Episode 230: How To Expand Your Sex life, Try Alternative Relationship Styles, And Practice Ethical Non-Monogamy, with Hayley Folk
Contrary to what we’re taught our whole lives, there’s more than one way to engage in sex, love, and relationships. But what does that look like? Today’s episode is an open and vulnerable conversation with Hayley Folk, a sex writer on a mission to create safe spaces to talk about sex and pleasure.
Contrary to what we’re taught our whole lives, there’s more than one way to engage in sex, love, and relationships. But what does that look like? Today’s episode is an open and vulnerable conversation with Hayley Folk, a sex writer on a mission to create safe spaces to talk about sex and pleasure.
It’s especially important during Pride Month to de-stigmatize sex and sexuality, eradicate judgment, and create safe communities to explore pleasure and identity. So we’re diving deep into ethical non-monogamy, kink, sexual health, boundaries, consent, dating apps, and how to communicate what you want with honesty.
I chat with Hayley Folk, a sex writer whose work has appeared in magazines like Cosmopolitan, Refinery29, Elite Daily, and more. She’s the founder of Naked Folk, a publication and podcast that covers the uncomfortable conversations we should be having about sex and relationships.
Trigger warning: After the first hour, we talk about the impact of nonconsensual sex and assault. If this is something you’d like to avoid, you can stop listening after the 1 hour mark.
Tune in to hear more about:
Ethical non-monogamy 101: Polyamory, open relationships, swinging and more
Hayley’s journey coming out as queer
Boundaries and communication for healthy non-monogamous relationships
Meeting other couples, unicorns, or open partners on apps or play parties
The “one penis policy”
Dealing with jealousy and storytelling
How to get comfortable with dirty talk
Consuming ethical porn
Demystifying BDSM and the kink community
Physical VS verbal kinks
The importance of aftercare
Navigating sexual incompatibility
Consent, respect, and sexual health education
I hope you learn something new about yourself or the spectrum of sexuality from this convo!
Follow Hayley:
https://www.instagram.com/hayley.folk/?hl=en
https://www.instagram.com/nakedfolk/?hl=en
Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
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Episode 228: The Quickie: Why You Need Friends Who Are In Your Life Stage, And How To Navigate The Splinter Era
We’re in the splinter era of friendships (as coined by Tinx), where everyone’s suddenly in different life stages, on very different journeys.
We’re in the splinter era of friendships (as coined by Tinx), where everyone’s suddenly in different life stages, on very different journeys.
While one friend is planning their wedding, another is having her second baby, another is single AF traveling the world in the name of self-discovery, and others are going all in on their new business or corporate ladder climbing. It can feel isolating, confusing, and hard to relate to the people you were always in sync with.
Cue the old childhood Girl Scouts jingle: “Make new friends, but keep the old, one is silver and the other’s gold.”
It’s so valuable to have friends in different life stages who are going through different experiences, but it’s equally important to surround yourself with people who are where you are in life right now — because being the only single person in a group of married friends fucking sucks.
We tend to expect everything from one person, whether it’s a romantic partner or best friend, but we should be diversifying our needs across many people to feed different parts of ourselves. The friends we make to meet us where we are right now don’t need to be ride-or-die forever besties… there is just as much value in having friends for a season who can walk with you through the current phase you’re in.
So tune in for some real talk on friendships, where I chat about:
The repercussions of splinter era and why this is unique to our generation
The different kinds off friends you need
The value of finding our work wives, single friends, and fellow mamas
Investing in seasonal friends and deprioritizing the idea of “forever friends”
How to meet new friends that meet your needs
The Mel Robbins analogy that changed how I approach friendship
Wherever you are on your adulting journey, I hope you find good people to walk it with. You’ve got this!
Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
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Episode 226: How To Claim Your Worth, Get Paid What You Deserve, And Finally Feel Like Enough, with Leisse Wilcox
A lot of us are fighting the feeling that no matter how much we accomplish, how hard we work, and how much money we make, we’ll never be enough. These limiting beliefs and patterns can keep us playing small and downplay our worth at work. That trickles into everything, from our relationships to how much income we make.
You cannot over-perform your way to feeling enough… and if that just hit you like a bus, this episode is required listening.
A lot of us are fighting the feeling that no matter how much we accomplish, how hard we work, and how much money we make, we’ll never be enough. These limiting beliefs and patterns can keep us playing small and downplay our worth at work. That trickles into everything, from our relationships to how much income we make.
