Episode 230: How To Expand Your Sex life, Try Alternative Relationship Styles, And Practice Ethical Non-Monogamy, with Hayley Folk
Contrary to what we’re taught our whole lives, there’s more than one way to engage in sex, love, and relationships. But what does that look like? Today’s episode is an open and vulnerable conversation with Hayley Folk, a sex writer on a mission to create safe spaces to talk about sex and pleasure.
Contrary to what we’re taught our whole lives, there’s more than one way to engage in sex, love, and relationships. But what does that look like? Today’s episode is an open and vulnerable conversation with Hayley Folk, a sex writer on a mission to create safe spaces to talk about sex and pleasure.
It’s especially important during Pride Month to de-stigmatize sex and sexuality, eradicate judgment, and create safe communities to explore pleasure and identity. So we’re diving deep into ethical non-monogamy, kink, sexual health, boundaries, consent, dating apps, and how to communicate what you want with honesty.
I chat with Hayley Folk, a sex writer whose work has appeared in magazines like Cosmopolitan, Refinery29, Elite Daily, and more. She’s the founder of Naked Folk, a publication and podcast that covers the uncomfortable conversations we should be having about sex and relationships.
Trigger warning: After the first hour, we talk about the impact of nonconsensual sex and assault. If this is something you’d like to avoid, you can stop listening after the 1 hour mark.
Tune in to hear more about:
Ethical non-monogamy 101: Polyamory, open relationships, swinging and more
Hayley’s journey coming out as queer
Boundaries and communication for healthy non-monogamous relationships
Meeting other couples, unicorns, or open partners on apps or play parties
The “one penis policy”
Dealing with jealousy and storytelling
How to get comfortable with dirty talk
Consuming ethical porn
Demystifying BDSM and the kink community
Physical VS verbal kinks
The importance of aftercare
Navigating sexual incompatibility
Consent, respect, and sexual health education
I hope you learn something new about yourself or the spectrum of sexuality from this convo!
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Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
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Episode 198: No Dumb Questions: Should I use toys in the bedroom? Why is my partner never in the mood? What are the best sex positions? Tips for threesomes?
Welcome to our first episode of “No Dumb Questions,” where we answer all of your burning questions. In honour of Valentine's Day, we’re tackling the most exciting questions of all: Sex. Because whether you’re dating, in a relationship, or very much single, we’re probably all thinking about it. (Mom stop listening!)
Welcome to our first episode of “No Dumb Questions,” where we answer all of your burning questions. In honour of Valentine's Day, we’re tackling the most exciting questions of all: Sex. Because whether you’re dating, in a relationship, or very much single, we’re probably all thinking about it. (Mom stop listening!)
You all sent in some amazing questions, so tune in for a chat about:
What to do when your partner doesn’t want to have sex
The myth of desire, and the two desire types to know
Using toys in the bedroom, and the top toy recos
Are expensive sex toys worth it?
The case for pre-planning intimacy
Should everyone try anal?
Planning a sexy role play scene
How to teach your partner about bondage
Finding a third for your threesome
Let me know if there’s anything I missed in this episode, and DM any questions you have for future episodes! There’s no dumb questions.
Happy humping!
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Episode 125: Teach Me How To Have Difficult Conversations | Part 2, with Anna Sale, Host of Death, Sex & Money
We’re back with more of our conversation on hard conversations with the fabulous Anna Sale. This week we’re leaving our comfort zones behind and learning how to confront our mess head-on, for the good of our relationships and our sanity. From finances to family dynamics and grief, we’re getting all the tips on how to approach the most hush-hush topics and have the courage to admit when the status quo isn't good enough anymore.
We’re back with more of our conversation on hard conversations with the fabulous Anna Sale. This week we’re leaving our comfort zones behind and learning how to confront our mess head-on, for the good of our relationships and our sanity. From finances to family dynamics and grief, we’re getting all the tips on how to approach the most hush-hush topics and have the courage to admit when the status quo isn't good enough anymore.
