Episode 239: How To Overcome Fear, Embrace The Cringe & Become A Confident Public Speaker, with Judi Holler
Public speaking is one of the most common anxieties — surveys show up to 75% of people fear public speaking. And that’s not the only thing fear holds us back from. Fear of judgment, failure, change, coming off as “cringe”… our fear of fear keeps us from reaching our full potential. But as today’s guest Judi Holler explains, our goal shouldn’t be to be fearless. The goal is to be courageous. To be scared, and do it anyway.
Public speaking is one of the most common anxieties — surveys show up to 75% of people fear public speaking. And that’s not the only thing fear holds us back from. Fear of judgment, failure, change, coming off as “cringe”… our fear of fear keeps us from reaching our full potential. But as today’s guest Judi Holler explains, our goal shouldn’t be to be fearless. The goal is to be courageous. To be scared, and do it anyway.
It’s hard to get uncomfortable, but it’s even harder to never try.
This interview is a must-hear pep-talk for reframing our relationship with fear, caring less what other people think, and building confidence so we can show up as our fullest selves. Whether you dream of a life on stage performing or delivering keynotes, or you want to be able to present at work or make a toast at a wedding without having a panic attack, becoming a confident public speaker and saying yes to scary things will level up your life.
Judi Holler is a keynote speaker, podcaster, best-selling author, and entrepreneur. She’s built a hugely successful keynote speaking business and a top 13% podcast on iTunes, sharing the power of the CEO mindset and her powerful talks for living a courageous life without regret. Judi has been featured in Forbes and Success Magazine, she’s a Second City Conservatory alumnae, and she is the hype girl that everyone needs in their corner.
Join us as we chat about:
How to exude confidence
Overcoming the fear of judgment to embrace the cringe
Reframing your relationship with fear
How to fear our fear less
The power of vulnerability
Judi’s steps for overcoming stage fright
How to prepare for a big presentation/performance
Should we show up before we’re ready?
What we can learn from the principles of improv
Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
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Episode 237: How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Everyone
Comparison is the thief of joy, but we’ve never lived in a time of greater social comparison. We compare ourselves on every metric: our jobs, our relationships, our homes, our bodies, our social following, our vacations, our money.
Comparison is the thief of joy, but we’ve never lived in a time of greater social comparison. We compare ourselves on every metric: our jobs, our relationships, our homes, our bodies, our social following, our vacations, our money.
Summertime especially can bring up a lot of comparison. It seems like everyone on social media is having the most fun on a beautiful trip with an epic group of friends and impossibly fit bikini bodies.
It’s easy to forget that we’re looking at a highlight reel of everybody else’s lives, comparing their best curated moments to our worst. Here’s the thing… most of the time when we feel like we aren’t enough, or don’t have enough, the people we’re comparing ourselves to don’t even have a life we’d actually want.
The grass isn’t greener on the other side. The grass is greener where you water it.
Join me for some vulnerable real-talk on:
The fake side of what we see on social media
Comparing our family life, relationship status and friend groups
Why you don’t need to stop following everyone you compare yourself to
Using envy as your compass and inspiration for what you really want
Overcoming the capitalist idea of competition
How comparison leads to scarcity and lack mentality
How to rewrite the stories we tell ourselves
Recognizing what you ACTUALLY want VS what comparison tricks you into wanting
Carving out your own unique path of success
Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
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Episode 235: How To Beat Money Anxiety, Quit Toxic Budgeting, And Invest With Empowerment, with Finance Coach Nicole Stanley
What’s your relationship to money? Is it rooted in fear? Scarcity? Shame? Abundance? Generosity? It turns out, all the hot stock tips and budgeting hacks are only half of the equation… for a lot of us, the missing ingredient is improving our mindset around money.
What’s your relationship to money? Is it rooted in fear? Scarcity? Shame? Abundance? Generosity? It turns out, all the hot stock tips and budgeting hacks are only half of the equation… for a lot of us, the missing ingredient is improving our mindset around money.