So we’re welcoming back to the show Leisse Wilcox, a performance and emotional intelligence coach who helps people align their net-worth with their self-worth. Leisse was on the podcast all the way back in 2020, in episode 21, to talk about mindset and resilience. And I’m thrilled to share our conversation today as we tackle worthiness, the wage gap, our money stories, and uncoupling our value from what we do for work.
Leisse is a keynote speaker, leadership consultant, performance coach, emotional intelligence expert and two-times best-selling author. Known as “the Marie Kondo of your Unconscious”, She helps clients and businesses turns self-sabotage into success in each of life's cornerstone areas, combining strategic consulting and therapeutic coaching tools.
Tune in as we chat about:
Breaking out of the narratives that keep us stuck in doing too much and not feeling like enough
What does “enough” feel like?
The 4 ‘P’s of self-sabotage
What we’re getting wrong about impostor syndrome
How “proving our worth” leads to burnout
Financial anxiety and how our self-worth impacts our income
Understanding your unconscious money story
Fixing our scarcity beliefs around safety and money
What does living a balanced life actually mean for over-achievers?
Follow Leisse on Instagram and check out her website.
Read Leisse’s bestselling books, To Call Myself Beloved and Alone: The Truth + Beauty of Belonging.
Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network.
PS: If you’ve been dreaming of pivoting into podcasting but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast.
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Episode 224: Take Control Of Your Mental Health And Wellbeing With The Life Force Pyramid From Psychiatrist Phil Stutz
It’s mental health awareness month, and it honestly feels like there’s more people than ever before struggling with anxiety, depression and mental health issues. So this week we’re diving into a helpful tool for building the foundation of your mental health, using the Life Force Method from Jonah Hill’s therapist, Stutz.
It’s mental health awareness month, and it honestly feels like there’s more people than ever before struggling with anxiety, depression and mental health issues. So this week we’re diving into a helpful tool for building the foundation of your mental health, using the Life Force Method from Jonah Hill’s therapist, Stutz.
The method builds on the three levels that are key for our emotional wellbeing: our relationship with our body, relationships with others, and our relationship with self. This simple pyramid can be a real game-changing check-in when you feel your mental wellness start to slip.
Tune in to hear more about:
My personal experiences managing my mental health, and the pillars I use
Stutz’s Life Force Method Pyramid
Taking care of your physical health and body
How exercise can help you transform emotions
Nurturing supportive relationships for better mental health
Why you should cut out toxic people
Tools to cultivate a better relationship with yourself
Setting goals and finding purpose
Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network.
PS: If you’ve been dreaming of pivoting into podcasting but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast.
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Episode 222: How To Embrace Change And Tolerate Uncertainty
Change is one of the only constants in life, but a lot of people are really adverse to it. TBH, I actually thrive in change and chaos, I’m always seeking newness, so this week I’m sharing how I overcome fear of change to approach it with a growth mindset.
Change is one of the only constants in life, but a lot of people are really adverse to it. TBH, I actually thrive in change and chaos, I’m always seeking newness, so this week I’m sharing how I overcome fear of change to approach it with a growth mindset.
Tim Ferris says “People would rather be unhappy than uncertain.” Change is hard because it comes with a loss of control, and it often means letting go of how things are to embrace something new. But what is the safety and comfort of remaining the same costing you?
And how do we get better at such an important, but uncomfortable, life skill?
Tune in as I chat about:
The change we choose VS change that happens to us
The grief that can come with change
Why I struggle with changing relationships
Adopting a growth mindset
Questions to ask that will make change easier
Building resilience and tracking your wins
How practicing impermanence can help
Working on your inner stability to deal with unstable environments
If you’re toying with changes in your life right now, just remember that people often regret what they didn’t do more than what they did. You got this.
PS: If you’ve been toying with the idea of launching a podcast but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast!
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Episode 193: How To Overcome Self-Sabotage, Stop Upper Limiting, and Make Quantum Leaps, with Lori Harder
How are those big new years goals going? Are you holding steady, or losing steam? As we reach the neverending finish line of January, we’re hitting the point where a lot of us will lose that momentum. You might start looking for all of the evidence of why those goals weren’t actually possible or worth it. That’s self-sabotage… and we’re not doing that shit this year, so we called in the incredible Lori Harder to teach us how to make quantum leaps towards becoming the person we want to be in 2024.
