Episode 212: Forgiving Ourselves For The Past And Compassionately Accepting All The Versions We've Been | I’m The Problem It’s Me
Welcome back to my new series “I’m the problem, it’s me,” where I call bullshit on myself for the self-sabotage and mistakes I keep on making, because that’s the stuff that teaches us the most.
Welcome back to my new series “I’m the problem, it’s me,” where I call bullshit on myself for the self-sabotage and mistakes I keep on making, because that’s the stuff that teaches us the most.
Today is a vulnerable one. Remember that recent “show me you at 21” trend that circulated on social media? Well that deep-dive through old photo albums and Facebook timelines sent me into a certifiable spiral. Reflecting on who I was in my teens and early 20s, I was confronted with a tidal wave of self hate over how I looked and dressed, how much I drank, how obnoxiously and overly-sexualized I present myself, and how disconnected I seemed to be from who I really am.
The judgment and shame towards my past self was overwhelming, until I realized that my current self is in fact the problem. It’s easy to be critical in hindsight, but when we were young, we were almost always doing the best we could with what we knew.
I’ve spent a good chunk of adulthood resenting the versions of myself that came before this one. So it’s me, Gill, I’m the problem, it's me. And in today’s episode I’m rewriting my relationship with my past, and choosing compassion.
Join me as I dive into:
Why looking into my past brought up so much shame
How accepting our past selves can lead to more confidence and compassion
Aiming for neutrality and acceptance VS unconditional self-love
The power of inner child work
The tools I’m using to build self-compassion and change my self-talk
Why you should write letters to your past self
Learning from the versions of ourselves that we’ve outgrown
Why growth and change can go hand-in-hand with grief
I hope we can all learn to love the past eras that brought us to this one, and in the meantime, know that I love you.
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Episode 211: How To Live Sustainably And Make Eco-Friendly Changes That Actually Make A Difference, with Julia Grieve | Earth Month Throwback
It’s earth month, and every April we find ourselves reevaluating our consumption habits and examining how we can lower our carbon footprint. But TBH, it feels hella stressful.
It’s earth month, and every April we find ourselves reevaluating our consumption habits and examining how we can lower our carbon footprint. But TBH, it feels hella stressful.
It's overwhelming trying to track alllll the things we're “supposed” to be doing. Between buying sustainable food, conserving water, shopping secondhand, swapping to eco-friendly appliances and tech, composting, and reducing waste, the list feels never-ending, and it feels like we're just not doing enough.
So we're throwing it back to an honest and tactical episode that changed our perspective on sustainable living, with the accidental environmentalist herself, Jules Grieve. Because it's easy to let perfect become the enemy of good, and being environmentally conscious is about finding realistic swaps that actually work with your lifestyle. Going green is a game of progress over perfection.
Julia is a TV personality, entrepreneur, fashion designer, former international model, and founder of the incredible Preloved, North America’s leading sustainable fashion brand that has diverted over a million sweaters from landfills.
She’s CityLine’s eco expert and regularly appears on Global News and in Canada’s biggest media outlets. Her mission is to show people how simple changes, over time, can have a huge impact, and she’s showing the world how we can take an eco-friendly approach to home design, health, food, fashion and lifestyle.
Tune in as we chat about:
How Julia became the “accidental environmentalist” and started her brand, Preloved
Julia’s top sustainable swaps that anyone can make
Tips for cutting out plastic and reducing your waste
Working towards a circular economy
Ways to repair, upcycle, and thrift to extend the lifecycle of our things
Hacks for cutting down on food waste, and the truth about recycling
Why we should be mindful of our water consumption
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Episode 108: Teach Me How To Plan My Dream Wedding (Without All The Stress), with Wedding Planner Rebecca Chan
Wedding season will soon be upon us, and if you’re planning to tie the knot, dreaming up a future wedding, or supporting a bride/groom in your life — this one’s for you. Whether you’re planning the event of the year, or an intimate and budget-friendly micro-celebration, every single wedding is a beautiful opportunity to celebrate love, so don’t lose sight of what’s important.
But no matter the scale or scope, weddings can be stressful, so we got the inside scoop from luxury wedding planner Rebecca Chan. Rebecca is the owner and lead planner of Rebecca Chan Weddings & Events, which specializes in planning beautiful, luxury weddings and events in Toronto and abroad. She’s been orchestrating stunning events for over a decade and is a regular Cityline guest expert. She’s even planned events for celebrities like Rupi Kaur!
Wedding season will soon be upon us, and if you’re planning to tie the knot, dreaming up a future wedding, or supporting a bride/groom in your life — this one’s for you. Whether you’re planning the event of the year, or an intimate and budget-friendly micro-celebration, every single wedding is a beautiful opportunity to celebrate love, so don’t lose sight of what’s important.
But no matter the scale or scope, weddings can be stressful, so we got the inside scoop from luxury wedding planner Rebecca Chan. Rebecca is the owner and lead planner of Rebecca Chan Weddings & Events, which specializes in planning beautiful, luxury weddings and events in Toronto and abroad. She’s been orchestrating stunning events for over a decade and is a regular Cityline guest expert. She’s even planned events for celebrities like Rupi Kaur!
So if you're ready to say "I do,” tune in as we chat about:
Planning for the wedding that YOU want
Getting clear on what matters most
The big-ticket items you need to plan for
Hidden fees you might not know about
How to navigate the guest list and avoid hurt feelings
Subtle ways to ask for cash instead of gifts
Pro tips for having the perfect timeline on the day of your wedding
When you should start dress shopping
Qs to ask when finding the perfect venue
We hope this episode helps you plan the wedding of your dreams, minus all the nerves and overspending.