Approaching your money management from a place of empowerment, compassion and self-worth can make all the difference for your financial success, and embracing that financial success can unlock new opportunities and impact in your life: After all, money is a gateway for other areas of growth in your life.
But money is still considered taboo for many, and it can come with all sorts of judgment and anxiety. So we called in Nicole Stanley, the Founder & Head Financial Coach of Arise Financial Coaching. After battling crippling financial anxiety in her early twenties, Nicole enrolled in her first personal finance course and made changes to go from 30K in debt to building over a quarter-million in net worth for her family at age 27. Arise Financial Coaching has now served over 600 clients and has been featured in TIME, Yahoo Finance, & CNET.
Today’s episode is a must-listen reframe if you struggle with financial stress and toxic money patterns. As Nicole says, the way you earn money becomes half of your life… and the way you spend money becomes the other half.
Tune in to hear more about:
Financial habits we should be starting early, no matter how much money we make
How Nicole moved her family from debt to an impressive net worth on a modest salary
Overcoming toxic frugality and financial diet culture
How to budget while still living a life you can enjoy
The energetics of money and what we believe about it
How to overcome scarcity and develop a positive, generous mindset with money
The differences between financial stress and financial anxiety
Nicole’s refreshing take on “lifestyle creep”
The Steps To Success money framework
Leveraging the power of compound interest
Resources mentioned in this episode:
How To Start Saving Money (Today!)
How To Recession-Proof Your Finances
How To Make Passive Income (And Make Your Money Work For You)
Follow Nicole:
On Instagram: @arise.financial.coaching
Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
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Episode 234: The Quickie: Are Boundaries Making Us Assholes? How To Properly Set Them (And Stop Misusing Them)
I have a hot take: Boundaries are giving a lotttt of people a permission slip to be assholes. They’re being mis-used to control, manipulate, and justify selfish behaviour.
I have a hot take: Boundaries are giving a lotttt of people a permission slip to be assholes. They’re being mis-used to control, manipulate, and justify selfish behaviour.
As therapy speak and buzzwords take over the internet and group chats, the overuse can lead to misuse, and a lot of these ideas have become convoluted and misrepresented. (Guys… not EVERYONE is a narcissist, and a disagreement doesn’t mean you were being gaslit.)
Boundaries should start with a respectful dialogue, but these days they’re being used as excuse to ghost, cancel people, always get your way, and avoid dealing with real issues. Don’t get me wrong, as a newly reformed anxious people-pleaser, learning about setting proper boundaries has legit changed my life. But bailing on friends or suddenly cutting off loved ones when you don’t get your way to “protect your peace” isn’t actually how healthy boundaries work.
Boundaries are an amazing tool to protect our wellbeing and our relationships. They should be rooted in kindness and respect, they should aim to bring us closer and build bridges, not walls. And they should always be about the actions you will take to keep yourself safe, not controlling other people or making demands.
So join me as I go offffff on:
The most common ways boundaries are being unfairly used
How power and control can masquerade as boundaries
How to *actually* set a healthy boundary
Melissa Urban’s traffic light framework for boundary-setting
Scripts for kind and gentle boundaries
How improperly using boundaries leads to avoidance
Why selective enforcement is hurtful
Resources mentioned: Listen to episode 88 with boundaries expert Melissa Urban
Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
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Episode 230: How To Expand Your Sex life, Try Alternative Relationship Styles, And Practice Ethical Non-Monogamy, with Hayley Folk
Contrary to what we’re taught our whole lives, there’s more than one way to engage in sex, love, and relationships. But what does that look like? Today’s episode is an open and vulnerable conversation with Hayley Folk, a sex writer on a mission to create safe spaces to talk about sex and pleasure.
Contrary to what we’re taught our whole lives, there’s more than one way to engage in sex, love, and relationships. But what does that look like? Today’s episode is an open and vulnerable conversation with Hayley Folk, a sex writer on a mission to create safe spaces to talk about sex and pleasure.
