Episode 230: How To Expand Your Sex life, Try Alternative Relationship Styles, And Practice Ethical Non-Monogamy, with Hayley Folk
Contrary to what we’re taught our whole lives, there’s more than one way to engage in sex, love, and relationships. But what does that look like? Today’s episode is an open and vulnerable conversation with Hayley Folk, a sex writer on a mission to create safe spaces to talk about sex and pleasure.
Contrary to what we’re taught our whole lives, there’s more than one way to engage in sex, love, and relationships. But what does that look like? Today’s episode is an open and vulnerable conversation with Hayley Folk, a sex writer on a mission to create safe spaces to talk about sex and pleasure.
It’s especially important during Pride Month to de-stigmatize sex and sexuality, eradicate judgment, and create safe communities to explore pleasure and identity. So we’re diving deep into ethical non-monogamy, kink, sexual health, boundaries, consent, dating apps, and how to communicate what you want with honesty.
I chat with Hayley Folk, a sex writer whose work has appeared in magazines like Cosmopolitan, Refinery29, Elite Daily, and more. She’s the founder of Naked Folk, a publication and podcast that covers the uncomfortable conversations we should be having about sex and relationships.
Trigger warning: After the first hour, we talk about the impact of nonconsensual sex and assault. If this is something you’d like to avoid, you can stop listening after the 1 hour mark.
Tune in to hear more about:
Ethical non-monogamy 101: Polyamory, open relationships, swinging and more
Hayley’s journey coming out as queer
Boundaries and communication for healthy non-monogamous relationships
Meeting other couples, unicorns, or open partners on apps or play parties
The “one penis policy”
Dealing with jealousy and storytelling
How to get comfortable with dirty talk
Consuming ethical porn
Demystifying BDSM and the kink community
Physical VS verbal kinks
The importance of aftercare
Navigating sexual incompatibility
Consent, respect, and sexual health education
I hope you learn something new about yourself or the spectrum of sexuality from this convo!
Follow Hayley:
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https://www.instagram.com/nakedfolk/?hl=en
Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
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Episode 214: How To Find Love That Feels Safe, Build Confidence, Manage Mental Health And Discover Who You Really Are, with Hannah Brown
For all the Bachelorette fans tuning in, today is a must-listen, as I got to dive deep on allllll of the things with Bachelorette alum Hannah Brown.
For all the Bachelorette fans tuning in, today is a must-listen, as I got to dive deep on allllll of the things with Bachelorette alum Hannah Brown.
We talk relationships, therapy, cheating, mental health, insecurities, success, and how to really define ourselves when the world tries to put us in boxes... because whether you’re a TV star or an everyday muggle, we’re all trying to figure how who we are outside of the expectations and conditioning that have been placed on us.
Hannah has been through some insane life experiences… it’s clear that she’s really doing the work to overcome it all and to show up as her best self, and I’m grateful she could share some of that work with us today.
Hannah is a Television Personality, Podcast Host, and NYT Bestselling Author of her memoir, God Bless This Mess. After winning Miss Alabama USA 2018, she was a fan favourite on The Bachelor and then The Bachelorette, she won Dancing With The Stars, and she crushed it on the FOX show Special Forces. She hosts a self-improvement podcast called Better Tomorrow, and she shares her authenticity and vulnerability with her millions of followers on social media. And now, she’s releasing her debut romance novel “Mistakes We Never Made” this May.
Tune in as we chat about:
Hannah's engagement and what makes her feel safe in relationships
The case for couples therapy before there’s issues
Navigating cheating and betrayal
Rewiring our tendencies and changing our patterns
Building confidence and self-esteem
Dealing with depression and anxiety while in the public eye and on The Bachelorette
The tools that help Hannah with her mental health
Defying labels, the need for validation and figuring out who we really are
Overcoming fears and anxieties in her career
Finding joy and getting back to what makes us happy
Follow Hannah on Instagram and TikTok
Get Hannah's new book, Mistakes We Never Made.
PS: If you’ve been toying with the idea of launching a podcast but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast!
