Episode 148: Asking For A Friend: What’s The First Year Postpartum Really Like?
Even with all of the books, classes and advice, nothing can truly prepare you for the changes that come with motherhood. Those first postpartum months are overwhelming and joyous and exhausting and confusing and affirming, and most of the time we look back and wonder how it could have gone by so quickly. It’s a vulnerable time that can leave a lot of women feeling isolated.
Even with all of the books, classes and advice, nothing can truly prepare you for the changes that come with motherhood. Those first postpartum months are overwhelming and joyous and exhausting and confusing and affirming, and most of the time we look back and wonder how it could have gone by so quickly. It’s a vulnerable time that can leave a lot of women feeling isolated.
So this week we’re pulling back the curtain on the fourth trimester and first year with your new human, cause when shit is hitting the fan, it’s good to know you’re not alone.
And believe it or not, we kind of *are* the experts on this! Cailyn is in the hot seat to give us her hard-earned wisdom after her first year as a new mom. Tune in as she spills the tea on all the highs and lows, from physical healing and mental health, to sleep cycles and relationship changes.
Join us as we chat about:
What’s going on down below after childbirth?
What’s the deal with sleep?
Hormones and your mental health
Cailyn’s top advice for new moms
How your relationships and marriage are affected
Cailyn’s biggest surprises in year one
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Episode 139: Teach Me How to Make Friends As An Adult, with Psychologist and Friendship Expert Dr. Miriam Kirmayer
There’s a new epidemic in town: Loneliness. And while making friends is intimidating at any age, it feels especially daunting as adults. As we hit our 30s, our groups of friends are getting smaller and smaller (fun fact: We replace half our friend group every seven years as adults!). Life gets busy, people move away, and milestones come at different times. Even though this seems to be universal, it can still feel like something is wrong with us.
There’s a new epidemic in town: Loneliness. And while making friends is intimidating at any age, it feels especially daunting as adults. As we hit our 30s, our groups of friends are getting smaller and smaller (fun fact: We replace half our friend group every seven years as adults!). Life gets busy, people move away, and milestones come at different times. Even though this seems to be universal, it can still feel like something is wrong with us.
If we’ve learned anything along our adulting journey, it’s that friendships are crucial to our mental and physical wellbeing. So this week, we’re learning how to prioritize the most underrated of our relationships, how to make new ones, and why it’s so damn hard to maintain friends as an adult.
We’re not the experts, so we called in Dr. Miriam Kirmayer. Having spent over a decade researching the science of friendship and helping people live more connected lives, Dr. Miriam is a clinical psychologist, writer, speaker, and leading expert on friendship and social connection. She’s appeared on some of our favourite media outlets, from Call Her Daddy to Vogue and The New York Times.
She sits on the Mental Health Advisory Committee for Wondermind, a media company co-founded by Selena Gomez, and is a member of The GenWell Project, a human connection movement. She also has a private practice and is one of the first and only licensed clinical psychologists to specialize in friendship therapy!
Join us as we chat about:
Why our friendships dwindle as we age
Dr. Miriam’s best tips for making new friends
Overcoming the fear of rejection
How many hours it actually takes to establish a true friendship
How our attachment styles affect our friendships
Adapting to new life stages and navigating changing relationships
Why one friend can’t check every box
How to prioritize friendships (and why it’s good for your health!)
Advice on letting go of friendships that have run their course
We hope this episode helps you feel less alone and inspires you to get back into the friendship market. Remember, you’ve always got a friend in us!
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Episode 133: The Quickie: How To Breakup Without Being An Asshole
Breakups are generally unavoidable in life, but that doesn’t mean we’re any good at them. The stressful conversation, the guilt, the division of friendships, navigating all the emotions and aftermath… it’s not a fun time. So this week, we’re taking inspiration from our girl TSwift, the breakup queen herself, and diving deep on how to call things off, in the kindest way possible.
Breakups are generally unavoidable in life, but that doesn’t mean we’re any good at them. The stressful conversation, the guilt, the division of friendships, navigating all the emotions and aftermath… it’s not a fun time. So this week, we’re taking inspiration from our girl TSwift, the breakup queen herself, and diving deep on how to call things off, in the kindest way possible.
The key to a healthy breakup (or a conscious uncoupling, a la Gwenyth) is honesty and accountability. No two relationships or breakups are the same, but the modern era of dating has seen a rise in general assholery when it comes to ghosting and ending relationships. So whether you’re trying to end a casual situationship, a long term relationship, or something in between, tune in for tips on how to lead with compassion and break up with grace.
