Episode 212: Forgiving Ourselves For The Past And Compassionately Accepting All The Versions We've Been | I’m The Problem It’s Me
Welcome back to my new series “I’m the problem, it’s me,” where I call bullshit on myself for the self-sabotage and mistakes I keep on making, because that’s the stuff that teaches us the most.
Welcome back to my new series “I’m the problem, it’s me,” where I call bullshit on myself for the self-sabotage and mistakes I keep on making, because that’s the stuff that teaches us the most.
Today is a vulnerable one. Remember that recent “show me you at 21” trend that circulated on social media? Well that deep-dive through old photo albums and Facebook timelines sent me into a certifiable spiral. Reflecting on who I was in my teens and early 20s, I was confronted with a tidal wave of self hate over how I looked and dressed, how much I drank, how obnoxiously and overly-sexualized I present myself, and how disconnected I seemed to be from who I really am.
The judgment and shame towards my past self was overwhelming, until I realized that my current self is in fact the problem. It’s easy to be critical in hindsight, but when we were young, we were almost always doing the best we could with what we knew.
I’ve spent a good chunk of adulthood resenting the versions of myself that came before this one. So it’s me, Gill, I’m the problem, it's me. And in today’s episode I’m rewriting my relationship with my past, and choosing compassion.
Join me as I dive into:
Why looking into my past brought up so much shame
How accepting our past selves can lead to more confidence and compassion
Aiming for neutrality and acceptance VS unconditional self-love
The power of inner child work
The tools I’m using to build self-compassion and change my self-talk
Why you should write letters to your past self
Learning from the versions of ourselves that we’ve outgrown
Why growth and change can go hand-in-hand with grief
I hope we can all learn to love the past eras that brought us to this one, and in the meantime, know that I love you.
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Episode 129: Teach Me How To Get The Fuck To Sleep, with Sleep Expert Alanna McGinn
The more adulting we do, the more we realize how essential getting good quality sleep is to literally every aspect of our lives. From our physical health to our mood and mindset, sleep is the key to solving a whole lot of our problems. We’re sick of burning the candle at both ends and tossing and turning each night, and we’re not alone: the past few decades have seen a downward trend in the quality and quantity of sleep that people are getting. So… let’s talk about sleep, baby!
The more adulting we do, the more we realize how essential getting good quality sleep is to literally every aspect of our lives. From our physical health to our mood and mindset, sleep is the key to solving a whole lot of our problems.
We’re sick of burning the candle at both ends and tossing and turning each night, and we’re not alone: the past few decades have seen a downward trend in the quality and quantity of sleep that people are getting. So… let’s talk about sleep, baby!
We’re clearly not the experts on this (read sleep-deprived), so we called in Alanna McGinn. Alanna is the founder and lead sleep expert at Good Night Sleep Site, host of the ‘This Girl Loves Sleep’ podcast and author of ‘This Baby Loves Sleep’. Alanna and her team of sleep consultants are certified through The Family Sleep Institute and have helped thousands of families around the world overcome their sleep challenges and establish healthy nighttime habits. Alanna is the resident sleep expert for publications like Forbes, Maclean’s and Today’s Parent, and the media sleep expert on Cityline, Breakfast Television, CBC Radio, and more.
Join us as we chat about:
The mental and physical impact of sleep deprivation
Creating a routine that supports healthy sleep
Why your morning wakeup is the most important factor to good sleep
How to figure out the amount of sleep we really need
Tricks to optimize our sleep cycles and REM sleep
Realtalk on magnesium and natural remedies
How to catch up after an all-nighter and adjust to new timezones
Can we keep napping???
The power of the napuccino
We hope this episode helps you create healthy sleep habits so you can get the quality sleep you deserve!
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Episode 75: Teach Me How To Build Resilience and Master My Mindset, with Leisse Wilcox | Summer Rewind
For the rest of the summer, we’re doing a Summer Rewind, re-releasing some of our must-listen episodes as we ramp up to the launch of season two. See you in September friends!