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Episode 204: How To Deal With Emotional Eating And Heal Our Hormones And Relationship With Food, with Amber Romaniuk
Our relationship with food is so complex and important for both our physical and mental health. I’ve spent a lot of my adult life trying to deprogram diet culture and deal with guilt around certain foods, reprogramming the morality we place on how we eat. And I've spent the last few years trying to figure out how to use food to make me feel physically good... how can I nourish myself, how can I optimize myself with what I consume, and how food impacts my hormone imbalances.
Our relationship with food is so complex and important for both our physical and mental health. I’ve spent a lot of my adult life trying to deprogram diet culture and deal with guilt around certain foods, reprogramming the morality we place on how we eat. And I've spent the last few years trying to figure out how to use food to make me feel physically good... how can I nourish myself, how can I optimize myself with what I consume, and how food impacts my hormone imbalances.
So today, we're diving deep with Amber Romaniuk on emotional eating, diet culture, food triggers, and the impact of hormones and cravings.
Amber is an Emotional Eating, Digestive and Hormone Expert, with 10 years experience helping women create body confidence, intuition and optimal health through mindset healing, self-care and overcoming self-sabotage with food. Her podcast “The No Sugarcoating Podcast” has over a million downloads. Amber overcame her own emotional eating journey after gaining and losing more than 1000 lbs combined, spending over $50,000 on binge foods and spending 5 years balancing her hormones, digestion. Now she helps others achieve Body Freedom so they can experience true confidence and health.
Tune in as we chat about:
Common emotional eating triggers
Tuning into the difference between physical and emotional hunger
Tools to combat emotional cravings
How food impacts our mood and energy
The effects of diet culture and what to know about intuitive eating
How hormones impact our appetite and blood sugar
Understanding thyroid levels, cortisol, and adrenal fatigue
How our cycle impacts our appetite
Amber's take on intermittent fasting and hunger cues
Tips for improving digestion
Follow Amber:
https://instagram.com/amberromaniuk
https://amberapproved.ca/podcast/
https://www.youtube.com/@amberromaniuk
This show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Kyla Killackey, Digital Editor
Carolyn Schissler , Designer & Web Producer
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Episode 202: How to Meet People in an Over-optimized world
Welcome to the first episode of our new series “I’m the problem, it’s me,” where I deep dive on the struggles and fuck-ups I’ve been facing lately, because let’s be honest, sometimes we’re the problem. And those experiences are usually our greatest teachers. Think of this as adulting confessions.
Welcome to the first episode of our new series “I’m the problem, it’s me,” where I deep dive on the struggles and fuck-ups I’ve been facing lately, because let’s be honest, sometimes we’re the problem. And those experiences are usually our greatest teachers. Think of this as adulting confessions.
And today, I’m calling bullshit on all of the complaining I do about how impossible it is to meet people, and how lonely I feel. Because the reality is, I’ve been optimizing myself out of human connection and removing all my chances for meeting new people in the name of efficiency.
Social connection should never be a “reward” we have to earn by being productive and efficient, so I’m on a mission to rewrite how I meet new people and interact with my current network.
Tune in as I unpack my problems, and the solutions I’m trying:
How apps and automated deliveries have replaced human interaction
The link between our social lives and healthspan
What we can learn from the blue zones
The plan to meet more like-minded friends
The concept of the “premium effect” in dating
Being strategic about where and how I meet people
Habit stacking tasks and creating community
PS: If you’ve been toying with the idea of launching a podcast but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast!
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Episode 200: How to change your mind, navigate divorce, pivot your path and date with intention
Sometimes, you have to let go of something good to let in something great. It’s easy to feel stuck in the choices we’ve made — the job we worked hard to get, the relationship we’ve invested in, the city we chose — but life is not linear, and it’s okay to change your mind.
Sometimes, you have to let go of something good to let in something great. It’s easy to feel stuck in the choices we’ve made — the job we worked hard to get, the relationship we’ve invested in, the city we chose — but life is not linear, and it’s okay to change your mind.
In today’s juicy and vulnerable episode, we’re talking about the magic that can happen when you take the courageous, abundant path, instead of following “what we’re supposed to do.” I’m joined by Alessia Scauzillo, who is the embodiment of following your intuition, embracing the unknown, and pivoting towards the life you really want.