Join us as we chat about:
The era of ghosting and dating douchebaggery
What to consider before broaching the conversation
How to be honest, without being cruel
Constructive criticism and “I” statements
Getting real with yourself about the actual reason for the breakup, and the role you played
Avoiding a prolonged breakup
Co-creating your conscious uncoupling, and setting expectations
Breakup sex?!?!
Answering the age-old debate: Can you stay friends?
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Episode 125: Teach Me How To Have Difficult Conversations | Part 2, with Anna Sale, Host of Death, Sex & Money
We’re back with more of our conversation on hard conversations with the fabulous Anna Sale. This week we’re leaving our comfort zones behind and learning how to confront our mess head-on, for the good of our relationships and our sanity. From finances to family dynamics and grief, we’re getting all the tips on how to approach the most hush-hush topics and have the courage to admit when the status quo isn't good enough anymore.
We’re back with more of our conversation on hard conversations with the fabulous Anna Sale. This week we’re leaving our comfort zones behind and learning how to confront our mess head-on, for the good of our relationships and our sanity. From finances to family dynamics and grief, we’re getting all the tips on how to approach the most hush-hush topics and have the courage to admit when the status quo isn't good enough anymore.
Anna is the creator and host of WNYC studios’ wildly popular and award-winning Death, Sex, & Money podcast, where she's been doing interviews about "the things we think about a lot and need to talk about more" since 2014.
The New York Times dubbed her “a therapist at happy hour”, and we could not agree more. Anna and her guests have direct thought-provoking conversations about the topics we’re often too squeamish, polite, or nervous to bring up. She’s the author of Let’s Talk About Hard Things, where she dives into death, sex, money, family, and identity.
Join us as we dive into:
Why money feels so taboo to talk about
How to navigate financial differences with friends and family
Addressing family conflict in a constructive way
Knowing when it’s time to take a break from someone
How to support someone who is dealing with grief
We hope this episode reminds you that you can do hard things!
Listen to part 1 of our conversation with Anna here!
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Episode 123: Teach Me How To Have Difficult Conversations | Part 1, with Anna Sale, Host of Death, Sex & Money
Calling all our non-confrontational queens, this one’s for you! If you’ve ever avoided or put off a difficult conversation (you know the one), you’re not alone. We all struggle with confronting tough issues head-on in fear of being judged, shamed or rejected for expressing how we feel. But here's the thing – shying away from the hard, messy stuff means that we're leaving key parts of ourselves out of our most important relationships. So, it's time to learn how to navigate tough talks with confidence and grace!
Calling all our non-confrontational queens, this one’s for you! If you’ve ever avoided or put off a difficult conversation (you know the one), you’re not alone. We all struggle with confronting tough issues head-on in fear of being judged, shamed or rejected for expressing how we feel. But here's the thing – shying away from the hard, messy stuff means that we're leaving key parts of ourselves out of our most important relationships. So, it's time to learn how to navigate tough talks with confidence and grace!
Thankfully we called in someone who has literally written the book on hard conversations, Anna Sale. Anna is the creator and host of WNYC studios’ wildly popular and award-winning Death, Sex, & Money podcast, where she's been doing interviews about "the things we think about a lot and need to talk about more" since 2014.
The New York Times dubbed her “a therapist at happy hour”, and we could not agree more. Anna and her guests have direct thought-provoking conversations about the topics we’re often too squeamish, polite, or nervous to bring up. She’s the author of Let’s Talk About Hard Things, where she dives into death, sex, money, family, and identity.
Join us for a deep convo about:
Why tough conversations are so necessary
What really holds us back from talking about difficult or taboo topics
The anatomy of a productive, hard conversation (and how to prepare for it)
Why good conversations don’t always lead to tidy resolutions
Why hard conversations with family can be so much more difficult
Advice for avoidant and anxious people to get better at direct communication
Anna’s take on radical honesty and the use of fibbing in relationships
How to “pick your battles” and decide when a big discussion is warranted
Be sure to tune in next week for part 2 of our chat!
We hope this episode helps you have the honest, hard conversations that can help us connect more deeply.
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Episode 104: Teach Me How To Communicate Better In My Relationship, with Therapist Liz Earnshaw
Good communication is the golden key to a healthy relationship, but like most things, it’s easier said than done. So today, we’re continuing our love month theme and throwing it back to a collection of game-changing advice from our episode on communication and conflict with licensed family and marriage therapist, Liz Earnshaw.
Liz takes us on a relationship deep dive, breaking down everything from our physiology during conflict, to identifying power dynamics and creating healthy communication strategies. And even if you’re not in a relationship, this episode can help anyone work towards becoming the securely attached communicative human we all strive to be.