It’s especially important during Pride Month to de-stigmatize sex and sexuality, eradicate judgment, and create safe communities to explore pleasure and identity. So we’re diving deep into ethical non-monogamy, kink, sexual health, boundaries, consent, dating apps, and how to communicate what you want with honesty.
I chat with Hayley Folk, a sex writer whose work has appeared in magazines like Cosmopolitan, Refinery29, Elite Daily, and more. She’s the founder of Naked Folk, a publication and podcast that covers the uncomfortable conversations we should be having about sex and relationships.
Trigger warning: After the first hour, we talk about the impact of nonconsensual sex and assault. If this is something you’d like to avoid, you can stop listening after the 1 hour mark.
Tune in to hear more about:
Ethical non-monogamy 101: Polyamory, open relationships, swinging and more
Hayley’s journey coming out as queer
Boundaries and communication for healthy non-monogamous relationships
Meeting other couples, unicorns, or open partners on apps or play parties
The “one penis policy”
Dealing with jealousy and storytelling
How to get comfortable with dirty talk
Consuming ethical porn
Demystifying BDSM and the kink community
Physical VS verbal kinks
The importance of aftercare
Navigating sexual incompatibility
Consent, respect, and sexual health education
I hope you learn something new about yourself or the spectrum of sexuality from this convo!
Follow Hayley:
https://www.instagram.com/hayley.folk/?hl=en
https://www.instagram.com/nakedfolk/?hl=en
Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
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Episode 228: The Quickie: Why You Need Friends Who Are In Your Life Stage, And How To Navigate The Splinter Era
We’re in the splinter era of friendships (as coined by Tinx), where everyone’s suddenly in different life stages, on very different journeys.
We’re in the splinter era of friendships (as coined by Tinx), where everyone’s suddenly in different life stages, on very different journeys.
While one friend is planning their wedding, another is having her second baby, another is single AF traveling the world in the name of self-discovery, and others are going all in on their new business or corporate ladder climbing. It can feel isolating, confusing, and hard to relate to the people you were always in sync with.
Cue the old childhood Girl Scouts jingle: “Make new friends, but keep the old, one is silver and the other’s gold.”
It’s so valuable to have friends in different life stages who are going through different experiences, but it’s equally important to surround yourself with people who are where you are in life right now — because being the only single person in a group of married friends fucking sucks.
We tend to expect everything from one person, whether it’s a romantic partner or best friend, but we should be diversifying our needs across many people to feed different parts of ourselves. The friends we make to meet us where we are right now don’t need to be ride-or-die forever besties… there is just as much value in having friends for a season who can walk with you through the current phase you’re in.
So tune in for some real talk on friendships, where I chat about:
The repercussions of splinter era and why this is unique to our generation
The different kinds off friends you need
The value of finding our work wives, single friends, and fellow mamas
Investing in seasonal friends and deprioritizing the idea of “forever friends”
How to meet new friends that meet your needs
The Mel Robbins analogy that changed how I approach friendship
Wherever you are on your adulting journey, I hope you find good people to walk it with. You’ve got this!
Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
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Episode 226: How To Claim Your Worth, Get Paid What You Deserve, And Finally Feel Like Enough, with Leisse Wilcox
A lot of us are fighting the feeling that no matter how much we accomplish, how hard we work, and how much money we make, we’ll never be enough. These limiting beliefs and patterns can keep us playing small and downplay our worth at work. That trickles into everything, from our relationships to how much income we make.
You cannot over-perform your way to feeling enough… and if that just hit you like a bus, this episode is required listening.
A lot of us are fighting the feeling that no matter how much we accomplish, how hard we work, and how much money we make, we’ll never be enough. These limiting beliefs and patterns can keep us playing small and downplay our worth at work. That trickles into everything, from our relationships to how much income we make.
So we’re welcoming back to the show Leisse Wilcox, a performance and emotional intelligence coach who helps people align their net-worth with their self-worth. Leisse was on the podcast all the way back in 2020, in episode 21, to talk about mindset and resilience. And I’m thrilled to share our conversation today as we tackle worthiness, the wage gap, our money stories, and uncoupling our value from what we do for work.