It can feel scary to break free from the traditional path, especially when we’re urged to keep up with the societal norms of chasing high-earning corporate careers and the marriage-house-baby trajectory, but that formula isn’t a reality for many of us, and there are so many exciting ways we can choose to live when we prioritize courage over comfort.
Alessia is the founder of A Sculpt Body, an online fitness platform and community of thousands of women. Alessia left her decade-long career in the finance world to build her fitness company after falling in love with wellness. She’s hosted over 20 sold out events with over 1,000+ women at top venues across Toronto, NYC and Miami. She’s regularly featured in media brands like Breakfast Television, We Met At Acme, and Business Insider as an expert in balanced wellness, navigating divorce and relationships, and creating your entrepreneurial dreams.
Tune in as we chat about:
What Alessia learned through her divorce and the realities of 'conscious uncoupling'
How to know when it’s time to leave... a job, a relationship, a place
Dealing with fear of regret and the unknown
Tapping into your intuition and learning to trust your gut
Dating with intention and confidence
There are still good guys out there!!!
Working out for mental clarity and living with balance
The power of your community during big transitions
How grief helped fuel Alessia's biggest life decisions
PS: If you’ve been toying with the idea of launching a podcast but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast!
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Episode 198: No Dumb Questions: Should I use toys in the bedroom? Why is my partner never in the mood? What are the best sex positions? Tips for threesomes?
Welcome to our first episode of “No Dumb Questions,” where we answer all of your burning questions. In honour of Valentine's Day, we’re tackling the most exciting questions of all: Sex. Because whether you’re dating, in a relationship, or very much single, we’re probably all thinking about it. (Mom stop listening!)
Welcome to our first episode of “No Dumb Questions,” where we answer all of your burning questions. In honour of Valentine's Day, we’re tackling the most exciting questions of all: Sex. Because whether you’re dating, in a relationship, or very much single, we’re probably all thinking about it. (Mom stop listening!)
You all sent in some amazing questions, so tune in for a chat about:
What to do when your partner doesn’t want to have sex
The myth of desire, and the two desire types to know
Using toys in the bedroom, and the top toy recos
Are expensive sex toys worth it?
The case for pre-planning intimacy
Should everyone try anal?
Planning a sexy role play scene
How to teach your partner about bondage
Finding a third for your threesome
Let me know if there’s anything I missed in this episode, and DM any questions you have for future episodes! There’s no dumb questions.
Happy humping!
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Episode 195: How To Better Love Your Partner, Your Friends, And Yourself With The Seven Love Languages
It’s love month! So buckle up lovers, you’re in for a wild ride this week with our first ever team roundtable episode! We’re joined by TMHTA team members Kyla and Caro to talk all things Love Languages — including the latest two love languages that were added to the original five.
It’s love month! So buckle up lovers, you’re in for a wild ride this week with our first ever team roundtable episode! We’re joined by TMHTA team members Kyla and Caro to talk all things Love Languages — including the latest two love languages that were added to the original five.
Get ready for passionate debates on which love language should be promoted to the top, what’s considered the ‘bare minimum’ in relationships, why Receiving Gifts isn’t actually shallow, and overcoming relationship discrepancies like differing sex drives and vulnerability levels. You’re guaranteed to live, laugh and love with us.
Tune in as we chat about:
Our favourite (and most-hated) love languages
The seven love languages, explained
How our love languages can differ between friends, family, and lovers
Why they can evolve as we age and experience different relationships
Our top ways to show love to friends
How we can give our love languages to ourselves
Love you, mean it!
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Episode 193: How To Overcome Self-Sabotage, Stop Upper Limiting, and Make Quantum Leaps, with Lori Harder
How are those big new years goals going? Are you holding steady, or losing steam? As we reach the neverending finish line of January, we’re hitting the point where a lot of us will lose that momentum. You might start looking for all of the evidence of why those goals weren’t actually possible or worth it. That’s self-sabotage… and we’re not doing that shit this year, so we called in the incredible Lori Harder to teach us how to make quantum leaps towards becoming the person we want to be in 2024.