Good communication is the golden key to a healthy relationship, but like most things, it’s easier said than done. So today, we’re continuing our love month theme and throwing it back to a collection of game-changing advice from our episode on communication and conflict with licensed family and marriage therapist, Liz Earnshaw.
Liz takes us on a relationship deep dive, breaking down everything from our physiology during conflict, to identifying power dynamics and creating healthy communication strategies. And even if you’re not in a relationship, this episode can help anyone work towards becoming the securely attached communicative human we all strive to be.
Tune in as we chat about:
The biggest relationship issues she sees in couples
How The Four Horsemen can harm the way we communicate
Dealing with criticism and feedback
How to heal from hurt or betrayal
The power struggles that crop up during conflict
How to set healthy boundaries with your partner
We hope this episode helps you create closer bonds and communicate effectively in conflict!
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Episode 103: Asking For A Friend: What Are Some Major Red & Green Flags In A Relationship?
A wise person once said, love is blind. But let's be real…sometimes love can be straight up oblivious! Whether you’re single and dating or in a long-term relationship, green flags and red flags always seem to come up as signs that things are either going great, could use some work, or that it’s time to GTFO.
So, today we’re tackling a question that a lot of our friends and listeners have been talking about lately — how to spot a red or green flag in a relationship, and what to do when those red flags start adding up. Pour yourself a glass of your favourite bevy (it’s a fun one!) and join us as we read, rate, and drink our way through the red and green flags you DM’d us on IG, and discuss/debate how good or bad each scenario really is.
A wise person once said, love is blind. But let's be real…sometimes love can be straight up oblivious! Whether you’re single and dating or in a long-term relationship, green flags and red flags always seem to come up as signs that things are either going great, could use some work, or that it’s time to GTFO.
So, today we’re tackling a question that a lot of our friends and listeners have been talking about lately — how to spot a red or green flag in a relationship, and what to do when those red flags start adding up. Pour yourself a glass of your favourite bevy (it’s a fun one!) and join us as we read, rate, and drink our way through the red and green flags you DM’d us on IG, and discuss/debate how good or bad each scenario really is.
Tune in to hear our thoughts on:
Staying friends with their ex
When they’re jealous AF
Bad texters
When they want to do everything together
When they’re a Mama’s boy
What constitutes good VS bad fighting
When they’re extra cheesy & write you love letters, songs and poems
Low libidos
Love bombing
And more!!
We hope this episode helps you navigate any potential red flags that come your way and helps you find the love you deserve. If you have any burning questions for us and you want to get us in the hotseat, DM or email us your Qs at contact@teachmehowtoadult.ca and we’ll dive into them in an upcoming Asking For A Friend.
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Episode 101: How To Navigate Attachment Styles And Create Secure Relationships, with psychotherapist Jessica Baum
Hello lovers and friends, we’re back just in time for Valentine’s day with an episode that might just solve all your relationship blues (even if you’re just dating you!). This week we’re digging into the four attachment styles — what they are, how they show up in relationships, and how to navigate them like a thoroughly therapized pro.
Whether you’re aware of them or not, everyone has repeated patterns and automatic responses that crop up in their love life. Sometimes those reactions aren’t healthy, but luckily for us, we can do the work to create security and stability. That’s where attachment styles come in — the four attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized) are influenced by our formative years, and they characterize how we interact and behave in relationships as adults.
Hello lovers and friends, we’re back just in time for Valentine’s day with an episode that might just solve all your relationship blues (even if you’re just dating you!). This week we’re digging into the four attachment styles — what they are, how they show up in relationships, and how to navigate them like a thoroughly therapized pro.
Whether you’re aware of them or not, everyone has repeated patterns and automatic responses that crop up in their love life. Sometimes those reactions aren’t healthy, but luckily for us, we can do the work to create security and stability. That’s where attachment styles come in — the four attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized) are influenced by our formative years, and they characterize how we interact and behave in relationships as adults.
But any attachment anxieties that crop up can be healed, and we called in Jessica Baum (who literally wrote the book on anxious attachment) to help! Jessica is a psychotherapist and couples counselor, founder of The Relationship Institute of Palm Beach, and the founder of Be Self-full®, a company that provides counseling, group coaching and courses for couples and individuals.
This is a juicy one, so join us as we discuss:
The four attachment styles and how they show up in relationships
How your childhood influences your attachment style
Ways your attachment style plays into chemistry and attraction
Strategies for self-soothing and working towards secure attachments
Self-regulating vs co-regulation with your partner
What a codependent relationship might look like
The key to supporting your partner’s attachment style
We hope this episode helps you create secure attachments and prioritize self-improvement. In case we don’t say it enough, we love you!