Leisse is a keynote speaker, leadership consultant, performance coach, emotional intelligence expert and two-times best-selling author. Known as “the Marie Kondo of your Unconscious”, She helps clients and businesses turns self-sabotage into success in each of life's cornerstone areas, combining strategic consulting and therapeutic coaching tools.
Tune in as we chat about:
Breaking out of the narratives that keep us stuck in doing too much and not feeling like enough
What does “enough” feel like?
The 4 ‘P’s of self-sabotage
What we’re getting wrong about impostor syndrome
How “proving our worth” leads to burnout
Financial anxiety and how our self-worth impacts our income
Understanding your unconscious money story
Fixing our scarcity beliefs around safety and money
What does living a balanced life actually mean for over-achievers?
Follow Leisse on Instagram and check out her website.
Read Leisse’s bestselling books, To Call Myself Beloved and Alone: The Truth + Beauty of Belonging.
Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
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Episode 224: Take Control Of Your Mental Health And Wellbeing With The Life Force Pyramid From Psychiatrist Phil Stutz
It’s mental health awareness month, and it honestly feels like there’s more people than ever before struggling with anxiety, depression and mental health issues. So this week we’re diving into a helpful tool for building the foundation of your mental health, using the Life Force Method from Jonah Hill’s therapist, Stutz.
It’s mental health awareness month, and it honestly feels like there’s more people than ever before struggling with anxiety, depression and mental health issues. So this week we’re diving into a helpful tool for building the foundation of your mental health, using the Life Force Method from Jonah Hill’s therapist, Stutz.
The method builds on the three levels that are key for our emotional wellbeing: our relationship with our body, relationships with others, and our relationship with self. This simple pyramid can be a real game-changing check-in when you feel your mental wellness start to slip.
Tune in to hear more about:
My personal experiences managing my mental health, and the pillars I use
Stutz’s Life Force Method Pyramid
Taking care of your physical health and body
How exercise can help you transform emotions
Nurturing supportive relationships for better mental health
Why you should cut out toxic people
Tools to cultivate a better relationship with yourself
Setting goals and finding purpose
Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
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PS: If you’ve been dreaming of pivoting into podcasting but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast.
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Episode 222: How To Embrace Change And Tolerate Uncertainty
Change is one of the only constants in life, but a lot of people are really adverse to it. TBH, I actually thrive in change and chaos, I’m always seeking newness, so this week I’m sharing how I overcome fear of change to approach it with a growth mindset.
Change is one of the only constants in life, but a lot of people are really adverse to it. TBH, I actually thrive in change and chaos, I’m always seeking newness, so this week I’m sharing how I overcome fear of change to approach it with a growth mindset.
Tim Ferris says “People would rather be unhappy than uncertain.” Change is hard because it comes with a loss of control, and it often means letting go of how things are to embrace something new. But what is the safety and comfort of remaining the same costing you?
And how do we get better at such an important, but uncomfortable, life skill?
Tune in as I chat about:
The change we choose VS change that happens to us
The grief that can come with change
Why I struggle with changing relationships
Adopting a growth mindset
Questions to ask that will make change easier
Building resilience and tracking your wins
How practicing impermanence can help
Working on your inner stability to deal with unstable environments
If you’re toying with changes in your life right now, just remember that people often regret what they didn’t do more than what they did. You got this.
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Episode 220: How To Deal With A Layoff, And Knowing When It’s Time To Quit A Toxic Workplace
WTF happened to job security? A new round of tech and media layoffs are announced every week (looking at you, Tesla and Microsoft) and booming industries go bust faster than Tswift tickets sell out.
WTF happened to job security? A new round of tech and media layoffs are announced every week (looking at you, Tesla and Microsoft) and booming industries go bust faster than Tswift tickets sell out.