How are those big new years goals going? Are you holding steady, or losing steam? As we reach the neverending finish line of January, we’re hitting the point where a lot of us will lose that momentum. You might start looking for all of the evidence of why those goals weren’t actually possible or worth it. That’s self-sabotage… and we’re not doing that shit this year, so we called in the incredible Lori Harder to teach us how to make quantum leaps towards becoming the person we want to be in 2024.
The biggest thing that gets in our way of the success and fulfillment we desire isn’t external factors, it’s ourselves. So listen in to this masterclass on how to stop upper limiting and break up self-sabotage. I’m so ready to show up and play big. And I want that for you, no matter what that looks like.
There’s no one better suited to speak to resilience and transformation than Lori Harder, who pushed herself out of her comfort zone to go from a broke, unhealthy, anxiety-ridden introvert, to a confident and abundant self-made millionaire, speaker, podcast host, fitness world champion, and cover model. Lori is a serial entrepreneur and CEO of multiple companies, including Glōci and Lite Pink. She’s a best-selling author and the host of top podcast, Earn Your Happy.
Tune in as we chat about:
What are quantum leaps, and how has Lori harnessed them for her success?
Dealing with anxiety and panic attacks
Using fear as a compass to find our purpose
Practical tips to overcome public speaking anxiety
Overcoming the fear of failure
Using resistance and challenge to create inner strength
How upper limiting is holding us back from our potential
The different disguises of self-sabotage
The power of our relationships and social circles in our success
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Episode 187: How to embrace heartache, alchemize emotions, and harness vulnerability with allie michelle
Feeling your feelings can be really hard, but it's necessary for living a full life...and we can do hard things. This episode will help us learn to alchemize our emotions and, as today’s guest so perfectly says, “find the strength it takes to be soft.”
Feeling your feelings can be really hard, but it's necessary for living a full life...and we can do hard things. This episode will help us learn to alchemize our emotions and, as today’s guest so perfectly says, “find the strength it takes to be soft.”
I called in the queen of turning pain into beauty: The wise, talented, and incredibly lovely @alliemichellel, who captures the depths of human emotion through her beautiful writing and spoken word. It can feel overwhelming to be a sensitive empath in the world today, but our sensitivity is our superpower, and our grief is just a representation of how deeply we love.
@alliemichellel is a 3x Best-selling author and spoken word artist. She's one of my favourite poets, and her new fantasy novel, Legends of Lemuria, comes out this February on @thoughtcatalog (but you can pre-order it now))! Allie runs Pen 2 Publish, a program to help writers create, publish and market their books, she co-founded a community for mental health and wellness called We Are Warriors, and she's also a certified meditation, breathwork and yoga teacher.
Tune in as we chat about:
Feeling deeply without being consumed by it
Unhealthy VS healthy empathy, and navigating life as sensitive souls
How to actively process pain and difficult emotions
Inner child work
The power of embracing heartbreak
Using fear as a positive compass VS a deterrent
Finding your voice as a storyteller
Showing up as your most raw, unmasked self
The art of really breathing
PS: If you’ve been toying with the idea of launching a podcast but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast!
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Episode 181: When Two Become One — Cailyn’s Retirement From Podcasting
If we’ve learned anything along our adulting journey, it’s that change is the only constant in life. And today’s episode announces a BIG change that we’ve been sitting on. Grab your tissues, pour yourself something tasty, and get ready for an emotional rollercoaster as we say farewell to one half of our dynamic duo, and welcome in a new solo era of Teach Me How To Adult.
If we’ve learned anything along our adulting journey, it’s that change is the only constant in life. And today’s episode announces a BIG change that we’ve been sitting on. Grab your tissues, pour yourself something tasty, and get ready for an emotional rollercoaster as we say farewell to one half of our dynamic duo, and welcome in a new solo era of Teach Me How To Adult.
Prepare for laughter and fave memories, biggest lessons learned, many tears, and a whole lot of nostalgia as we recap over 3 years of podcast memories together. (No, we’re not okay.)