How are those big new years goals going? Are you holding steady, or losing steam? As we reach the neverending finish line of January, we’re hitting the point where a lot of us will lose that momentum. You might start looking for all of the evidence of why those goals weren’t actually possible or worth it. That’s self-sabotage… and we’re not doing that shit this year, so we called in the incredible Lori Harder to teach us how to make quantum leaps towards becoming the person we want to be in 2024.
The biggest thing that gets in our way of the success and fulfillment we desire isn’t external factors, it’s ourselves. So listen in to this masterclass on how to stop upper limiting and break up self-sabotage. I’m so ready to show up and play big. And I want that for you, no matter what that looks like.
There’s no one better suited to speak to resilience and transformation than Lori Harder, who pushed herself out of her comfort zone to go from a broke, unhealthy, anxiety-ridden introvert, to a confident and abundant self-made millionaire, speaker, podcast host, fitness world champion, and cover model. Lori is a serial entrepreneur and CEO of multiple companies, including Glōci and Lite Pink. She’s a best-selling author and the host of top podcast, Earn Your Happy.
Tune in as we chat about:
What are quantum leaps, and how has Lori harnessed them for her success?
Dealing with anxiety and panic attacks
Using fear as a compass to find our purpose
Practical tips to overcome public speaking anxiety
Overcoming the fear of failure
Using resistance and challenge to create inner strength
How upper limiting is holding us back from our potential
The different disguises of self-sabotage
The power of our relationships and social circles in our success
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Episode 81: Asking For A Friend: How Do I Move My Life Somewhere New?
Welcome back to our AMA episode series, Asking For A Friend, where we tackle your biggest questions and deep dive into our own personal experiences and expertise.
So many of us have daydreamed about moving somewhere new. And since the pandemic opened the doors to remote work and afforded us new freedoms in work and life, it's no wonder that people are considering making that leap. But whether you’re thinking of moving to a new city, a different state/province, or a whole new country, there’s a lot to consider. Luckily, Cailyn is our very own in-house expert on this, as she just uprooted from Toronto to Vancouver for a fresh start on the West coast.
Welcome back to our AMA episode series, Asking For A Friend, where we tackle your biggest questions and deep dive into our own personal experiences and expertise.
So many of us have daydreamed about moving somewhere new. And since the pandemic opened the doors to remote work and afforded us new freedoms in work and life, it's no wonder that people are considering making that leap. But whether you’re thinking of moving to a new city, a different state/province, or a whole new country, there’s a lot to consider. Luckily, Cailyn is our very own in-house expert on this, as she just uprooted from Toronto to Vancouver for a fresh start on the West coast.
From deciding where and when to go, to the emotional impacts and logistical surprises, we’re grilling Cailyn on what it’s like to move somewhere new so you have the full scoop before taking off.
Tune in as we chat about:
Deciding where you should go and if you’re *actually* ready to move
Honouring your values and hobbies wherever you go
Making sure you’re financially prepared
The logistics of moving and setting up your new life
Tips for packing and making the move easier
Emotionally preparing for a big change
Why TikTok and IG are the best travel guides
The importance of saying yes to new experiences and people
If you have any burning questions and want to get us in the hot seat, DM or email us your Qs at contact@teachmehowtoadult.ca and we’ll dive into them in an upcoming tell-all.
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Episode 80: How To Find Yourself After A Big Life Change
It’s true what they say: Change is the only constant. From parenthood to career pivots, big moves to breakups, big changes are unavoidable, but they can leave us feeling lost and totally destabilized.
So in this week’s quickie we’re diving into life’s big transitions, and how to find ourselves (maybe even a more evolved version of ourselves) on the other side. Every change is a chance to recalibrate, so let’s get comfortable with being uncomfortable, and figure out how to come back to yourself when you’re finally through the turbulence.
It’s true what they say: Change is the only constant. From parenthood to career pivots, big moves to breakups, big changes are unavoidable, but they can leave us feeling lost and totally destabilized.
So in this week’s quickie we’re diving into life’s big transitions, and how to find ourselves (maybe even a more evolved version of ourselves) on the other side. Every change is a chance to recalibrate, so let’s get comfortable with being uncomfortable, and figure out how to come back to yourself when you’re finally through the turbulence.
Tune in as we chat about:
Leveraging change into growth opportunities
Cailyn’s big transition into motherhood
Taking time to grieve your old life
How to visualize a new chapter
Creating an action plan to help you get back to yourself
Finding joy and romanticizing your life
The importance of hobbies and passions
Easy ways to shake up your life when you’re stuck
We hope this episode helps you on your journey to finding yourself again. You’ve got this.