Episode 103: Asking For A Friend: What Are Some Major Red & Green Flags In A Relationship?
A wise person once said, love is blind. But let's be real…sometimes love can be straight up oblivious! Whether you’re single and dating or in a long-term relationship, green flags and red flags always seem to come up as signs that things are either going great, could use some work, or that it’s time to GTFO.
So, today we’re tackling a question that a lot of our friends and listeners have been talking about lately — how to spot a red or green flag in a relationship, and what to do when those red flags start adding up. Pour yourself a glass of your favourite bevy (it’s a fun one!) and join us as we read, rate, and drink our way through the red and green flags you DM’d us on IG, and discuss/debate how good or bad each scenario really is.
A wise person once said, love is blind. But let's be real…sometimes love can be straight up oblivious! Whether you’re single and dating or in a long-term relationship, green flags and red flags always seem to come up as signs that things are either going great, could use some work, or that it’s time to GTFO.
So, today we’re tackling a question that a lot of our friends and listeners have been talking about lately — how to spot a red or green flag in a relationship, and what to do when those red flags start adding up. Pour yourself a glass of your favourite bevy (it’s a fun one!) and join us as we read, rate, and drink our way through the red and green flags you DM’d us on IG, and discuss/debate how good or bad each scenario really is.
Tune in to hear our thoughts on:
Staying friends with their ex
When they’re jealous AF
Bad texters
When they want to do everything together
When they’re a Mama’s boy
What constitutes good VS bad fighting
When they’re extra cheesy & write you love letters, songs and poems
Low libidos
Love bombing
And more!!
We hope this episode helps you navigate any potential red flags that come your way and helps you find the love you deserve. If you have any burning questions for us and you want to get us in the hotseat, DM or email us your Qs at contact@teachmehowtoadult.ca and we’ll dive into them in an upcoming Asking For A Friend.
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Episode 86: How To Be A Better Conversationalist And Work Any Room
Just in time for the holiday season, we’re here to help you get back to being the social butterfly, conversational queen that you are. Because between the endless Zoom calls and virtual happy hours, a lot of us have lost the art of real conversation. So as we return to the office and real holiday parties, it’s about time we all brushed up on our social skills and learned how to carry a convo IRL.
Just in time for the holiday season, we’re here to help you get back to being the social butterfly, conversational queen that you are. Because between the endless Zoom calls and virtual happy hours, a lot of us have lost the art of real conversation. So as we return to the office and real holiday parties, it’s about time we all brushed up on our social skills and learned how to carry a convo IRL.
Solid talking and listening skills are an essential piece of thriving in your love life and work life, so this week we’re saying BYEEE to social anxiety so we can work any room with confidence.
Join us as we chat about:
How a little pre-event prep can ease your nerves
Finding common ground with someone you don’t know
Brushing up on current events/pop culture
Avoiding small talk by staying curious and using open-ended questions
The power of being vulnerable and sharing 50/50 in a conversation
How to approach heavy topics in a respectful way
The power of a good compliment and positive vibes
Body language tips for being more approachable
The 50/70 rule of eye contact
We hope these tips will help you work any room you’re in and add a little charisma to your conversations.
If you have a topic you’d like us to cover or a guest you want us to interview, comment or DM us on Instagram:
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Episode 43: How To Start Dating Again
One of the many things we’re loving about life after lockdown is that LOVE IS BACK, BABY! So many people are jumping back into the dating world, but we’ve also heard from lots of single friends that they’re feeling a little apprehensive or unsure of how to get back into it all after over a year of isolation. In our recent Instagram polls about dating, 47% of you said you’re a litttttle nervous to get back into dating post-Covid, too, and lots of you have had less than ideal experiences on dating apps.
Navigating love and the dating world in 2021 ain’t easy, so we called in love and relationship coach, Lauren Zoeller, to answer all of your burning Qs, and give us the advice that everyone needs to hear, whether you’re newly single, have been on the market for a while, or are in an open relationship.