Please join us in raising a glass to our beloved Cailyn, as she trades in her mic for a new chapter of her adulting journey and retires from her podcasting career.
Tune in as we talk about:
Why Cailyn made the tough decision to step away from the podcast
Reminiscing on Gill & Cailyn’s favourite podcast moments together
Cailyn’s biggest lessons learned over the last two seasons
Advice on going into business with your bestie
Gill’s new direction for the podcast in Season 3
This is no Call Her Daddy break-up, so we’re not saying goodbye to Cailyn — we’re saying see you later, and we can look forward to her popping in for some fun episodes in season 3. Whether you’re new here or a long time listener, we’re so grateful you’re on this journey with us, and can’t wait to share Season 3 with you this January. Same place, same time, just Gill.
PS: If you’ve been toying with the idea of launching a podcast but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast!
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Episode 172: Teach Me How To Quit People-Pleasing And Create Honest Relationships, with Psychotherapist Kristina Virro
As born-and-raised (but recovering!) people pleasers, we have experienced first-hand how this habit can contribute to burnout, resentment, getting taken advantage of, and appeasing people who don’t respect our boundaries. But it’s time to break the cycle, because the key to happiness and success isn’t trying to please everyone… that’s actually the key to failure.
As born-and-raised (but recovering!) people pleasers, we have experienced first-hand how this habit can contribute to burnout, resentment, getting taken advantage of, and appeasing people who don’t respect our boundaries. But it’s time to break the cycle, because the key to happiness and success isn’t trying to please everyone… that’s actually the key to failure.
So we called in the expert, Kristina Virro. Kristina is a Registered Psychotherapist and Holistic Nutritionist, who is dedicated to reducing stigma around mental health and helping people learn effective strategies to feel less stuck and more empowered. She provides psychotherapy and nutritional counselling at her wellness clinic, Fresh Insight, and she has shared her expertise with major outlets like CP24, Canadian Living, and Global News Live. You might have seen her on social media, where she’s amassed over 100,000 followers on TikTok for her no-bullshit real talk about therapy and mental health.
Tune in as we chat about:
The psychological root of people-pleasing
The red flags to look out for if you have people-pleasing tendencies
The danger of prioritizing being liked over everything
How it affects communication — especially at work
How these behaviours impact your relationships
Understanding the fight, flight, freeze and fawn responses
Getting comfortable with letting people down
Establishing honest boundaries (without being an asshole)
PS: If you’ve been toying with the idea of launching a podcast but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast!
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Episode 168: How To Fix Your Self-Talk (And Shut Your Inner Critic Up!)
How do you generally talk to yourself? Are you critical? Mean? Doubtful? A lot of us can be our own biggest bullies, but our self-talk is one of the most important factors in the quality of our lives, relationships, career, and happiness.
How do you generally talk to yourself? Are you critical? Mean? Doubtful? A lot of us can be our own biggest bullies, but our self-talk is one of the most important factors in the quality of our lives, relationships, career, and happiness.
Your thoughts become actions, and they can determine everything in your life. So it’s our job to recognize them, acknowledge them, and then kindly tell these limiting beliefs to eff off, because we’ve got this.
Tune in as we chat about:
Countering our inner critic with empathy
Tweaking our language to be more confident
Using cognitive reframing to shift out of negative thoughts
Fighting negative self-talk with facts
rethinking our idea of failure
Calling out your loved ones on their negative self-talk
Positive affirmations and helpful mantras
PS: If you’ve been toying with the idea of launching a podcast but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast!
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Episode 163: How Do I Maintain My Relationships When I Move Away?
It becomes increasingly tough to keep in touch as we get older (seriously, has anyone in their 30s tried to plan a group hangout recently!?) but it’s extra hard if you’ve moved away. And add a different timezone in there? Good luck.
It becomes increasingly tough to keep in touch as we get older (seriously, has anyone in their 30s tried to plan a group hangout recently!?) but it’s extra hard if you’ve moved away. And add a different timezone in there? Good luck.
