Episode 230: How To Expand Your Sex life, Try Alternative Relationship Styles, And Practice Ethical Non-Monogamy, with Hayley Folk
Contrary to what we’re taught our whole lives, there’s more than one way to engage in sex, love, and relationships. But what does that look like? Today’s episode is an open and vulnerable conversation with Hayley Folk, a sex writer on a mission to create safe spaces to talk about sex and pleasure.
Contrary to what we’re taught our whole lives, there’s more than one way to engage in sex, love, and relationships. But what does that look like? Today’s episode is an open and vulnerable conversation with Hayley Folk, a sex writer on a mission to create safe spaces to talk about sex and pleasure.
It’s especially important during Pride Month to de-stigmatize sex and sexuality, eradicate judgment, and create safe communities to explore pleasure and identity. So we’re diving deep into ethical non-monogamy, kink, sexual health, boundaries, consent, dating apps, and how to communicate what you want with honesty.
I chat with Hayley Folk, a sex writer whose work has appeared in magazines like Cosmopolitan, Refinery29, Elite Daily, and more. She’s the founder of Naked Folk, a publication and podcast that covers the uncomfortable conversations we should be having about sex and relationships.
Trigger warning: After the first hour, we talk about the impact of nonconsensual sex and assault. If this is something you’d like to avoid, you can stop listening after the 1 hour mark.
Tune in to hear more about:
Ethical non-monogamy 101: Polyamory, open relationships, swinging and more
Hayley’s journey coming out as queer
Boundaries and communication for healthy non-monogamous relationships
Meeting other couples, unicorns, or open partners on apps or play parties
The “one penis policy”
Dealing with jealousy and storytelling
How to get comfortable with dirty talk
Consuming ethical porn
Demystifying BDSM and the kink community
Physical VS verbal kinks
The importance of aftercare
Navigating sexual incompatibility
Consent, respect, and sexual health education
I hope you learn something new about yourself or the spectrum of sexuality from this convo!
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https://www.instagram.com/hayley.folk/?hl=en
https://www.instagram.com/nakedfolk/?hl=en
Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
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Welcome to our first episode of “No Dumb Questions,” where we answer all of your burning questions. In honour of Valentine's Day, we’re tackling the most exciting questions of all: Sex. Because whether you’re dating, in a relationship, or very much single, we’re probably all thinking about it. (Mom stop listening!)
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You all sent in some amazing questions, so tune in for a chat about:
What to do when your partner doesn’t want to have sex
The myth of desire, and the two desire types to know
Using toys in the bedroom, and the top toy recos
Are expensive sex toys worth it?
The case for pre-planning intimacy
Should everyone try anal?
Planning a sexy role play scene
How to teach your partner about bondage
Finding a third for your threesome
Let me know if there’s anything I missed in this episode, and DM any questions you have for future episodes! There’s no dumb questions.
Happy humping!