But on the flip side, with layoffs becoming the new norm, we’re starting to detach our worth and loyalty from a corporate job. Gone are the days when quitting a job and jumping between companies was frowned upon: We’re not down with toxic work environments and underpaid gigs.
So how do you prepare for the ending of a job, whether by choice or by layoff?
Join Carolyn and I as we chat about:
Caro and Gill’s layoff experiences
Reviewing your severance and why it’s worth consulting a lawyer
Things you can negotiate in your contract up-front
What to do right after you’ve been laid off
The power of vulnerability (and why everyone is sharing on social media)
Finding empowerment and detaching your worth from a job
Signs your workplace is toxic
How to know when to quit your job
Advocating for yourself before you quit
PS: If you’ve been toying with the idea of launching a podcast but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast!
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Episode 218: How To Work While Traveling The World (And Hacks To Do It On A Budget)
If you’ve dreamt of travelling the world while you work and living that #DigitalNomad life, it’s time to stop dreaming and start planning, because it’s more possible than you might think.
If you’ve dreamt of travelling the world while you work and living that #DigitalNomad life, it’s time to stop dreaming and start planning, because it’s more possible than you might think. For remote WFH employees, freelancers and entrepreneurs, our ability to work from just about anywhere is wildly underused. There’s a whole world out there that we can enjoy between meetings, with better views than our kitchen table.
So shoot your workcation shot and tune into this updated throwback episode with Gill and Cailyn on all the tips and planning hacks to kill it in your career while travelling to epic places.
Prepare for takeoff as we chat about:
Why workcations can work for corporate employees
How to choose your travel destinations
Navigating working in different timezones
Budgeting tips for your time working abroad
Setting expectations at work and communicating with managers/clients
The logistics of planning a trip around your work schedule
How to make the most of balancing work and travel
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Episode 216: How To Navigate The Changing Corporate World, Communicating Better At Work, Building Side Hustles And The Power Of Generalists
Corporate culture is changing faster than ever before. We have quiet quitting and AI, mass layoffs and Gen-Z disruptors, side hustles and WFH warriors. How do you stand out, and how do we even figure out what we want from our careers?
Corporate culture is changing faster than ever before. We have quiet quitting and AI, mass layoffs and Gen-Z disruptors, side hustles and WFH warriors. How do you stand out, and how do we even figure out what we want from our careers?
I'm joined today by TMHTA team member Carolyn Schissler for a roundtable on our experiences, successes, and failures in the workplace, the state of work, and how we can make it work for us.
Tune in as we chat about:
The keys to corporate success, from getting hired to standing out
Being authentic and true to yourself VS assimilating into corporate culture
Being a generalist VS a specialist
Dealing with shitty bosses and brutal coworkers
The power of honest communication at work
The case for side hustles
The realities of working from home
Are work besties real friendships? What about office romances?
Networking on LinkedIn
PS: If you’ve been toying with the idea of launching a podcast but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast!
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Episode 214: How To Find Love That Feels Safe, Build Confidence, Manage Mental Health And Discover Who You Really Are, with Hannah Brown
For all the Bachelorette fans tuning in, today is a must-listen, as I got to dive deep on allllll of the things with Bachelorette alum Hannah Brown.
For all the Bachelorette fans tuning in, today is a must-listen, as I got to dive deep on allllll of the things with Bachelorette alum Hannah Brown.
We talk relationships, therapy, cheating, mental health, insecurities, success, and how to really define ourselves when the world tries to put us in boxes... because whether you’re a TV star or an everyday muggle, we’re all trying to figure how who we are outside of the expectations and conditioning that have been placed on us.
Hannah has been through some insane life experiences… it’s clear that she’s really doing the work to overcome it all and to show up as her best self, and I’m grateful she could share some of that work with us today.
Hannah is a Television Personality, Podcast Host, and NYT Bestselling Author of her memoir, God Bless This Mess. After winning Miss Alabama USA 2018, she was a fan favourite on The Bachelor and then The Bachelorette, she won Dancing With The Stars, and she crushed it on the FOX show Special Forces. She hosts a self-improvement podcast called Better Tomorrow, and she shares her authenticity and vulnerability with her millions of followers on social media. And now, she’s releasing her debut romance novel “Mistakes We Never Made” this May.