But relocating is a fact of life in adulthood, and we don’t want our fears of losing touch with loved ones to hold us back from making an exciting move. So in this week’s episode of Asking For A Friend, we’re diving into all the strategies for maintaining your relationships while abroad, including the great tips we got from our followers on Instagram!
Tune in as we chat about:
How Cailyn has kept in touch, and what she wants to improve upon
Scheduling your catch-ups like non-negotiable meetings
Being thoughtful with milestones and big events (the good and bad ones)
Removing the guilt from a phone call hiatus
Communication methods for every personality type
Habit-stacking your Facetimes
The power of a friendship trip
Creating virtual experiences to share
We hope this helps you stay connected with your loved ones, no matter how far away they are. If you have any burning questions and want to get us in the hot seat, DM us and we’ll dive into them in an upcoming tell-all.
PS: If you’ve been toying with the idea of launching a podcast but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast!
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Episode 161: How to take accountability for your baggage, heal your triggers, and deal with other people’s shit
All of us have baggage, whether it’s from bad relationships, broken homes, friendship drama, or toxic work environments — and more often than not, these past traumas aren’t even our fault! But it’s still our job to manage how we allow these past problems to impact our relationships and experiences today.
If you’re easily triggered, quick to overreact, or constantly carrying your past into the present moment… it’s time to take accountability for your baggage. And if you’ve got more bags than Kim Kardashian, this one’s definitely for you!
All of us have baggage, whether it’s from bad relationships, broken homes, friendship drama, or toxic work environments — and more often than not, these past traumas aren’t even our fault! But it’s still our job to manage how we allow these past problems to impact our relationships and experiences today.
We’re here to help you understand what your baggage is, how it shows up, who is usually on the receiving end of it, and how you’ll manage it — all while sharing our own shit that we’re still working through.
Tune in as we dive into:
What causes the majority of our baggage
How we’re learning not to take on other people’s baggage
The way our triggers show up in relationships, work, parenting, and money
Being self-aware and responsible for healing your past
Self-regulating techniques to manage your triggers
Rewriting your narrative and reclaiming your past stories
How therapy, coaching, and open communication have helped
It really is empowering to reclaim your past, choose a new narrative for the future, and take responsibility for your own happiness. Let’s do the damn work!
PS: If you’ve been toying with the idea of launching a podcast but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast!
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Episode 157: Teach Me How To Pivot My Career and Reinvent Myself, with Keltie Knight
Life is a long zig-zagging road, and it’s okay to pivot and try new routes along the way. And no one has exemplified how to reinvent yourself and pivot your career again and again more than today’s guest, Keltie Knight.
Realtalk from Gill: I’ve been at a serious crossroads about which path to take next in my career. It can be easy to feel trapped in one lane, stuck where you are, or like you have to choose only one thing to focus on if you want to be successful. But choosing something now, doesn’t mean you’re resigned to that one thing forever. Everything you do is cumulative action towards where you want to end up.
Life is a long zig-zagging road, and it’s okay to pivot and try new routes along the way. And no one has exemplified how to reinvent yourself and pivot your career again and again more than today’s guest, Keltie Knight.
Keltie is a three-time Emmy Award winning television personality, podcaster, A New York Times bestselling author, and former professional dancer. She started her career as a dancer and danced in the Radio City Rockettes, in music videos for musicians like John Legend, and as a backup dancer for Beyonce and Taylor Swift, NBD. She pivoted into television as a host, working on Entertainment Tonight and E! News, and covering huge events like The Grammys Red Carpet. She’s the co-host and creator of one of the top 100 podcasts in the world, The LADYGANG podcast, which she transformed into a TV show and a bestselling book, Act Like A Lady. And now, she has just launched her new CBS primetime show, Superfan, for which she’s the creator, executive producer, and host.
Join us as we chat about:
The key to reinventing yourself and leaning into career pivots
Reverse engineering your dreams and goals VS staying flexible and open to opportunities
How to know when it’s time to move on to a new project or pivot into a new career era
How to handle rejection and bounce back from negative feedback
What to do when you’re categorized and expected to “stay in your lane”
The benefit of having multiple jobs or projects on the go
The power of staying unattached to outcomes and just making shit happen
How to stay focused with your pursuits when you’re a multi-hyphenate person with lots of interests and passions
We hope this episode inspires you to swing big and pursue all of your passions, because as per Ross Geller, you can always pivot along the way.