Change and adversity are the only constant in this life, and if this year has taught us anything, it’s that the more you focus on building a solid foundation within yourself, the more external chaos you can handle.
For the rest of the summer, we’re doing a Summer Rewind, re-releasing some of our must-listen episodes as we ramp up to the launch of season two. See you in September friends!
It feels like change and adversity are the only constant in this life, and if this year has taught us anything, it’s that the more you focus on building a solid foundation within yourself, the more external chaos you can handle.
Shifting our mindsets, perception and reactions is far from easy, but that’s the key to healthily recovering from turmoil and trauma. So, we called in mindset and success coach Leisse Wilcox to teach us everything we need to know about how to cultivate mental resilience and turn whatever life throws at you into a beautiful story.
And Liesse is not just your average coach. She is a coveted mindset coach, podcast host, AND bestselling author, who is changing the global conversation on emotional health & wellness. She literally wrote the book on turning adversity into opportunities for growth, joy and beauty.
Listen to our chat with Liesse to learn more about:
Our tools for bouncing back from adversity
Why your mindset matters
The meaning of emotional alchemy (turning the dark and heavy pieces of your life into something beautiful and light)
Leisse’s 10 steps to cultivating emotional alchemy
How to avoid toxic positivity and *actually* deal with your sh*t
Ways to process and feel your feelings
How to make a difficult life change with grit and grace
The importance of staying in the present moment and “zooming out”
Why gratitude is the key to mindset
We hope this episode helps you center yourself and find grace in these ~unprecedented~ times.
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Episode 74: Teach Me How To Crush My Workouts and Level Up My Fitness, with Beverley Cheng | Summer Rewind
For the rest of the summer, we’re doing a Summer Rewind, re-releasing some of our must-listen episodes as we ramp up to the launch of season two. See you in September friends!
If you’ve been thinking about getting back into your health and fitness routine (especially while we’re stuck at home), we got you. In episode 9, we sat down with fitness coach and founder of Born To Sweat, Beverley Cheng, to learn about motivation tips, how to set realistic goals, how to track your progress, proper form for weight room power moves, and three things you can start doing TODAY to live a healthier life (spoiler alert: we need to start drinking water).
For the rest of the summer, we’re doing a Summer Rewind, re-releasing some of our must-listen episodes as we ramp up to the launch of season two. See you in September friends!
If you’ve been thinking about getting back into your health and fitness routine (especially while we’re stuck at home), we got you. In episode 9, we sat down with fitness coach and founder of Born To Sweat, Beverley Cheng, to learn about motivation tips, how to set realistic goals, how to track your progress, proper form for weight room power moves, and three things you can start doing TODAY to live a healthier life (spoiler alert: we need to start drinking water).
Beverley is the brains (and brawn) behind Borntosweat.co which serves up fitness, health, recipe and wellness content. She hosts epic fitness retreats, runs a 1:1 coaching program and a variety of workout programs, and she has her own clothing apparel line! Prepare to get super fired up and inspired.
Join us as we discuss:
How to find a routine you'll actually to stick to
The importance of a positive mindset
How to create solid habits and schedules
Finding motivation and staying on track
Overcoming anxiety in the gym
How to set realistic goals
The best way to track progress
We hope this episode helps you find balance and hone your fitness goals.
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Episode 73: Teach Me How Beat Burnout And Find Balance| Summer Rewind
For the rest of the summer, we’re doing a Summer Rewind, re-releasing some of our must-listen episodes as we ramp up to the launch of season two. See you in September friends!
One of the things we’ve been hearing most for the last while (outside of “unprecedented times” and “You’re on mute!”) is that our friends and families are feeling hella burnt out right now.
And even though our lives have slowed down and become more minimal in some ways, life is picking back up again and there’s a lot more stress, expectation and pressure overall.
For the rest of the summer, we’re doing a Summer Rewind, re-releasing some of our must-listen episodes as we ramp up to the launch of season two. See you in September friends!
One of the things we’ve been hearing most for the last while (outside of “unprecedented times” and “You’re on mute!”) is that our friends and families are feeling hella burnt out right now.