Tune in as we chat about:
Hannah's engagement and what makes her feel safe in relationships
The case for couples therapy before there’s issues
Navigating cheating and betrayal
Rewiring our tendencies and changing our patterns
Building confidence and self-esteem
Dealing with depression and anxiety while in the public eye and on The Bachelorette
The tools that help Hannah with her mental health
Defying labels, the need for validation and figuring out who we really are
Overcoming fears and anxieties in her career
Finding joy and getting back to what makes us happy
Follow Hannah on Instagram and TikTok
Get Hannah's new book, Mistakes We Never Made.
PS: If you’ve been toying with the idea of launching a podcast but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast!
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Episode 212: Forgiving Ourselves For The Past And Compassionately Accepting All The Versions We've Been | I’m The Problem It’s Me
Welcome back to my new series “I’m the problem, it’s me,” where I call bullshit on myself for the self-sabotage and mistakes I keep on making, because that’s the stuff that teaches us the most.
Welcome back to my new series “I’m the problem, it’s me,” where I call bullshit on myself for the self-sabotage and mistakes I keep on making, because that’s the stuff that teaches us the most.
Today is a vulnerable one. Remember that recent “show me you at 21” trend that circulated on social media? Well that deep-dive through old photo albums and Facebook timelines sent me into a certifiable spiral. Reflecting on who I was in my teens and early 20s, I was confronted with a tidal wave of self hate over how I looked and dressed, how much I drank, how obnoxiously and overly-sexualized I present myself, and how disconnected I seemed to be from who I really am.
The judgment and shame towards my past self was overwhelming, until I realized that my current self is in fact the problem. It’s easy to be critical in hindsight, but when we were young, we were almost always doing the best we could with what we knew.
I’ve spent a good chunk of adulthood resenting the versions of myself that came before this one. So it’s me, Gill, I’m the problem, it's me. And in today’s episode I’m rewriting my relationship with my past, and choosing compassion.
Join me as I dive into:
Why looking into my past brought up so much shame
How accepting our past selves can lead to more confidence and compassion
Aiming for neutrality and acceptance VS unconditional self-love
The power of inner child work
The tools I’m using to build self-compassion and change my self-talk
Why you should write letters to your past self
Learning from the versions of ourselves that we’ve outgrown
Why growth and change can go hand-in-hand with grief
I hope we can all learn to love the past eras that brought us to this one, and in the meantime, know that I love you.
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Episode 211: How To Live Sustainably And Make Eco-Friendly Changes That Actually Make A Difference, with Julia Grieve | Earth Month Throwback
It’s earth month, and every April we find ourselves reevaluating our consumption habits and examining how we can lower our carbon footprint. But TBH, it feels hella stressful.
It’s earth month, and every April we find ourselves reevaluating our consumption habits and examining how we can lower our carbon footprint. But TBH, it feels hella stressful.
It's overwhelming trying to track alllll the things we're “supposed” to be doing. Between buying sustainable food, conserving water, shopping secondhand, swapping to eco-friendly appliances and tech, composting, and reducing waste, the list feels never-ending, and it feels like we're just not doing enough.
So we're throwing it back to an honest and tactical episode that changed our perspective on sustainable living, with the accidental environmentalist herself, Jules Grieve. Because it's easy to let perfect become the enemy of good, and being environmentally conscious is about finding realistic swaps that actually work with your lifestyle. Going green is a game of progress over perfection.
Julia is a TV personality, entrepreneur, fashion designer, former international model, and founder of the incredible Preloved, North America’s leading sustainable fashion brand that has diverted over a million sweaters from landfills.
She’s CityLine’s eco expert and regularly appears on Global News and in Canada’s biggest media outlets. Her mission is to show people how simple changes, over time, can have a huge impact, and she’s showing the world how we can take an eco-friendly approach to home design, health, food, fashion and lifestyle.
