Ep. 257: How To Overcome Fear, Self-Sabotage, And Panic Attacks To Make Quantum Leaps Towards Our Goals, with Lori Harder
I’ve been hitting a ceiling with my upper limits lately — in love, business, and life decisions, limiting beliefs and self-sabotage have been showing all the way up. So I revisited this episode with Lori Harder, and it was a powerful reminder of how to get out of my own way… it felt right to throw it back to this top-performing episode today for anyone who needs to hear this.
I’ve been hitting a ceiling with my upper limits lately — in love, business, and life decisions, limiting beliefs and self-sabotage have been showing all the way up. So I revisited this episode with Lori Harder, and it was a powerful reminder of how to get out of my own way… it felt right to throw it back to this top-performing episode today for anyone who needs to hear this.
The biggest thing that gets in our way of the success and fulfillment we desire isn’t external factors, it’s ourselves. So listen in to this masterclass on how to stop upper limiting and break up self-sabotage.
There’s no one better suited to speak to resilience and transformation than Lori Harder, who pushed herself out of her comfort zone to go from a broke, unhealthy, anxiety-ridden introvert, to a confident and abundant self-made millionaire, speaker, podcast host, fitness world champion, and cover model. Lori is a serial entrepreneur and CEO of multiple companies, including Glōci and Lite Pink. She’s a best-selling author and the host of top podcast, Earn Your Happy.
Tune in as we chat about:
What are quantum leaps, and how has Lori harnessed them for her success?
Dealing with anxiety and panic attacks
Using fear as a compass to find our purpose
Practical tips to overcome public speaking anxiety
Overcoming the fear of failure
Using resistance and challenge to create inner strength
How upper limiting is holding us back from our potential
The different disguises of self-sabotage
The power of our relationships and social circles in our success
Follow Lori on Instagram and on her website.
Listen to Lori's Podcast, Earn Your Happy.
Order Lori's book, A Tribe Called Bliss
This show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network.
PS: If you’ve been toying with the idea of launching a podcast but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast!
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Ep. 256: How To Regulate Your Nervous System And Process Trauma using Somatic Therapy, with Therapist Simone Saunders
It’s World Mental Health Day this week, and we're having lots of important conversations to increase awareness around emotional wellbeing. I called in Trauma Therapist Simone Saunders to learn more about somatic therapy, how our mental health impacts our physical health, and how trauma and distress shows up in our bodies.
It’s World Mental Health Day this week, and we're having lots of important conversations to increase awareness around emotional wellbeing. I called in Trauma Therapist Simone Saunders to learn more about somatic therapy, how our mental health impacts our physical health, and how trauma and distress shows up in our bodies.
Anxiety and mental illness can show up in so many ways physically — from getting sweaty and experiencing heart palpitations or nausea, to general posture and shoulder stiffness, gut issues, and sleep problems. More and more we're seeing physical diagnoses like chronic pain and IBS linked back to trauma and nervous system dysregulation. And it doesn't always have to be a big T trauma... we talk a lot in this interview about how repeated micro traumas can build up to have the same impact.
So if you want to take control of your mental health and expand your techniques and awareness, this episode is a must-listen.
Simone has a Master's in Clinical Social Work, with a specialization in trauma, emotional regulation, anxiety and depression. As a trauma therapist and educator she has over 800,000 followers across her Instagram and TikTok accounts, the cognitive corner, where she helps people understand the connection between the mind and body and patterns that your nervous system engages in.
Tune in to hear more about:
Signs we might struggle to regulate our emotions and nervous system, and the best tools for nervous system regulation
The typical survival responses we cycle through when triggered
Navigating familial relationships or partnerships that trigger the dysregulation loop
Unhelpful coping strategies that might make you feel worse
Cognitive bypassing: The difference between intellectualizing and feeling
How trauma manifests physically
What if you can't remember your trauma?
Somatic therapy techniques and processing stored trauma
Building a life that's healthy for your nervous system
Navigating the loneliness and isolation on our mental health journey
Follow Simone on Instagram and TikTok.
Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network.
PS: If you’ve been toying with the idea of launching a podcast but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast!
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Ep. 255: Build Your Mental Health Toolkit With 5 Expert-Backed Tips For Emotional Wellbeing
We’re heading into mental health awareness week, and these conversations are crucial as we face a global mental health crisis, with 1 in 3 people struggling with a mental health issue in North America.
We’re heading into mental health awareness week, and these conversations are crucial as we face a global mental health crisis, with 1 in 3 people struggling with a mental health issue in North America.
Almost every person I’m close with has been affected by mental health struggles, and I dealt with my own uncomfortable bout of anxiety and depression this September. During this tough month, I found myself referring back to some of the amazing tools and conversations I’ve had with guests on this podcast who shared perspective-changing insights that have changed my mindset and mental health.
These are a big part of my mental health toolkit that I draw from when I need reminders, support and tools to get me through a rough patch, and I'm glad I can share them with you today.