Take Jessica’s quiz to find out what your attachment style is!
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Episode 99: Asking for a friend: how do I date my damn self?
It’s officially the month of love (and the unofficial Miley-buy-yourself-flowers month!), so we’re kicking it off with an episode dedicated to the real love of our life – ourselves! It’s easy to get so focused on dating and romance, that we forget about the importance of self-love, and we’re ready to change that.
Whether you’re feeling lonely or single, or craving some you-time in your relationship, learning to date yourself is a practice that can literally change your life. Because the way you treat yourself will impact the love you attract and the future fulfillment you feel.
It’s officially the month of love (and the unofficial Miley-buy-yourself-flowers month!), so we’re kicking it off with an episode dedicated to the real love of our life – ourselves! It’s easy to get so focused on dating and romance, that we forget about the importance of self-love, and we’re ready to change that.
Whether you’re feeling lonely or single, or craving some you-time in your relationship, learning to date yourself is a practice that can literally change your life. Because the way you treat yourself will impact the love you attract and the future fulfillment you feel.
And this isn’t just for the singles! Learning to fulfill your own needs, take yourself out, and romanticize your day-to-day will positively affect all your relationships, and it starts with showing up for your damn self. Luckily, Gill has been on a self-love journey through singledom and solo living, and she’s here to spill the tea on everything she’s learned along the way.
So if you’re ready to enter your Miley era, join us as we chat about:
What dating yourself *actually* means
Why it’s time to stop putting your life on hold
Reclaiming your alone time and reframing loneliness
How to take yourself on a solo date
Ways to romance yourself in the day-to-day
Why you should be giving yourself your love language
The deep inner work that will increase self-compassion and self-love
We hope this episode inspires you to hold your own damn hand and start prioritizing YOU! If you have any burning questions for us and you want to get us in the hotseat, DM or email us your Qs at contact@teachmehowtoadult.ca and we’ll dive into them in an upcoming Asking For A Friend.
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Episode 88: How To Set Boundaries, with CEO and Best Selling Author, Melissa Urban
’Tis the season to set some hardcore boundaries, because they really are the key to living a less stressed, healthier, happier life.
And we got a game-changing rundown on how boundaries will change your life, with the incredible Melissa Urban, who literally wrote the book on boundaries, aptly called The Book of Boundaries. This is THE boundaries 101 crash course for anyone looking to overcome people-pleasing tendencies and improve their relationship with themselves, their family and friends, and in the workplace.
’Tis the season to set some hardcore boundaries, because they really are the key to living a less stressed, healthier, happier life. Upholding boundaries doesn’t mean you’re in your villain era… the truth about how to properly set and hold them may pleasantly surprise you, because they actually work to improve your relationships — not to restrict them.
We got a game-changing rundown on how boundaries will change your life, with the incredible Melissa Urban, who literally wrote the book on boundaries, aptly called The Book of Boundaries. This is THE boundaries 101 crash course for anyone looking to overcome people-pleasing tendencies and improve their relationship with themselves, their family and friends, and in the workplace.
Melissa Urban is a six-time New York Times bestselling author, the co-founder and CEO of the wildly popular Whole30 nutritional program, and host of the Do the Thing podcast. You may have seen her on her hugely popular social accounts or heard her on some of your favourite podcasts, from Glennon Doyle’s to The Skinny Confidential. Melissa has helped millions of people live their best lives through the work she does in the health and mental wellness spaces.
Join us as we chat about:
Melissa’s journey to helping people establish healthy boundaries
Signs that it’s time to set a boundary with someone
How to *actually* set a boundary
Why boundaries improve your relationships
Melissa’s green, yellow, red framework
How to stop breaking your own self-boundaries
Bracing for pushback from others
Setting boundaries at work to crush it without burning out
Ways to set boundaries this holiday season
We hope this episode motivates you to set some boundaries in your life, so you can take back your time, mental health, energy and relationships!
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Episode 83: How to Move In With Your Partner (Without Losing Your Mind)
Moving in with your significant other sounds like a dream… that is until they start loading the dishwasher all wrong. Taking the leap and living together is a make-or-break step in any relationship but there are ways to set yourself up for success and today we’re giving you the cheat sheet!
Moving in with your significant other sounds like a dream… that is until they start loading the dishwasher all wrong. Taking the leap and living together is a make-or-break step in any relationship but there are ways to set yourself up for success and today we’re giving you the cheat sheet!
From how to start the conversation about your boundaries (and finances!) to tips on keeping the spark alive, this week’s quickie has everything you need to know before you move in with your partner and tips for making the transition as smooth as possible.