PS: If you’ve been toying with the idea of launching a podcast but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast!
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Episode 145: The Quickie: How to Ask for Help When You Need It (It's Okay To Not Be Okay!)
Life can be complicated AF and everyone needs support along the way…so why is it so hard to ask for it? For most of us, the tendency to keep things bottled in and not ask for help has been reinforced over time, especially in cultures that value independence and “success”. Spoiler alert: it isn’t doing us any good. On the plus side, vulnerability and asking for help are two skills that can be learned, and class is now in session!
Life can be complicated AF and everyone needs support along the way…so why is it so hard to ask for it? For most of us, the tendency to keep things bottled in and not ask for help has been reinforced over time, especially in cultures that value independence and “success”. Spoiler alert: it isn’t doing us any good. On the plus side, vulnerability and asking for help are two skills that can be learned, and class is now in session!
Giving and receiving emotional support is essential for us to thrive, and it’s okay to not be okay! So this week we’re getting personal about our own struggles and share some helpful tips on how we can all channel our inner Brené Brown.
Join us as we chat about:
Cailyn’s struggle with feeling disconnected and overwhelmed
What holds us back from admitting when we’re not ok
Why validation is so important
Going to the right person for help
How vulnerability strengthens connections
Being direct about what you need
Why admitting that you’re not okay isn’t a burden to others
Letting your friends and family show up for you
Emphasizing validation over problem-solving
How self-acceptance can free you
We hope this episode inspires you to ask for help when you need it and show up better for the people who might need you!
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Episode 139: Teach Me How to Make Friends As An Adult, with Psychologist and Friendship Expert Dr. Miriam Kirmayer
There’s a new epidemic in town: Loneliness. And while making friends is intimidating at any age, it feels especially daunting as adults. As we hit our 30s, our groups of friends are getting smaller and smaller (fun fact: We replace half our friend group every seven years as adults!). Life gets busy, people move away, and milestones come at different times. Even though this seems to be universal, it can still feel like something is wrong with us.
There’s a new epidemic in town: Loneliness. And while making friends is intimidating at any age, it feels especially daunting as adults. As we hit our 30s, our groups of friends are getting smaller and smaller (fun fact: We replace half our friend group every seven years as adults!). Life gets busy, people move away, and milestones come at different times. Even though this seems to be universal, it can still feel like something is wrong with us.
If we’ve learned anything along our adulting journey, it’s that friendships are crucial to our mental and physical wellbeing. So this week, we’re learning how to prioritize the most underrated of our relationships, how to make new ones, and why it’s so damn hard to maintain friends as an adult.
We’re not the experts, so we called in Dr. Miriam Kirmayer. Having spent over a decade researching the science of friendship and helping people live more connected lives, Dr. Miriam is a clinical psychologist, writer, speaker, and leading expert on friendship and social connection. She’s appeared on some of our favourite media outlets, from Call Her Daddy to Vogue and The New York Times.
She sits on the Mental Health Advisory Committee for Wondermind, a media company co-founded by Selena Gomez, and is a member of The GenWell Project, a human connection movement. She also has a private practice and is one of the first and only licensed clinical psychologists to specialize in friendship therapy!
Join us as we chat about:
Why our friendships dwindle as we age
Dr. Miriam’s best tips for making new friends
Overcoming the fear of rejection
How many hours it actually takes to establish a true friendship
How our attachment styles affect our friendships
Adapting to new life stages and navigating changing relationships
Why one friend can’t check every box
How to prioritize friendships (and why it’s good for your health!)
Advice on letting go of friendships that have run their course
We hope this episode helps you feel less alone and inspires you to get back into the friendship market. Remember, you’ve always got a friend in us!