Tune in to hear advice from:
Mindset coach and bestselling author, Leisse Wilcox, on having agency over your response to life’s hardships, cultivating hope and optimism, and using your feelings as feedback.
Clinical psychologist, Dr. Lauren Cook, on identifying the Four Ds of Distress and when to seek help from a therapist, plus the truth about how nutritional deficiencies and gut health impact anxiety.
Psychotherapist and author, Whitney Goodman, on radically accepting your feelings and why we’ve been programmed to engage in toxic positivity.
Mindfulness expert and best-selling author, Nina Purewal, on navigating the chatty mind, dealing with stress spirals, why we’re addicted to negative thoughts, and CSI-ing the shit out of your thoughts.
If you’re struggling with your mental health, know that you’re not alone. Please find someone to talk to, and know that you are loved. I hope this mental health toolkit helps you as much as it’s helped me.
Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network.
PS: If you’ve been toying with the idea of launching a podcast but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast!
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Episode 253: Is Life Speeding You By? Slow Down Time Using Novelty (And The Case Against Routine)
Do you guys feel like time keeps passing by faster the older we get? When we’re kids, summer stretches endlessly, and in adulthood, it’s gone in the blink of an eye. Today we’re diving into the intersection of time, memories, novelty and neuroscience to figure out how we can slow down our perception of time and make more memories.
Do you guys feel like time keeps passing by faster the older we get? When we’re kids, summer stretches endlessly, and in adulthood, it’s gone in the blink of an eye.
Today we’re diving into the intersection of time, memories, novelty and neuroscience to figure out how we can slow down our perception of time and make more memories. Enter: Liz Moody’s Novelty Rule. It turns out, when we’re learning and experiencing new things, we create new neural pathways, and time feels longer/slower.
As we get older and fall into rigid routines and monotony, we’re not laying down new neural circuitry, so everything blends together and we lose track of time.
So how do we stop time from flying by? Tune in to hear about:
The neuroscience of time perception
My relationship with routine and boredom
Explaining Liz Moody’s “Novelty Rule”
Easy ways to create weekly novelty
Applying dopamine menus to memory-making
Why Shared Experiences is a key Love Language
Keeping the spark alive in relationships with novelty
Tracking and scheduling your new novelty habits
Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network.
PS: If you’ve been toying with the idea of launching a podcast but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast!
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Episode 200: How to change your mind, navigate divorce, pivot your path and date with intention
Sometimes, you have to let go of something good to let in something great. It’s easy to feel stuck in the choices we’ve made — the job we worked hard to get, the relationship we’ve invested in, the city we chose — but life is not linear, and it’s okay to change your mind.
Sometimes, you have to let go of something good to let in something great. It’s easy to feel stuck in the choices we’ve made — the job we worked hard to get, the relationship we’ve invested in, the city we chose — but life is not linear, and it’s okay to change your mind.
In today’s juicy and vulnerable episode, we’re talking about the magic that can happen when you take the courageous, abundant path, instead of following “what we’re supposed to do.” I’m joined by Alessia Scauzillo, who is the embodiment of following your intuition, embracing the unknown, and pivoting towards the life you really want.
It can feel scary to break free from the traditional path, especially when we’re urged to keep up with the societal norms of chasing high-earning corporate careers and the marriage-house-baby trajectory, but that formula isn’t a reality for many of us, and there are so many exciting ways we can choose to live when we prioritize courage over comfort.
Alessia is the founder of A Sculpt Body, an online fitness platform and community of thousands of women. Alessia left her decade-long career in the finance world to build her fitness company after falling in love with wellness. She’s hosted over 20 sold out events with over 1,000+ women at top venues across Toronto, NYC and Miami. She’s regularly featured in media brands like Breakfast Television, We Met At Acme, and Business Insider as an expert in balanced wellness, navigating divorce and relationships, and creating your entrepreneurial dreams.
Tune in as we chat about:
What Alessia learned through her divorce and the realities of 'conscious uncoupling'
How to know when it’s time to leave... a job, a relationship, a place
Dealing with fear of regret and the unknown
Tapping into your intuition and learning to trust your gut
Dating with intention and confidence
There are still good guys out there!!!
Working out for mental clarity and living with balance
The power of your community during big transitions
How grief helped fuel Alessia's biggest life decisions
PS: If you’ve been toying with the idea of launching a podcast but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast!
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Episode 193: How To Overcome Self-Sabotage, Stop Upper Limiting, and Make Quantum Leaps, with Lori Harder
How are those big new years goals going? Are you holding steady, or losing steam? As we reach the neverending finish line of January, we’re hitting the point where a lot of us will lose that momentum. You might start looking for all of the evidence of why those goals weren’t actually possible or worth it. That’s self-sabotage… and we’re not doing that shit this year, so we called in the incredible Lori Harder to teach us how to make quantum leaps towards becoming the person we want to be in 2024.