Tune in as we chat about:
Creating goals for your relationship
How to protect yourself and the legal agreements you might need
An easy guide to tackling finances
Why communication and setting boundaries are key
How to make your design styles mesh
Respecting routines and making new ones
The positive side of healthy conflict
How to keep your sex life alive
Prioritizing YOU time
We hope this episode helps you decide if you’re ready to move in with your partner and makes the transition a little smoother. Good luck to all the love birds ready to make their nest together, you got this!
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Episode 79: How To be More Honest
The one where Cailyn and Gill get realll honest about honesty… and it’s a juicy, therapeutic and vulnerable ride. Because let’s be honest: It isn’t always easy to tell the truth — to ourselves or to others.
Whether you’re struggling to have honest conversations, to admit the truth (to yourself or others), or you tend to hide things that are uncomfortable, it’s true what they say: The truth will set you free, and allow you to live your life unapologetically.
The one where Cailyn and Gill get realll honest about honesty… and it’s a juicy, therapeutic and vulnerable ride. Because let’s be honest: It isn’t always easy to tell the truth — to ourselves or to others.
Whether you’re struggling to have honest conversations, to admit the truth (to yourself or others), or you tend to hide things that are uncomfortable, it’s true what they say: The truth will set you free, and allow you to live your life unapologetically.
This week we’re diving into our own journeys with honesty, how fear and shame can hold us back, how figuring out who you really are will help you live more honestly, and when it might be okay to tell a little fib. Buckle up, because we’re going deep.
Tune in as we chat about:
Different kinds of lies and the toll they take on our health
The motivations behind being dishonest
How being honest with ourselves is the first step
Owning who you are and what you really want
How shame and fear influence honesty
Accepting that you won’t have the answer to everything
The freeing benefits of radical honesty
When it’s appropriate to tell a white lie
We hope this episode helps you get real with yourself, who you are and how you feel, for a freer, more connected life!
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Episode 61: We Turned Two! Our Biggest Life Lessons Learned
If you’re fresh out of a breakup and are feeling alllll of the feels, this one's for you. Navigating a breakup is never easy, but you’re far from alone. A study last year showed 25% of Canadians between the ages of 18-24 split up during the pandemic, and 5 million Canadians have experienced a recent breakup.
Experts say it can take 6-8 weeks to get over the initial intensity of heartbreak, but with a lack of access during lockdowns to the normal stuff we do to get over our exes, and an ongoing mental health crisis, the “getting over it” part has been hard lately. That leaves us with the inner work we have to do: Finding out who we are again, rewriting our narratives, filling that void, and loving ourselves first.
We called in breakup expert Lindsey Ellison to help us fall in love with our life again and manifest the dream partner that we deserve. Because when you can feel happy on your own, you're raising the bar for the next partner you bring into your life.
It’s Teach Me How To Adult’s two year anniversary and to celebrate, we’re switching things up a little! We have learned, and changed, so much since starting this podcast so this week we’re reminiscing and reflecting on some of the best advice from the experts we’ve interviewed.
From managing money and navigating friendships to improving our wellbeing and learning to love ourselves, this week’s quickie is an essential rundown of the lessons that have truly changed our lives.
Listen to our chat to learn more about:
Our quick takeaways on investing, negotiation and working out
The importance of friendships throughout different stages of life
How to hack your mindset to improve your life
The transformative power of finding confidence and self-love
Thank you so much for supporting us! We’d love to know what your biggest takeaway from the podcast has been.
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Episode 60: How To Get Through A Breakup, with Relationship Coach Lindsey Ellison
If you’re fresh out of a breakup and are feeling alllll of the feels, this one's for you. Navigating a breakup is never easy, but you’re far from alone. A study last year showed 25% of Canadians between the ages of 18-24 split up during the pandemic, and 5 million Canadians have experienced a recent breakup.
Experts say it can take 6-8 weeks to get over the initial intensity of heartbreak, but with a lack of access during lockdowns to the normal stuff we do to get over our exes, and an ongoing mental health crisis, the “getting over it” part has been hard lately. That leaves us with the inner work we have to do: Finding out who we are again, rewriting our narratives, filling that void, and loving ourselves first.
We called in breakup expert Lindsey Ellison to help us fall in love with our life again and manifest the dream partner that we deserve. Because when you can feel happy on your own, you're raising the bar for the next partner you bring into your life.
If you’re fresh out of a breakup and are feeling alllll of the feels, this one's for you. Navigating a breakup is never easy, but you’re far from alone. A study last year showed 25% of Canadians between the ages of 18-24 split up during the pandemic, and 5 million Canadians have experienced a recent breakup.
