Episode 172: Teach Me How To Quit People-Pleasing And Create Honest Relationships, with Psychotherapist Kristina Virro
As born-and-raised (but recovering!) people pleasers, we have experienced first-hand how this habit can contribute to burnout, resentment, getting taken advantage of, and appeasing people who don’t respect our boundaries. But it’s time to break the cycle, because the key to happiness and success isn’t trying to please everyone… that’s actually the key to failure.
As born-and-raised (but recovering!) people pleasers, we have experienced first-hand how this habit can contribute to burnout, resentment, getting taken advantage of, and appeasing people who don’t respect our boundaries. But it’s time to break the cycle, because the key to happiness and success isn’t trying to please everyone… that’s actually the key to failure.
So we called in the expert, Kristina Virro. Kristina is a Registered Psychotherapist and Holistic Nutritionist, who is dedicated to reducing stigma around mental health and helping people learn effective strategies to feel less stuck and more empowered. She provides psychotherapy and nutritional counselling at her wellness clinic, Fresh Insight, and she has shared her expertise with major outlets like CP24, Canadian Living, and Global News Live. You might have seen her on social media, where she’s amassed over 100,000 followers on TikTok for her no-bullshit real talk about therapy and mental health.
Tune in as we chat about:
The psychological root of people-pleasing
The red flags to look out for if you have people-pleasing tendencies
The danger of prioritizing being liked over everything
How it affects communication — especially at work
How these behaviours impact your relationships
Understanding the fight, flight, freeze and fawn responses
Getting comfortable with letting people down
Establishing honest boundaries (without being an asshole)
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Episode 147: Teach Me How To Manage Anxiety, Challenge My Fears, And Heal The Gut-Brain Connection, with Dr. Lauren Cook
If you experience feelings of overwhelming anxiety, existential dread, panic sweats and heart palpitations… welcome to the anxious girlies club. But seriously, we’re finally learning that while occasional stress and worry is normal, if those feelings start to impact our day-to-day lives, it’s time to take a closer look at our brains and bodies.
If you experience feelings of overwhelming anxiety, existential dread, panic sweats and heart palpitations… welcome to the anxious girlies club. But seriously, we’re finally learning that while occasional stress and worry is normal, if those feelings start to impact our day-to-day lives, it’s time to take a closer look at our brains and bodies.
Millennials and Gen-Zs have been dubbed the most anxious generations in history, and it’s no surprise considering the increasingly globalized age of social media, 24/7 bad news cycles, and economic issues we face. So what can we do about it?
We called in licensed clinical psychologist, Dr. Lauren Cook, to give us some easy, actionable steps to help positively navigate our anxiety, rather than ignoring or fighting against it. From identifying the impacts and triggers of anxiety to breaking down the gut-brain connection, Lauren lays out the real, evidence-backed ways to manage our chaotic minds.
Dr. Lauren Cook is a therapist, consultant, speaker, author and founder of Heartship Psychological Services. Specializing in anxiety, she helps individuals and couples work through generalized anxiety, phobias, social anxiety, OCD, and more. She has a podcast called The Boardroom Brain, and has written three books, including the forthcoming “Generation Anxiety: A Millennial and Gen Z Guide to Staying Afloat in an Uncertain World”.
You might’ve seen her on TikTok where she spreads approachable mental health advice to her hundreds of thousands of followers, or in her features on The New York Times, Forbes, NBC, and Psychology Today.
Tune in as we chat about:
What’s causing the increased rates of anxiety in Millennials and Gen-Z’s
The hidden impacts of anxiety in our relationships, jobs, and interactions
The most prevalent categories of anxiety and the rise of social anxiety
The gut-brain connection and how nutrition impacts mental health
How to cope with and communicate anxiety triggers
How to self-soothe when we’re spiralling
The best ways to show up for loved ones struggling with their mental health
Is anxiety and control to blame for our procrastination and isolation?
The importance of “empowered acceptance”
Healthy ways to challenge our fears
We hope this episode helps you manage your anxiety and work with your body and mind to feel your best.
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Episode 66: How To Ditch Toxic Positivity and Feel for Real, with Psychotherapist Whitney Goodman
Unpopular opinion: It’s NOT always healthy to find the silver lining in everything. Some things just suck, and we don’t always need to look on the bright side, at the expense of *actually* processing hard feelings.
Our culture is obsessed with a “good vibes only,” and “everything happens for a reason” state of mind that makes us feel like we’re failing if we’re not happy 100% of the time. Trying to see the positive isn’t always positive, sometimes shit happens that doesn’t make us stronger, and we’re ready to break up with toxic positivity so we can fully experience our emotions AND our loved ones’ feelings. (Because nothing is worse than platitudes.)
Unpopular opinion: It’s NOT always healthy to find the silver lining in everything. Some things just suck, and we don’t always need to look on the bright side, at the expense of *actually* processing hard feelings.
Our culture is obsessed with a “good vibes only,” and “everything happens for a reason” state of mind that makes us feel like we’re failing if we’re not happy 100% of the time. Trying to see the positive isn’t always positive, sometimes shit happens that doesn’t make us stronger, and we’re ready to break up with toxic positivity so we can fully experience our emotions AND our loved ones’ feelings. (Because nothing is worse than platitudes.)
So this week we called in author and psychotherapist, Whitney Goodman, to help us ditch toxic positivity and get real with our emotions. Whitney is the author of the book Toxic Positivity, a columnist for Psychology Today and appears regularly in publications like The New York Times and Teen Vogue.
No one should have to pretend that everything’s ok when it isn’t, so if you’re looking for some validation, you’ve come to the right place!
Join us as we chat about:
The signs of toxic positivity and why it gets in the way of your healing
Finding the balance between optimism, negativity and toxic positivity
How to deal with friends and family who dismiss your struggles
The productive VS annoying way to complain
The impact of social media on toxic positivity
How to show up for others in a supportive way
We hope this episode helps you deal with your shit and feel all of your very valid feelings.
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Toxic Positivity: Keeping It Real in a World Obsessed with Being Happy