One of the many things we’re loving about life after lockdown is that LOVE IS BACK, BABY! So many people are jumping back into the dating world, but we’ve also heard from lots of single friends that they’re feeling a little apprehensive or unsure of how to get back into it all after over a year of isolation. In our recent Instagram polls about dating, 47% of you said you’re a litttttle nervous to get back into dating post-Covid, too, and lots of you have had less than ideal experiences on dating apps.
Navigating love and the dating world in 2021 ain’t easy, so we called in love and relationship coach, Lauren Zoeller, to answer all of your burning Qs, and give us the advice that everyone needs to hear, whether you’re newly single, have been on the market for a while, or are in an open relationship.
Lauren is a CTA certified Love & Relationship Coach, motivational speaker and podcast host. She helps high performing, female executives attract the dream relationship and life they crave, and she’s the creator of The Aligned Love Experience™, a coaching program that teaches women how to attract love. She’s been featured in international publications like Prevention, Shape, Business Insider, Thrive Global, Money Inc., and more. Believe us when we say love is her language!
Tune in as we chat about:
The lowdown on which apps are best for your wants and needs
How to meet someone IRL vs. on the apps
Tools for bouncing back from bad dating app experiences
The inner work we all NEED to do to show up as our best selves
3 non-negotiables you should be setting from the get-go when dating
Confidence boosters to get you feelin’ good as hell going into a date
Tips for setting boundaries early on when dating and why that’s *actually* sexy
How to deal with rejection and what to do if you’re ghosted
Good questions to ask on a first date to build connection
What you should consider if you have a “type” you only date
Red flags to look out for on apps and during a date
Lauren’s hot tip to successful dating in 2021
We hope this episode helps you get back out there, date with confidence, and pursue the love that you deserve!
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Episode 34: How to Thrive In Long Distance Relationships
These days, long distance relationships are a reality for a lot of people who have been separated by the corona, border closures, quarantines, or the usual reasons like university and work relocations. (A quarter of you who responded to our Instagram polls said you’re in a long distance relationship right now!) And tons of couples start out distanced through apps and online dating.
So we’re diving into how to navigate long distance relationships right now, from communication and bonding tips to dealing with loneliness and insecurity, with relationship expert Dr. Morgan Cutlip. And this isn’t just for romantic relationships! All the advice we share today really does apply to anyone in your life that you care about if you’re separated right now, so if you can’t see someone you love, give this a listen.
These days, long distance relationships are a reality for a lot of people who have been separated by the corona, border closures, quarantines, or the usual reasons like university and work relocations. (A quarter of you who responded to our Instagram polls said you’re in a long distance relationship right now!) And tons of couples start out distanced through apps and online dating.
So we’re diving into how to navigate long distance relationships right now, from communication and bonding tips to dealing with loneliness and insecurity, with relationship expert Dr. Morgan Cutlip. And this isn’t just for romantic relationships! All the advice we share today really does apply to anyone in your life that you care about if you’re separated right now, so if you can’t see someone you love, give this a listen.
Dr. Morgan Cutlip has a PhD in counseling psychology and holds a master’s degree in Human Development and Family Sciences. For over 13 years, she’s worked at Love Thinks, a company that creates practical relationship education resources. Morgan’s passion is helping her fellow millennials find love, happiness and longevity in their relationships—without the drama. And we are HERE FOR THAT.
Tune in to hear more about:
The importance of strong communication in distance relationships
How to meet each other’s love languages when you’re apart
How to stay connected and bonded through rituals and new experiences
Dealing with loneliness, how to ask for help, and ways to self-soothe
Navigating having needs with feeling “neediness”
What to do if your efforts don’t feel reciprocated
Why we should strive for an interdependent relationship
How to give and receive relationship feedback with friends
How to overcome insecurities and doubts when you’re living two separate lives?
Tips for online dating and practicing your relationship skills
We hope this episode helps you feel closer to anyone you are apart from right now! We’re just two cheesy romantics, but to us, love always wins.
Follow Dr. Morgan:
instagram.com/mylovethinks
Drmorgancutlip.com
Mylovethinks.com
Mentioned in this episode:
New York Times article on “Languishing”: https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/19/well/mind/covid-mental-health-languishing.html
Marco Polo: https://www.marcopolo.me/