Episode 251: How To Know When It’s Time To Let Go, & Why Trying Less Can Lead To Success | I’m The Problem, It’s Me
Welcome back to another episode of “I’m the problem, it’s me,” where I call bullshit on myself for the things I’m getting wrong, so we can all learn from the struggle. Today’s adulting confession: I’m terrible at letting things go. I never know when to walk away and call it quits, and I try to make things work long past the point of productivity or hope
Welcome back to another episode of “I’m the problem, it’s me,” where I call bullshit on myself for the things I’m getting wrong, so we can all learn from the struggle.
Today’s adulting confession: I’m terrible at letting things go. I never know when to walk away and call it quits, and I try to make things work long past the point of productivity or hope
If you’re listening to this, you’re probably feeling a little overwhelmed or frustrated at how hard you’ve been trying in some area in your life.
This episode is your permission slip to stop trying to do something if it’s not working.
We’re taught our whole lives that “quitting is bad”, and “If you try harder you’ll do better” — but trying harder isn’t always the solution to achieving more.
Tune in as we explore a beautiful metaphor I heard at Lewis Howes’ Summit of Greatness. We dive into a story from Price Pritchett’s book, You2, on the power of redirection, pivoting, and NOT trying harder when there’s a smarter, more effective solution just around the corner.
I haven’t always known when to let go and walk away from something, but I’m setting out to change that.
If something isn’t working in your life and you’re still desperately trying — stop and reevaluate. There’s probably a better way
Read Price Prichett’s book, You2
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Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
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Episode 247: How To Hack Your Habits, Rewire Your Brain & Leverage Dopamine, with Neuroscientist Nicole Vignola
I don’t know about you, but no matter how old I get, September will always feel like that fresh back to school milestone where you get back into your routine and set new goals and habits. And today’s episode is a must-listen to help us get back on track — we called in the internet’s favourite habits and brain expert, neuroscientist Nicole Vignola.
Welcome back to the show!!! We have an incredible fall lineup planned, and I’m so glad you’re here.
I don’t know about you, but no matter how old I get, September will always feel like that fresh back to school milestone where you get back into your routine and set new goals and habits. And today’s episode is a must-listen to help us get back on track — we called in the internet’s favourite habits and brain expert, neuroscientist Nicole Vignola.
This interview is an empowering reminder that you are not stuck in your life. No matter where you’re at, you are capable of rewiring your brain and changing your life for the better. We’ve probably all said or heard, “I’m just wired this way.” But the science is in… and that’s not true. We can completely reshape and rewire our subconsciously programmed beliefs and change our thoughts, behaviours, and routines.
So today, we’re diving into·the science of breaking bad habits and how to make good ones, the principles of neuroplasticity and how to leverage it for positive change, neurohacks for changing our behavioural patterns, how to focus better and learn new skills, and how to improve our mental health by improving our brain health.
Nicole Vignola is a neuroscientist, keynote speaker, author and expert in organizational psychology who teaches people around the world about the science of human optimization, health and longevity, mental health, and peak performance.
Tune in as we learn about:
The principles of neuroplasticity
Why it feels so hard to make big changes
The anatomy of a habit, and the key to making a new habit stick
How long it takes to fully integrate new habits
Building a routine around time of day and your chemical reactions
The truth about negativity bias and positive reinforcement
Using big life changes as a catalyst
Reducing our phone usage
A genius way to break a bad habit
How dopamine impacts motivation and warps time
Boosting productivity by maximizing your mental currency
Why brain health is key for mental health
Nicole’s refreshing take on failure
Follow Nicole:
- Get her revolutionary first book, Rewire: Break The Cycle, Alter Your Thoughts and Create Lasting Change
- Follow Nicole on Instagram
- Check out her website
Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
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Episode 241: Stop Perfectionism With This Game-Changing Reframe On Success | I’m The Problem, It’s Me
I’ve always struggled with perfectionism and getting caught up in an endless cycle where no success is ever enough, I’m constantly dissatisfied with my achievements, and always in search of something I can’t grasp because I’m forever moving the benchmark of what success should be.
Today’s adulting confession: I have a toxic relationship with success.
Welcome back to another episode of “I’m the problem, it’s me,” where I call bullshit on myself for the things I’m getting wrong, so we can all learn from the struggle.
I’ve always struggled with perfectionism and getting caught up in an endless cycle where no success is ever enough, I’m constantly dissatisfied with my achievements, and always in search of something I can’t grasp because I’m forever moving the benchmark of what success should be.
I’ve learned that the antidote to this unachievable idea of success is (spoiler alert!) learning to embrace the journey, and find fulfillment in the doing.
Today’s episode dives into the game-changing reframe my amazing career coach gave me to help me redefine success and overcome my limiting beliefs. If you’re feeling stuck, this is a must-listen tool that has stopped everyone I’ve shared it with in their tracks.