Tune in as we chat about:
How Julia became the “accidental environmentalist” and started her brand, Preloved
Julia’s top sustainable swaps that anyone can make
Tips for cutting out plastic and reducing your waste
Working towards a circular economy
Ways to repair, upcycle, and thrift to extend the lifecycle of our things
Hacks for cutting down on food waste, and the truth about recycling
Why we should be mindful of our water consumption
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Episode 210: What's the Worst That Can Happen? A Tool To Stop Catastrophizing And Get Unstuck
If an endless supply of “what ifs” are keeping you stuck in fear and inaction every time you need to make a decision or move forward, this tool could be a game-changer for you.
If an endless supply of “what ifs” are keeping you stuck in fear and inaction every time you need to make a decision or move forward, this tool could be a game-changer for you.
In today’s episode, we’re diving into the valuable advice my career coach shared last year to help stop catastrophic thinking and get to the root of what’s actually causing you worry or paralysis. Because the answer to “what’s the worst that could happen?” usually isn’t as bad as we make it out to be, and even the worst case scenarios are almost always figureoutable.
Whether you’re stuck in business decisions, dating, networking, trip-planning or big life changes, keep digging one layer deeper until you find out what’s at the core of your worries, and if that’s something you could handle.
Tune in to hear more about:
How catastrophic thinking can hold us back
What was keeping me stuck in inaction
The simple tool my career coach used to change my mindset
Examining the root of your discomfort
Weighing out the worst-case scenarios
How this way of thinking helped me invest in real estate
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Episode 208: How To Build Healthy Routines, Hack Productivity & Achieve Balance, with Arrae founder Siff Haider
A big focus in my life this past year has been improving my health and creating habits and routines that are better for me. But I still really struggle with creating structure and efficient routines around productivity. Thankfully, today’s guest Siff Haider is well-versed in both. As an entrepreneur in the wellness space, Siff has developed an impressive balance across her work life and health habits, and in today’s episode, she reveals the tips and strategies that she used to improve her health and build a wildly successful business.
A big focus in my life this past year has been improving my health and creating habits and routines that are better for me. But I still really struggle with creating structure and efficient routines around productivity. Thankfully, today’s guest Siff Haider is well-versed in both. As an entrepreneur in the wellness space, Siff has developed an impressive balance across her work life and health habits, and in today’s episode, she reveals the tips and strategies that she used to improve her health and build a wildly successful business.
Siff is the co-founder of popular natural supplement and wellness brand, Arrae, which offers high-quality supplements that solve targeted issues like bloating, constipation and anxiety. She’s also the host of The Dream Bigger Podcast, where she interviews guests like Tinx, Glucose Goddess, Lauryn Bosstick, Miranda Kerr, and more, about health and wellness, entrepreneurship, beauty and self-care.
Tune in as we chat about
Siff’s journey to healing her health and immune system
What fuelled her to launch Arrae
The game-changing healthy habits & changes Siff implemented
The power of a grounding morning routine
How Siff prioritizes routine and consistency
The goal-setting strategy that’s driven success
Why the delulu mindset is necessary
Visualization and vision boarding
Finding balance in the sometimes-rigid wellness world
The importance of financial empowerment for women
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Episode 206: How To Manifest Your Own Magic, Find Humanity In The Business World, And Build Your Dream Community
If you think your life isn’t full of little miracles, you might not be paying attention. The world is full of magic, if only we paused to notice it. And the more we recognize everyday magic and meet it half way, the more we receive it.
If you think your life isn’t full of little miracles, you might not be paying attention. The world is full of magic, if only we paused to notice it. And the more we recognize everyday magic and meet it half way, the more we receive it.
I’m joined today by my dear friend Sophia Bentaher, one of the most magical souls I’ve met, who has developed a potent recipe for creating community, connecting beyond the robotic tendencies of corporations and customer service protocols, and manifesting the things we want.