And even though our lives have slowed down and become more minimal in some ways, life is picking back up again and there’s a lot more stress, expectation and pressure overall.
Listen along as we dive into:
What burnout really means
The signs you might be burnt out
Why we’re all feeling it more than ever
How social media can contribute to burnout
How boundaries can help you take back control of your time, energy & wellbeing
The importance of prioritizing sleep and wellness
Why you need to slow down and ask for help when you need it
Mastering your mindset and re-thinking how you measure success
How to fall in love with your life again and find joy everyday
Incorporating self-care daily, and not just on #selfcaresunday
Knowing when it’s time to say “thank you, next!” to your job
We hope this episode helps you prevent or recover from burnout, because you are more than your job and productivity, and you deserve a balanced life. Sending you all lots of love.
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Episode 58: Teach Me How To Be Alone But Not Lonely
Humans are social animals – we thrive off connection – and after two years of almost constant isolation and working from home, people are feeling lonelier than ever. But being alone and being lonely are two very different things, and we’re here to tell you that getting comfortable spending time on your own can be the ultimate game-changer for your health, happiness and relationships.
It’s all about reframing our idea of being alone. After all, personal time is a luxury in our busy lives, and making space to relax, reflect or get creative in solitude has amazing positive outcomes. Even if you thrive off social connection (we see you, extroverts!), finding fulfillment on your own is essential. So, this week we’re exploring how to combat loneliness and enjoy being alone!
Humans are social animals – we thrive off connection – and after two years of almost constant isolation and working from home, people are feeling lonelier than ever. But being alone and being lonely are two very different things, and we’re here to tell you that getting comfortable spending time on your own can be the ultimate game-changer for your health, happiness and relationships.
It’s all about reframing our idea of being alone. After all, personal time is a luxury in our busy lives, and making space to relax, reflect or get creative in solitude has amazing positive outcomes. Even if you thrive off social connection (we see you, extroverts!), finding fulfillment on your own is essential. So, this week we’re exploring how to combat loneliness and enjoy being alone!
Tune in as we chat about:
Why people are feeling lonelier than ever
How alone time can help you learn about yourself
The importance of finding personal hobbies
The real reason those “mental health walks” do wonders
The power of microconnections and how to make them
Ways to be part of a community
Redefining your narrative and shifting your mindset
The mental health benefits of giving back
How to increase your productivity during alone time
We hope this episode helps you feel a little less lonely and embrace the beauty of time with yourself!
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Episode 30: How To Recover From Burnout and Find Balance
One of the things we’ve been hearing most for the last while (outside of “unprecedented times” and “You’re on mute!”) is that our friends and families are feeling hella burnt out right now.
And even though our lives have slowed down and become more minimal in some ways this past year, there’s a lot more stress, expectation and pressure overall.
One of the things we’ve been hearing most for the last while (outside of “unprecedented times” and “You’re on mute!”) is that our friends and families are feeling hella burnt out right now.
And even though our lives have slowed down and become more minimal in some ways this past year, there’s a lot more stress, expectation and pressure overall.
95% of you that responded to our recent Instagram poll said that you’ve experienced burnout in the last few months, and 89% said you’re feeling more burnout now than you were pre-pandemic. Those are pretty startling stats, and as two people who have experienced burnout, we really want to help ya’ll identify if you’re going through it and how you can recover.
Listen along as we dive into:
What burnout really means
The signs you might be burnt out
Why we’re all feeling it more than ever
How social media can contribute to burnout
How boundaries can help you take back control of your time, energy & wellbeing
The importance of prioritizing sleep and wellness
Why you need to slow down and ask for help when you need it
Mastering your mindset and re-thinking how you measure success
How to fall in love with your life again and find joy everyday
Incorporating self-care daily, and not just on #selfcaresunday
Knowing when it’s time to say “thank you, next!” to your job
How Millennials Became The Burnout Generation Article
We hope this episode helps you prevent or recover from burnout, because you are more than your job and productivity, and you deserve a balanced life. Sending you all lots of love.