Tune in to hear more about:
Perfectionism and defining your self-worth
Feeling dissatisfied with your successes
How my toxic ideas of success have held me back
The a-ha advice that reframed my idea of success
How I now define failure
Overcoming comparison and procrastination
The power of self-accountability for confidence and self-efficacy
You’ve got this!
Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
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Episode 150: The Quickie: How To Redefine Success And Find Your Own Path To Fulfillment
The summer of girlhood is thriving: Barbie broke a billion. Taylor Swift is stabilizing the economy. We’re doing all the things, and we’ve proven we can do it all. But should we actually have to? The #hustleculture girlboss era is mellowing out and honestly, we aren’t sad to see it go.
The summer of girlhood is thriving: Barbie broke a billion. Taylor Swift is stabilizing the economy. We’re doing all the things, and we’ve proven we can do it all. But should we actually have to? The #hustleculture girlboss era is mellowing out and honestly, we aren’t sad to see it go.
What was sold to us under the guise of empowerment has become just another benchmark no one can live up to, so it’s time we start redefining success for ourselves. Too often we see success as a zero sum game; we want a prolific career, a healthy balanced life, a happy family and a fulfilling social life, all while comparing ourselves against someone who seems to be doing it better, and it’s impossible to keep up.
There’s more than one way to succeed, and it doesn’t need to be the marriage-house-baby-corporate promotion-trajectory. We’re officially letting go of those tired narratives and rewriting the script on success, because these Barbies have had enough!
Join us as we chat about:
Less girlbossing, more balance
Dismantling societal definitions of success we’ve been taught
Pinpointing our values and passions
Learning to embrace our own unique journey
Celebrating nontraditional milestones and others’ successes
Redefining failure and cultivating a growth mindset
How visualization fits in
Self-auditing your life
The importance of avoiding comparison
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Episode 51: How To Get Out of A Rut
Winter is coming… and with almost two years of the pandemmy under our belts and the sun now setting before we even get a chance to see it (who is daylight savings ACTUALLY saving?), it can feel like we’re living in Groundhog Day. If you’re feeling stuck and stagnant, and running low on energy like us, you’ve come to the right place!
Winter is coming… and with almost two years of the pandemmy under our belts and the sun now setting before we even get a chance to see it (who is daylight savings ACTUALLY saving?), it can feel like we’re living in Groundhog Day. If you’re feeling stuck and stagnant, and running low on energy like us, you’ve come to the right place!
We’re done with languishing. So, in this week’s quickie, we’re talking how to break the cycle of being in a rut and bring the joy back into life – and from changing our mindset to creating moments of inspiration and spontaneity, we’ve got the expert-backed strategies to get you back on track.
Join us as we discuss:
How to know if you’re in a rut
Finding the source and identifying limiting beliefs
Getting out of your own way and taking responsibility
Checking in with your emotional bank account
Setting manageable goals that will create momentum
Finding inspiration through creativity and spontaneity
The life-changing effects of practicing gratitude
Why falling in love with change is the antidote to getting “stuck”
We hope this episode inspires you to make positive change and kick those ruts to the curb!
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Episode 50: How To Know When It’s Time To Quit
We’ve all heard the saying “quitters never win and winners never quit”…it’s a mindset instilled in us from an early age, but is it *really* true? Spoiler alert: no, it is not. Letting something go when it’s no longer right for you isn’t a weakness or a failure. Be it a job, a relationship or even a habit, making the difficult decision to quit something can be the ultimate act of self-preservation.
We’ve all heard the saying “quitters never win and winners never quit”…it’s a mindset instilled in us from an early age, but is it *really* true? Spoiler alert: no, it is not. Letting something go when it’s no longer right for you isn’t a weakness or a failure. Be it a job, a relationship or even a habit, making the difficult decision to quit something can be the ultimate act of self-preservation.
Seriously, we’re big fans of moving on from jobs or situations that don’t serve us, and quitting has led to some of our biggest successes!
We’re living through The Great Resignation right now with North Americans quitting their jobs at record high rates, and if we’ve collectively learned anything from the last two chaotic years, it’s that our BS tolerance is at an all-time low, and we deserve to start prioritizing the things that bring us joy, growth and fulfillment. #YOLO!
So, this week we’re flipping the script on quitting and redefining success for ourselves. There’s only 24-hours in a day, let’s make sure they’re filled with the stuff that matters.
Join us as we discuss:
Redefining the narrative around quitting
Why society is entering "The Great Resignation"
How to know when it's time to quit
Our biggest lessons for letting go
What quitting can mean for your career and for creating new opportunities
Choosing yourself over toxic situations
How to quit well and leave on a high note
We hope this episode helps guide your decisions, and empowers you to find success on your own terms. You got this!