Episode 145: The Quickie: How to Ask for Help When You Need It (It's Okay To Not Be Okay!)
Life can be complicated AF and everyone needs support along the way…so why is it so hard to ask for it? For most of us, the tendency to keep things bottled in and not ask for help has been reinforced over time, especially in cultures that value independence and “success”. Spoiler alert: it isn’t doing us any good. On the plus side, vulnerability and asking for help are two skills that can be learned, and class is now in session!
Life can be complicated AF and everyone needs support along the way…so why is it so hard to ask for it? For most of us, the tendency to keep things bottled in and not ask for help has been reinforced over time, especially in cultures that value independence and “success”. Spoiler alert: it isn’t doing us any good. On the plus side, vulnerability and asking for help are two skills that can be learned, and class is now in session!
Giving and receiving emotional support is essential for us to thrive, and it’s okay to not be okay! So this week we’re getting personal about our own struggles and share some helpful tips on how we can all channel our inner Brené Brown.
Join us as we chat about:
Cailyn’s struggle with feeling disconnected and overwhelmed
What holds us back from admitting when we’re not ok
Why validation is so important
Going to the right person for help
How vulnerability strengthens connections
Being direct about what you need
Why admitting that you’re not okay isn’t a burden to others
Letting your friends and family show up for you
Emphasizing validation over problem-solving
How self-acceptance can free you
We hope this episode inspires you to ask for help when you need it and show up better for the people who might need you!
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Episode 66: How To Ditch Toxic Positivity and Feel for Real, with Psychotherapist Whitney Goodman
Unpopular opinion: It’s NOT always healthy to find the silver lining in everything. Some things just suck, and we don’t always need to look on the bright side, at the expense of *actually* processing hard feelings.
Our culture is obsessed with a “good vibes only,” and “everything happens for a reason” state of mind that makes us feel like we’re failing if we’re not happy 100% of the time. Trying to see the positive isn’t always positive, sometimes shit happens that doesn’t make us stronger, and we’re ready to break up with toxic positivity so we can fully experience our emotions AND our loved ones’ feelings. (Because nothing is worse than platitudes.)
Unpopular opinion: It’s NOT always healthy to find the silver lining in everything. Some things just suck, and we don’t always need to look on the bright side, at the expense of *actually* processing hard feelings.
Our culture is obsessed with a “good vibes only,” and “everything happens for a reason” state of mind that makes us feel like we’re failing if we’re not happy 100% of the time. Trying to see the positive isn’t always positive, sometimes shit happens that doesn’t make us stronger, and we’re ready to break up with toxic positivity so we can fully experience our emotions AND our loved ones’ feelings. (Because nothing is worse than platitudes.)
So this week we called in author and psychotherapist, Whitney Goodman, to help us ditch toxic positivity and get real with our emotions. Whitney is the author of the book Toxic Positivity, a columnist for Psychology Today and appears regularly in publications like The New York Times and Teen Vogue.
No one should have to pretend that everything’s ok when it isn’t, so if you’re looking for some validation, you’ve come to the right place!
Join us as we chat about:
The signs of toxic positivity and why it gets in the way of your healing
Finding the balance between optimism, negativity and toxic positivity
How to deal with friends and family who dismiss your struggles
The productive VS annoying way to complain
The impact of social media on toxic positivity
How to show up for others in a supportive way
We hope this episode helps you deal with your shit and feel all of your very valid feelings.
Follow Whitney:
Toxic Positivity: Keeping It Real in a World Obsessed with Being Happy
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Episode 58: Teach Me How To Be Alone But Not Lonely
Humans are social animals – we thrive off connection – and after two years of almost constant isolation and working from home, people are feeling lonelier than ever. But being alone and being lonely are two very different things, and we’re here to tell you that getting comfortable spending time on your own can be the ultimate game-changer for your health, happiness and relationships.
It’s all about reframing our idea of being alone. After all, personal time is a luxury in our busy lives, and making space to relax, reflect or get creative in solitude has amazing positive outcomes. Even if you thrive off social connection (we see you, extroverts!), finding fulfillment on your own is essential. So, this week we’re exploring how to combat loneliness and enjoy being alone!
Humans are social animals – we thrive off connection – and after two years of almost constant isolation and working from home, people are feeling lonelier than ever. But being alone and being lonely are two very different things, and we’re here to tell you that getting comfortable spending time on your own can be the ultimate game-changer for your health, happiness and relationships.
It’s all about reframing our idea of being alone. After all, personal time is a luxury in our busy lives, and making space to relax, reflect or get creative in solitude has amazing positive outcomes. Even if you thrive off social connection (we see you, extroverts!), finding fulfillment on your own is essential. So, this week we’re exploring how to combat loneliness and enjoy being alone!
Tune in as we chat about:
Why people are feeling lonelier than ever
How alone time can help you learn about yourself
The importance of finding personal hobbies
The real reason those “mental health walks” do wonders
The power of microconnections and how to make them
Ways to be part of a community
Redefining your narrative and shifting your mindset
The mental health benefits of giving back
How to increase your productivity during alone time
We hope this episode helps you feel a little less lonely and embrace the beauty of time with yourself!