Anna is the creator and host of WNYC studios’ wildly popular and award-winning Death, Sex, & Money podcast, where she's been doing interviews about "the things we think about a lot and need to talk about more" since 2014.
The New York Times dubbed her “a therapist at happy hour”, and we could not agree more. Anna and her guests have direct thought-provoking conversations about the topics we’re often too squeamish, polite, or nervous to bring up. She’s the author of Let’s Talk About Hard Things, where she dives into death, sex, money, family, and identity.
Join us as we dive into:
Why money feels so taboo to talk about
How to navigate financial differences with friends and family
Addressing family conflict in a constructive way
Knowing when it’s time to take a break from someone
How to support someone who is dealing with grief
We hope this episode reminds you that you can do hard things!
Listen to part 1 of our conversation with Anna here!
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Episode 123: Teach Me How To Have Difficult Conversations | Part 1, with Anna Sale, Host of Death, Sex & Money
Calling all our non-confrontational queens, this one’s for you! If you’ve ever avoided or put off a difficult conversation (you know the one), you’re not alone. We all struggle with confronting tough issues head-on in fear of being judged, shamed or rejected for expressing how we feel. But here's the thing – shying away from the hard, messy stuff means that we're leaving key parts of ourselves out of our most important relationships. So, it's time to learn how to navigate tough talks with confidence and grace!
Calling all our non-confrontational queens, this one’s for you! If you’ve ever avoided or put off a difficult conversation (you know the one), you’re not alone. We all struggle with confronting tough issues head-on in fear of being judged, shamed or rejected for expressing how we feel. But here's the thing – shying away from the hard, messy stuff means that we're leaving key parts of ourselves out of our most important relationships. So, it's time to learn how to navigate tough talks with confidence and grace!
Thankfully we called in someone who has literally written the book on hard conversations, Anna Sale. Anna is the creator and host of WNYC studios’ wildly popular and award-winning Death, Sex, & Money podcast, where she's been doing interviews about "the things we think about a lot and need to talk about more" since 2014.
The New York Times dubbed her “a therapist at happy hour”, and we could not agree more. Anna and her guests have direct thought-provoking conversations about the topics we’re often too squeamish, polite, or nervous to bring up. She’s the author of Let’s Talk About Hard Things, where she dives into death, sex, money, family, and identity.
Join us for a deep convo about:
Why tough conversations are so necessary
What really holds us back from talking about difficult or taboo topics
The anatomy of a productive, hard conversation (and how to prepare for it)
Why good conversations don’t always lead to tidy resolutions
Why hard conversations with family can be so much more difficult
Advice for avoidant and anxious people to get better at direct communication
Anna’s take on radical honesty and the use of fibbing in relationships
How to “pick your battles” and decide when a big discussion is warranted
Be sure to tune in next week for part 2 of our chat!
We hope this episode helps you have the honest, hard conversations that can help us connect more deeply.
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Episode 64: How To Own Your Orgasms And Pleasure
Friends, this week’s episode is a juicyyy one! We sat down with sex coach and educator Portia Brown to chat all things orgasms and how to take control of your own pleasure. Because there’s an embarrassing amount we don’t know about our own sexual physiology, and we’re SO ready to take self-care to the next level by creating a pleasure practice that helps us tune into our body and mind.
Friends, this week’s episode is a juicyyy one! We sat down with sex coach and educator Portia Brown to chat all things orgasms and how to take control of your own pleasure. Because there’s an embarrassing amount we don’t know about our own sexual physiology, and we’re SO ready to take self-care to the next level by creating a pleasure practice that helps us tune into our body and mind.
This is such an inspiring conversation that is guaranteed to help you take control of your orgasms and incorporate pleasure (in its many forms, as we learned) into your daily routine.
Because you deserve alllllll the O’s, and they don’t have to be elusive.
