowdown on which apps are best for your wants and needs
How to meet someone IRL vs. on the apps
Tools for bouncing back from bad dating app experiences
The inner work we all NEED to do to show up as our best selves
3 non-negotiables you should be setting from the get-go when dating
Confidence boosters to get you feelin’ good as hell going into a date
Tips for setting boundaries early on when dating and why that’s *actually* sexy
How to deal with rejection and what to do if you’re ghosted
Good questions to ask on a first date to build connection
What you should consider if you have a “type” you only date
Red flags to look out for on apps and during a date
Lauren’s hot tip to successful dating in 2021
We hope this episode helps you get back out there, date with confidence, and pursue the love that you deserve!
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