Experts say it can take 6-8 weeks to get over the initial intensity of heartbreak, but with a lack of access during lockdowns to the normal stuff we do to get over our exes, and an ongoing mental health crisis, the “getting over it” part has been hard lately. That leaves us with the inner work we have to do: Finding out who we are again, rewriting our narratives, filling that void, and loving ourselves first.
We called in breakup expert Lindsey Ellison to help us fall in love with our life again and manifest the dream partner that we deserve. Because when you can feel happy on your own, you're raising the bar for the next partner you bring into your life.
Lindsey is a relationship coach who helps people navigate breakups or divorce. She’s the author of the best selling book, MAGIC Words: How to Get What You Want from a Narcissist, and host of the popular podcast, Unbreakable You: Breakup Without Being Broken.
Listen to our chat to learn more about:
Gill’s biggest advice for navigating a breakup
How to know when it’s time to leave a relationship
The best way to heal and change your mindset after a breakup
How the type of breakup you’re going through affects your recovery time/process
Tips for getting over trust issues
Managing triggers and relationship reminders
How to avoid becoming jaded or cynical about love
Building up your confidence after heartbreak
We hope this episode helps you get through the tough moments, and inspires you to start putting your needs first.
Follow Lindsey:
lindseyellison.com
@lindsey_ellison
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Episode 59: Teach Me How To Level Up My Love Life With The Five Love Languages
Love week is right around the corner so we’re throwing it back to this gem from 2021 where we dive into the five Love Languages, what they mean, and tips for dating each type.
ICYMI, The Five Love Languages was written by marriage counselor, Dr. Gary Chapman, and has sold over twelve million copies worldwide! We’re not kidding when we say it’s been a game changer for people all over the world…it’s literally been on the New York Times best-sellers list since 2007!
Dr. Chapman noticed that couples often came to him with the same concern: “I feel like my partner doesn’t love me.” Starting to recognize a pattern, he discovered that there were five categories on how people could give their partner the love they need: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service and Physical Touch.
Love week is right around the corner so we’re throwing it back to this gem from 2021 where we dive into the five Love Languages, what they mean, and tips for dating each type.
ICYMI, The Five Love Languages was written by marriage counsellor, Dr. Gary Chapman, and has sold over twelve million copies worldwide! We’re not kidding when we say it’s been a game changer for people all over the world…it’s literally been on the New York Times best-sellers list since 2007!
Dr. Chapman noticed that couples often came to him with the same concern: “I feel like my partner doesn’t love me.” Starting to recognize a pattern, he discovered that there were five categories on how people could give their partner the love they need: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service and Physical Touch.
And these don’t only apply to romantic relationships. You can also practise self-care for yourself using the 5 love languages, and use them to form stronger relationships with your friends, family and coworkers!
Listen to our chat to learn more about:
How to practice self-care using the 5 love languages
The importance ‘Words of Affirmation’ play in making you feel understood
How to spend ‘Quality Time’ together when you see each other 24/7 or are in a LDR
Why ‘Receiving Gifts’ isn’t as superficial as it soundsHow ‘Acts of Service’ can make your partner’s day
Why ‘Physical Touch’ is more than just sexy time
Two easy ways to find yours and your partner’s love language
Cailyn’s top love languages and how learning them made her relationship thrive
Gill’s top love languages and how they can change throughout her life
We hope this episode helps you tap into your love language for you and the people you love!
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Episode 52: How To Spice Up Your Sex Life
Let’s talk about sex, baby! If you, like us, believe the sex-ed we got in school was a total joke… this one’s for you. We’re talking communication, sexting, pleasure, technique, toys, kinks, and yes… butt stuff.
We grew up in a time when there was so much shame surrounding sex, especially around female pleasure, and that still affects the way a lot of us navigate our own sexuality. But the best way to counter that, is to normalize and talk about it. Because one of the key cornerstones of a solid relationship is great sex, and for those who aren’t in relationships, a huge part of figuring out who you are and what you like is exploring sex.
Let’s talk about sex, baby! If you, like us, believe the sex-ed we got in school was a total joke… this one’s for you. We’re talking communication, sexting, pleasure, technique, toys, kinks, and yes… butt stuff.
We grew up in a time when there was so much shame surrounding sex, especially around female pleasure, and that still affects the way a lot of us navigate our own sexuality. But the best way to counter that, is to normalize and talk about it. Because one of the key cornerstones of a solid relationship is great sex, and for those who aren’t in relationships, a huge part of figuring out who you are and what you like is exploring sex.