Sophia is a producer, talent manager to Spoken Word Artist IN-Q, a creative, a master baker, and a free spirit who has carved out her own unconventional path while living across multiple countries.
Join us as we chat about:
How Sophia calls magic into her life and manifests what she desires (from cars to romance)
Why luck has nothing to do with it
The cycle of generosity
Practicing gratitude and noticing the good
Getting present with journaling and meditation
Creating human connections in the workplace
The power of finding humanity and authenticity in every situation
Sophia’s tricks for cultivating community and friendship through curiosity
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Episode 204: How To Deal With Emotional Eating And Heal Our Hormones And Relationship With Food, with Amber Romaniuk
Our relationship with food is so complex and important for both our physical and mental health. I’ve spent a lot of my adult life trying to deprogram diet culture and deal with guilt around certain foods, reprogramming the morality we place on how we eat. And I've spent the last few years trying to figure out how to use food to make me feel physically good... how can I nourish myself, how can I optimize myself with what I consume, and how food impacts my hormone imbalances.
Our relationship with food is so complex and important for both our physical and mental health. I’ve spent a lot of my adult life trying to deprogram diet culture and deal with guilt around certain foods, reprogramming the morality we place on how we eat. And I've spent the last few years trying to figure out how to use food to make me feel physically good... how can I nourish myself, how can I optimize myself with what I consume, and how food impacts my hormone imbalances.
So today, we're diving deep with Amber Romaniuk on emotional eating, diet culture, food triggers, and the impact of hormones and cravings.
Amber is an Emotional Eating, Digestive and Hormone Expert, with 10 years experience helping women create body confidence, intuition and optimal health through mindset healing, self-care and overcoming self-sabotage with food. Her podcast “The No Sugarcoating Podcast” has over a million downloads. Amber overcame her own emotional eating journey after gaining and losing more than 1000 lbs combined, spending over $50,000 on binge foods and spending 5 years balancing her hormones, digestion. Now she helps others achieve Body Freedom so they can experience true confidence and health.
Tune in as we chat about:
Common emotional eating triggers
Tuning into the difference between physical and emotional hunger
Tools to combat emotional cravings
How food impacts our mood and energy
The effects of diet culture and what to know about intuitive eating
How hormones impact our appetite and blood sugar
Understanding thyroid levels, cortisol, and adrenal fatigue
How our cycle impacts our appetite
Amber's take on intermittent fasting and hunger cues
Tips for improving digestion
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Episode 202: How to Meet People in an Over-optimized world
Welcome to the first episode of our new series “I’m the problem, it’s me,” where I deep dive on the struggles and fuck-ups I’ve been facing lately, because let’s be honest, sometimes we’re the problem. And those experiences are usually our greatest teachers. Think of this as adulting confessions.
Welcome to the first episode of our new series “I’m the problem, it’s me,” where I deep dive on the struggles and fuck-ups I’ve been facing lately, because let’s be honest, sometimes we’re the problem. And those experiences are usually our greatest teachers. Think of this as adulting confessions.
And today, I’m calling bullshit on all of the complaining I do about how impossible it is to meet people, and how lonely I feel. Because the reality is, I’ve been optimizing myself out of human connection and removing all my chances for meeting new people in the name of efficiency.
Social connection should never be a “reward” we have to earn by being productive and efficient, so I’m on a mission to rewrite how I meet new people and interact with my current network.
Tune in as I unpack my problems, and the solutions I’m trying:
How apps and automated deliveries have replaced human interaction
The link between our social lives and healthspan
What we can learn from the blue zones
The plan to meet more like-minded friends
The concept of the “premium effect” in dating
Being strategic about where and how I meet people
Habit stacking tasks and creating community
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I’ve been hitting a ceiling with my upper limits lately — in love, business, and life decisions, limiting beliefs and self-sabotage have been showing all the way up. So I revisited this episode with Lori Harder, and it was a powerful reminder of how to get out of my own way… it felt right to throw it back to this top-performing episode today for anyone who needs to hear this.