How are those big new years goals going? Are you holding steady, or losing steam? As we reach the neverending finish line of January, we’re hitting the point where a lot of us will lose that momentum. You might start looking for all of the evidence of why those goals weren’t actually possible or worth it. That’s self-sabotage… and we’re not doing that shit this year, so we called in the incredible Lori Harder to teach us how to make quantum leaps towards becoming the person we want to be in 2024.
The biggest thing that gets in our way of the success and fulfillment we desire isn’t external factors, it’s ourselves. So listen in to this masterclass on how to stop upper limiting and break up self-sabotage. I’m so ready to show up and play big. And I want that for you, no matter what that looks like.
There’s no one better suited to speak to resilience and transformation than Lori Harder, who pushed herself out of her comfort zone to go from a broke, unhealthy, anxiety-ridden introvert, to a confident and abundant self-made millionaire, speaker, podcast host, fitness world champion, and cover model. Lori is a serial entrepreneur and CEO of multiple companies, including Glōci and Lite Pink. She’s a best-selling author and the host of top podcast, Earn Your Happy.
Tune in as we chat about:
What are quantum leaps, and how has Lori harnessed them for her success?
Dealing with anxiety and panic attacks
Using fear as a compass to find our purpose
Practical tips to overcome public speaking anxiety
Overcoming the fear of failure
Using resistance and challenge to create inner strength
How upper limiting is holding us back from our potential
The different disguises of self-sabotage
The power of our relationships and social circles in our success
If you have a topic you’d like us to cover or a guest you want us to interview, comment or DM us on Instagram:
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Episode 185: How To Set Delusional Goals And Manifest Big Dreams in 2024
I'm not one for TikTok trends, but hear me out... A little bit of delulu might actually be the solulu. Your dream life happens by design, but most of us don't even create the space to dream of what we really want. And the purpose of manifesting and delusional thinking is to imagine our ideal reality, and then integrate that vision and the actions we need to take to get there into our subconscious beliefs and daily habits.
I'm not one for TikTok trends, but hear me out... A little bit of delulu might actually be the solulu. Your dream life happens by design, but most of us don't even create the space to dream of what we really want. And the purpose of manifesting and delusional thinking is to imagine our ideal reality, and then integrate that vision and the actions we need to take to get there into our subconscious beliefs and daily habits.
This year, we’re dreaming bigger than daily water intake and step counts. We’re going all in on getting out of our comfort zone and setting goals that could truly change our lives. Because if your goals aren’t making you a little uncomfortable, they’re not fucking big enough.
So join me in shooting your moonshot in 2024, and tune in to learn about:
How being a little delulu can build resilience and alter self-efficacy and self-talk
The science behind optimism and confidence in major achievements
The importance of breaking big goals down into achievable steps
Gathering evidence for your goals and building self-belief
Vision boarding and visualization exercises for dreaming big
The power of affirmations and mantras
Surrounding yourself with supportive dreamers
After you document your epic dreams for the year, I hope you can share them with people who will support you and hold you accountable. And if you don’t have those people, share them with me. I’d love to hear your sky-high goals, so slide into my DMs and we can help each other make it happen. You got this!
PS: If you’ve been toying with the idea of launching a podcast but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast!
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Episode 112: Asking For A Friend: How Do I Navigate Friendships When We’re All In Different Life Stages?
As we go through our 20s and 30s, we all start adulting in different ways and at different rates, and maintaining our ride-or-die connections can start to feel complicated. Navigating these different life stages means that our friendships sometimes end up at the bottom of the list, or we start growing in different directions and losing common ground. But every friendship goes through different seasons, and change doesn’t need to be a bad thing!
Picture this: You just turned 30. One friend just bought a home, while another is traveling the world. One is starting their own business, and one is skyrocketing up the corporate ladder. Some are getting married and having babies, and some are single AF. None of us can decide on a date to catch up, and where to go for dinner. So no one told you life was gonna be this way…
As we go through our 20s and 30s, we all start adulting in different ways and at different rates, and maintaining our ride-or-die connections can start to feel complicated. Navigating these different life stages means that our friendships sometimes end up at the bottom of the list, or we start growing in different directions and losing common ground. But every friendship goes through different seasons, and change doesn’t need to be a bad thing!
This week we’re tackling two juicy Qs: How to maintain our friendships when we’re at different life stages, and how to deal with comparison when those big milestones crop up.
Join us as we chat about:
How to stop comparing and start leading with curiosity
Getting rid of timelines and expectations for where you *should* be
Navigating feelings of isolation during a big life change
Why it’s as important to be there in the good times as it is in the bad
Celebrating your friend’s wins like they’re your own
Giving your friends the space to change and grow
Finding new ways to make memories together
How to communicate and self-regulate when your friendship dynamics shift
Bringing your people along for the journey
No matter where you’re at in life, your closest friendships are worth nurturing — they’re the family we get to choose! — and we’re choosing to fight for them.