So in our latest episode, we called in sexpert extraordinaire, Dr. Jess O’Reilly. Dr. Jess is a sexologist (PhD), relationship expert, best-selling author and TV personality. She has worked with thousands of couples around the world to transform their sexual relationships, and she’s the host of the hit reality series Swing, and hosts Intimately You on CityTV.
Join us as we discuss:
How much sex, conversations in the bedroom, sexting, and toy play YOU guys are having
Navigating different libidos and desire levels
Sexual compatibility and bridging the gap between different erotic preferences
Asking for what you *really* want in the bedroom and giving (constructive!) feedback
Overcoming shame and insecurity so you can be a more open-minded lover
Hot tips for getting confident with dirty talk and sexting
Taking your pleasure to the next level with different penetrative techniques
Dr. Jess’s top ways to reconnect and turn up the heat for relationships that are stuck in a sex rut
The best sex toys to try right now
How to prep for and work up to butt play
We hope this episode inspires you to spice things up in the bedroom and tap into your sexuality a little more, because you deserve alll the pleasure.
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Episode 49: How To Navigate Friendships As An Adult
We can find support for nearly every aspect of our lives these days, from our careers to our mental health. But when it comes to friendships, there's virtually nothing out there to help us maintain and strengthen our relationships with some of the most important people in our lives.
As two besties and business partners, Gillian & Cailyn know all too well the impact that having strong friendships can have on your life. So we called in friendship coach and expert Danielle Bayard Jackson to help us level up our friendships and show up as supportive BFFs.
We can find support for nearly every aspect of our lives these days, from our careers to our mental health. But when it comes to friendships, there's virtually nothing out there to help us maintain and strengthen our relationships with some of the most important people in our lives.
As two besties and business partners, Gillian & Cailyn know all too well the impact that having strong friendships can have on your life. So we called in friendship coach and expert Danielle Bayard Jackson to help us level up our friendships and show up as supportive BFFs.
TBH, after the past year and a half of social distancing, this is the episode you didn't know you needed to help you feel more connected with your #girlgang.
Danielle is a certified friendship coach and national speaker dedicated to teaching women how to create and maintain meaningful friendships through her company, Friend Forward. She’s also the host of the Friend Forward podcast, and she dishes out amazing advice and hilarious videos on IG and TikTok, so be sure to follow her for allll the game-changing friend advice!
Join us as we chat about:
Our biggest friendship lessons and realizations
How to address conflicts in a healthy way
Maintaining your friendships when you’re in different life stages
How to get better at taking and receiving criticism
Clear signs that it might be time to end a friendship and how to do it
Tips for setting boundaries when you can’t spend as much time together
How we can show up as better friends for the people we love
We hope this episode inspires you to build a stronger relationship with your friends or help you take the steps to let go of the ones that are no longer serving you.
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Episode 47: How To Manage Money In Your Relationship
From discussing salaries and the cost of homes, to splitting the bill and vacation-planning, it’s NEVER easy to talk about money. But it’s super important to get comfortable doing it—in a 2018 Fidelity Couples & Money survey, 46% of couples admitted that money was the biggest challenge in their relationship.
The key is figuring out how you want to structure your finances *together*, so you can contribute and save towards important goals, and still have your own financial independence—which we’re all about!
From discussing salaries and the cost of homes, to splitting the bill and vacation-planning, it’s NEVER easy to talk about money. But it’s super important to get comfortable doing it—in a 2018 Fidelity Couples & Money survey, 46% of couples admitted that money was the biggest challenge in their relationship.
The key is figuring out how you want to structure your finances *together*, so you can contribute and save towards important goals, and still have your own financial independence—which we’re all about!
So we called in Alyssa Davies, the mastermind behind award-winning Canadian personal finance website and YouTube channel, Mixed Up Money, where she dishes out financial content for women who care about their money.
Alyssa published Her first book, The 100 Day Financial Goal Journal, in 2020, and launched a personal finance podcast with her husband, Learn From Us, where they make talking about money feel less awkward and more relatable by sharing their own tough lessons.
Listen in as we chat about:
How to start talking about money with your partner
Different ways to structure your accounts together
How to protect your assets if your partner moves in
How Cailyn navigated money with her husband
Alyssa’s advice for couples who have moved in together
What to do if you have different spending/saving habits
How Alyssa manages money with her husband
Key money goals couples should have
Why prenups don’t need to be a “scary” thing
Alyssa’s tools for successful budgeting with your partner
We hope this episode inspires you to have those important money chats with your partner!