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Episode 104: Teach Me How To Communicate Better In My Relationship, with Therapist Liz Earnshaw
Good communication is the golden key to a healthy relationship, but like most things, it’s easier said than done. So today, we’re continuing our love month theme and throwing it back to a collection of game-changing advice from our episode on communication and conflict with licensed family and marriage therapist, Liz Earnshaw.
Liz takes us on a relationship deep dive, breaking down everything from our physiology during conflict, to identifying power dynamics and creating healthy communication strategies. And even if you’re not in a relationship, this episode can help anyone work towards becoming the securely attached communicative human we all strive to be.
Good communication is the golden key to a healthy relationship, but like most things, it’s easier said than done. So today, we’re continuing our love month theme and throwing it back to a collection of game-changing advice from our episode on communication and conflict with licensed family and marriage therapist, Liz Earnshaw.
Liz takes us on a relationship deep dive, breaking down everything from our physiology during conflict, to identifying power dynamics and creating healthy communication strategies. And even if you’re not in a relationship, this episode can help anyone work towards becoming the securely attached communicative human we all strive to be.
Tune in as we chat about:
The biggest relationship issues she sees in couples
How The Four Horsemen can harm the way we communicate
Dealing with criticism and feedback
How to heal from hurt or betrayal
The power struggles that crop up during conflict
How to set healthy boundaries with your partner
We hope this episode helps you create closer bonds and communicate effectively in conflict!
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Episode 83: How to Move In With Your Partner (Without Losing Your Mind)
Moving in with your significant other sounds like a dream… that is until they start loading the dishwasher all wrong. Taking the leap and living together is a make-or-break step in any relationship but there are ways to set yourself up for success and today we’re giving you the cheat sheet!
Moving in with your significant other sounds like a dream… that is until they start loading the dishwasher all wrong. Taking the leap and living together is a make-or-break step in any relationship but there are ways to set yourself up for success and today we’re giving you the cheat sheet!
From how to start the conversation about your boundaries (and finances!) to tips on keeping the spark alive, this week’s quickie has everything you need to know before you move in with your partner and tips for making the transition as smooth as possible.
Tune in as we chat about:
Creating goals for your relationship
How to protect yourself and the legal agreements you might need
An easy guide to tackling finances
Why communication and setting boundaries are key
How to make your design styles mesh
Respecting routines and making new ones
The positive side of healthy conflict
How to keep your sex life alive
Prioritizing YOU time
We hope this episode helps you decide if you’re ready to move in with your partner and makes the transition a little smoother. Good luck to all the love birds ready to make their nest together, you got this!
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Episode 64: How To Own Your Orgasms And Pleasure
Friends, this week’s episode is a juicyyy one! We sat down with sex coach and educator Portia Brown to chat all things orgasms and how to take control of your own pleasure. Because there’s an embarrassing amount we don’t know about our own sexual physiology, and we’re SO ready to take self-care to the next level by creating a pleasure practice that helps us tune into our body and mind.
Friends, this week’s episode is a juicyyy one! We sat down with sex coach and educator Portia Brown to chat all things orgasms and how to take control of your own pleasure. Because there’s an embarrassing amount we don’t know about our own sexual physiology, and we’re SO ready to take self-care to the next level by creating a pleasure practice that helps us tune into our body and mind.
This is such an inspiring conversation that is guaranteed to help you take control of your orgasms and incorporate pleasure (in its many forms, as we learned) into your daily routine.
Because you deserve alllllll the O’s, and they don’t have to be elusive.
Portia is the founder of Froetic Sexology, a website, social media platform and coaching practice that helps women find their power through pleasure. Her expansive sex coaching methods help women tap into mindfulness and ritual to help them reconnect with themselves. She’s been featured in Cosmopolitan Magazine, Glamour UK, and podcasts such as “Doing It” with Hannah Witton, and “Am I Making You Uncomfortable” from Huffington Post.
Join us as we chat about:
How to create your own pleasure practise
The different ways to achieve your big O
Tips for orgasming with a partner
Breaking through your own mental/physical barriers
How breathwork can enhance pleasure
How orgasms *actually* feel
Fun ways to initiate sex
Gaining confidence in the bedroom
We hope this episode inspires you to maximize your pleasure and prioritize YOU.
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