Portia is the founder of Froetic Sexology, a website, social media platform and coaching practice that helps women find their power through pleasure. Her expansive sex coaching methods help women tap into mindfulness and ritual to help them reconnect with themselves. She’s been featured in Cosmopolitan Magazine, Glamour UK, and podcasts such as “Doing It” with Hannah Witton, and “Am I Making You Uncomfortable” from Huffington Post.
Join us as we chat about:
How to create your own pleasure practise
The different ways to achieve your big O
Tips for orgasming with a partner
Breaking through your own mental/physical barriers
How breathwork can enhance pleasure
How orgasms *actually* feel
Fun ways to initiate sex
Gaining confidence in the bedroom
We hope this episode inspires you to maximize your pleasure and prioritize YOU.
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Episode 62: How To Have More Energy
Let’s face it… life is exhausting, but that doesn’t stop the sun from rising every morning so it’s time we figured out how to hack the system and stay energized!
This week’s quickie is all about fighting fatigue and finding more energy so we can get sh*t done. So get caffeinated because we’re covering everything from the basics we’ve been known to ignore (has anyone ever slept for 8 hours?) to new tricks backed by the pros (hot tip: have more sex).
Let’s face it… life is exhausting, but that doesn’t stop the sun from rising every morning so it’s time we figured out how to hack the system and stay energized!
This week’s quickie is all about fighting fatigue and finding more energy so we can get sh*t done. So get caffeinated because we’re covering everything from the basics we’ve been known to ignore (has anyone ever slept for 8 hours?) to new tricks backed by the pros (hot tip: have more sex).
Join us as we chat about:
Why hydration is key
Using sunlight to our advantage
The surprising effect of spending time in nature
Micro-exercises and how they can help us
The impact of surrounding yourself with good energy
How sex effects our mental wellbeing
The perks of microdosing caffeine
We hope this episode helps boost your energy so you can do allll of the things!
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Episode 52: How To Spice Up Your Sex Life
Let’s talk about sex, baby! If you, like us, believe the sex-ed we got in school was a total joke… this one’s for you. We’re talking communication, sexting, pleasure, technique, toys, kinks, and yes… butt stuff.
We grew up in a time when there was so much shame surrounding sex, especially around female pleasure, and that still affects the way a lot of us navigate our own sexuality. But the best way to counter that, is to normalize and talk about it. Because one of the key cornerstones of a solid relationship is great sex, and for those who aren’t in relationships, a huge part of figuring out who you are and what you like is exploring sex.
Let’s talk about sex, baby! If you, like us, believe the sex-ed we got in school was a total joke… this one’s for you. We’re talking communication, sexting, pleasure, technique, toys, kinks, and yes… butt stuff.
We grew up in a time when there was so much shame surrounding sex, especially around female pleasure, and that still affects the way a lot of us navigate our own sexuality. But the best way to counter that, is to normalize and talk about it. Because one of the key cornerstones of a solid relationship is great sex, and for those who aren’t in relationships, a huge part of figuring out who you are and what you like is exploring sex.
So in our latest episode, we called in sexpert extraordinaire, Dr. Jess O’Reilly. Dr. Jess is a sexologist (PhD), relationship expert, best-selling author and TV personality. She has worked with thousands of couples around the world to transform their sexual relationships, and she’s the host of the hit reality series Swing, and hosts Intimately You on CityTV.
Join us as we discuss:
How much sex, conversations in the bedroom, sexting, and toy play YOU guys are having
Navigating different libidos and desire levels
Sexual compatibility and bridging the gap between different erotic preferences
Asking for what you *really* want in the bedroom and giving (constructive!) feedback
Overcoming shame and insecurity so you can be a more open-minded lover
Hot tips for getting confident with dirty talk and sexting
Taking your pleasure to the next level with different penetrative techniques
Dr. Jess’s top ways to reconnect and turn up the heat for relationships that are stuck in a sex rut
The best sex toys to try right now
How to prep for and work up to butt play
We hope this episode inspires you to spice things up in the bedroom and tap into your sexuality a little more, because you deserve alll the pleasure.