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Episode 43: How To Start Dating Again
One of the many things we’re loving about life after lockdown is that LOVE IS BACK, BABY! So many people are jumping back into the dating world, but we’ve also heard from lots of single friends that they’re feeling a little apprehensive or unsure of how to get back into it all after over a year of isolation. In our recent Instagram polls about dating, 47% of you said you’re a litttttle nervous to get back into dating post-Covid, too, and lots of you have had less than ideal experiences on dating apps.
Navigating love and the dating world in 2021 ain’t easy, so we called in love and relationship coach, Lauren Zoeller, to answer all of your burning Qs, and give us the advice that everyone needs to hear, whether you’re newly single, have been on the market for a while, or are in an open relationship.
One of the many things we’re loving about life after lockdown is that LOVE IS BACK, BABY! So many people are jumping back into the dating world, but we’ve also heard from lots of single friends that they’re feeling a little apprehensive or unsure of how to get back into it all after over a year of isolation. In our recent Instagram polls about dating, 47% of you said you’re a litttttle nervous to get back into dating post-Covid, too, and lots of you have had less than ideal experiences on dating apps.
Navigating love and the dating world in 2021 ain’t easy, so we called in love and relationship coach, Lauren Zoeller, to answer all of your burning Qs, and give us the advice that everyone needs to hear, whether you’re newly single, have been on the market for a while, or are in an open relationship.
Lauren is a CTA certified Love & Relationship Coach, motivational speaker and podcast host. She helps high performing, female executives attract the dream relationship and life they crave, and she’s the creator of The Aligned Love Experience™, a coaching program that teaches women how to attract love. She’s been featured in international publications like Prevention, Shape, Business Insider, Thrive Global, Money Inc., and more. Believe us when we say love is her language!
Tune in as we chat about:
The lowdown on which apps are best for your wants and needs
How to meet someone IRL vs. on the apps
Tools for bouncing back from bad dating app experiences
The inner work we all NEED to do to show up as our best selves
3 non-negotiables you should be setting from the get-go when dating
Confidence boosters to get you feelin’ good as hell going into a date
Tips for setting boundaries early on when dating and why that’s *actually* sexy
How to deal with rejection and what to do if you’re ghosted
Good questions to ask on a first date to build connection
What you should consider if you have a “type” you only date
Red flags to look out for on apps and during a date
Lauren’s hot tip to successful dating in 2021
We hope this episode helps you get back out there, date with confidence, and pursue the love that you deserve!
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Episode 34: How to Thrive In Long Distance Relationships
These days, long distance relationships are a reality for a lot of people who have been separated by the corona, border closures, quarantines, or the usual reasons like university and work relocations. (A quarter of you who responded to our Instagram polls said you’re in a long distance relationship right now!) And tons of couples start out distanced through apps and online dating.
So we’re diving into how to navigate long distance relationships right now, from communication and bonding tips to dealing with loneliness and insecurity, with relationship expert Dr. Morgan Cutlip. And this isn’t just for romantic relationships! All the advice we share today really does apply to anyone in your life that you care about if you’re separated right now, so if you can’t see someone you love, give this a listen.
These days, long distance relationships are a reality for a lot of people who have been separated by the corona, border closures, quarantines, or the usual reasons like university and work relocations. (A quarter of you who responded to our Instagram polls said you’re in a long distance relationship right now!) And tons of couples start out distanced through apps and online dating.
So we’re diving into how to navigate long distance relationships right now, from communication and bonding tips to dealing with loneliness and insecurity, with relationship expert Dr. Morgan Cutlip. And this isn’t just for romantic relationships! All the advice we share today really does apply to anyone in your life that you care about if you’re separated right now, so if you can’t see someone you love, give this a listen.
Dr. Morgan Cutlip has a PhD in counseling psychology and holds a master’s degree in Human Development and Family Sciences. For over 13 years, she’s worked at Love Thinks, a company that creates practical relationship education resources. Morgan’s passion is helping her fellow millennials find love, happiness and longevity in their relationships—without the drama. And we are HERE FOR THAT.
Tune in to hear more about:
The importance of strong communication in distance relationships
How to meet each other’s love languages when you’re apart
How to stay connected and bonded through rituals and new experiences
Dealing with loneliness, how to ask for help, and ways to self-soothe
Navigating having needs with feeling “neediness”
What to do if your efforts don’t feel reciprocated
Why we should strive for an interdependent relationship
How to give and receive relationship feedback with friends
How to overcome insecurities and doubts when you’re living two separate lives?
Tips for online dating and practicing your relationship skills
We hope this episode helps you feel closer to anyone you are apart from right now! We’re just two cheesy romantics, but to us, love always wins.
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New York Times article on “Languishing”: https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/19/well/mind/covid-mental-health-languishing.html
Marco Polo: https://www.marcopolo.me/