Ep. 257: How To Overcome Fear, Self-Sabotage, And Panic Attacks To Make Quantum Leaps Towards Our Goals, with Lori Harder
I’ve been hitting a ceiling with my upper limits lately — in love, business, and life decisions, limiting beliefs and self-sabotage have been showing all the way up. So I revisited this episode with Lori Harder, and it was a powerful reminder of how to get out of my own way… it felt right to throw it back to this top-performing episode today for anyone who needs to hear this.
I’ve been hitting a ceiling with my upper limits lately — in love, business, and life decisions, limiting beliefs and self-sabotage have been showing all the way up. So I revisited this episode with Lori Harder, and it was a powerful reminder of how to get out of my own way… it felt right to throw it back to this top-performing episode today for anyone who needs to hear this.
The biggest thing that gets in our way of the success and fulfillment we desire isn’t external factors, it’s ourselves. So listen in to this masterclass on how to stop upper limiting and break up self-sabotage.
There’s no one better suited to speak to resilience and transformation than Lori Harder, who pushed herself out of her comfort zone to go from a broke, unhealthy, anxiety-ridden introvert, to a confident and abundant self-made millionaire, speaker, podcast host, fitness world champion, and cover model. Lori is a serial entrepreneur and CEO of multiple companies, including Glōci and Lite Pink. She’s a best-selling author and the host of top podcast, Earn Your Happy.
Tune in as we chat about:
What are quantum leaps, and how has Lori harnessed them for her success?
Dealing with anxiety and panic attacks
Using fear as a compass to find our purpose
Practical tips to overcome public speaking anxiety
Overcoming the fear of failure
Using resistance and challenge to create inner strength
How upper limiting is holding us back from our potential
The different disguises of self-sabotage
The power of our relationships and social circles in our success
Follow Lori on Instagram and on her website.
Listen to Lori's Podcast, Earn Your Happy.
Order Lori's book, A Tribe Called Bliss
This show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
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Ep. 256: How To Regulate Your Nervous System And Process Trauma using Somatic Therapy, with Therapist Simone Saunders
It’s World Mental Health Day this week, and we're having lots of important conversations to increase awareness around emotional wellbeing. I called in Trauma Therapist Simone Saunders to learn more about somatic therapy, how our mental health impacts our physical health, and how trauma and distress shows up in our bodies.
It’s World Mental Health Day this week, and we're having lots of important conversations to increase awareness around emotional wellbeing. I called in Trauma Therapist Simone Saunders to learn more about somatic therapy, how our mental health impacts our physical health, and how trauma and distress shows up in our bodies.
Anxiety and mental illness can show up in so many ways physically — from getting sweaty and experiencing heart palpitations or nausea, to general posture and shoulder stiffness, gut issues, and sleep problems. More and more we're seeing physical diagnoses like chronic pain and IBS linked back to trauma and nervous system dysregulation. And it doesn't always have to be a big T trauma... we talk a lot in this interview about how repeated micro traumas can build up to have the same impact.
So if you want to take control of your mental health and expand your techniques and awareness, this episode is a must-listen.
Simone has a Master's in Clinical Social Work, with a specialization in trauma, emotional regulation, anxiety and depression. As a trauma therapist and educator she has over 800,000 followers across her Instagram and TikTok accounts, the cognitive corner, where she helps people understand the connection between the mind and body and patterns that your nervous system engages in.
Tune in to hear more about:
Signs we might struggle to regulate our emotions and nervous system, and the best tools for nervous system regulation
The typical survival responses we cycle through when triggered
Navigating familial relationships or partnerships that trigger the dysregulation loop
Unhelpful coping strategies that might make you feel worse
Cognitive bypassing: The difference between intellectualizing and feeling
How trauma manifests physically
What if you can't remember your trauma?
Somatic therapy techniques and processing stored trauma
Building a life that's healthy for your nervous system
Navigating the loneliness and isolation on our mental health journey
Follow Simone on Instagram and TikTok.
Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
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Ep. 255: Build Your Mental Health Toolkit With 5 Expert-Backed Tips For Emotional Wellbeing
We’re heading into mental health awareness week, and these conversations are crucial as we face a global mental health crisis, with 1 in 3 people struggling with a mental health issue in North America.
We’re heading into mental health awareness week, and these conversations are crucial as we face a global mental health crisis, with 1 in 3 people struggling with a mental health issue in North America.
Almost every person I’m close with has been affected by mental health struggles, and I dealt with my own uncomfortable bout of anxiety and depression this September. During this tough month, I found myself referring back to some of the amazing tools and conversations I’ve had with guests on this podcast who shared perspective-changing insights that have changed my mindset and mental health.
These are a big part of my mental health toolkit that I draw from when I need reminders, support and tools to get me through a rough patch, and I'm glad I can share them with you today.
Tune in to hear advice from:
Mindset coach and bestselling author, Leisse Wilcox, on having agency over your response to life’s hardships, cultivating hope and optimism, and using your feelings as feedback.
Clinical psychologist, Dr. Lauren Cook, on identifying the Four Ds of Distress and when to seek help from a therapist, plus the truth about how nutritional deficiencies and gut health impact anxiety.
Psychotherapist and author, Whitney Goodman, on radically accepting your feelings and why we’ve been programmed to engage in toxic positivity.
Mindfulness expert and best-selling author, Nina Purewal, on navigating the chatty mind, dealing with stress spirals, why we’re addicted to negative thoughts, and CSI-ing the shit out of your thoughts.
If you’re struggling with your mental health, know that you’re not alone. Please find someone to talk to, and know that you are loved. I hope this mental health toolkit helps you as much as it’s helped me.
Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network.
PS: If you’ve been toying with the idea of launching a podcast but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast!
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Episode 224: Take Control Of Your Mental Health And Wellbeing With The Life Force Pyramid From Psychiatrist Phil Stutz
It’s mental health awareness month, and it honestly feels like there’s more people than ever before struggling with anxiety, depression and mental health issues. So this week we’re diving into a helpful tool for building the foundation of your mental health, using the Life Force Method from Jonah Hill’s therapist, Stutz.
It’s mental health awareness month, and it honestly feels like there’s more people than ever before struggling with anxiety, depression and mental health issues. So this week we’re diving into a helpful tool for building the foundation of your mental health, using the Life Force Method from Jonah Hill’s therapist, Stutz.
The method builds on the three levels that are key for our emotional wellbeing: our relationship with our body, relationships with others, and our relationship with self. This simple pyramid can be a real game-changing check-in when you feel your mental wellness start to slip.
Tune in to hear more about:
My personal experiences managing my mental health, and the pillars I use
Stutz’s Life Force Method Pyramid
Taking care of your physical health and body
How exercise can help you transform emotions
Nurturing supportive relationships for better mental health
Why you should cut out toxic people
Tools to cultivate a better relationship with yourself
Setting goals and finding purpose
Our show is produced by:
Gillian Berner, Host, Producer & Editor
Olivia Nashmi, Audio Engineer
Carolyn Schissler, Designer & Web Producer
Sara Valentine, Content Producer
For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network.
PS: If you’ve been dreaming of pivoting into podcasting but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast.
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Episode 220: How To Deal With A Layoff, And Knowing When It’s Time To Quit A Toxic Workplace
WTF happened to job security? A new round of tech and media layoffs are announced every week (looking at you, Tesla and Microsoft) and booming industries go bust faster than Tswift tickets sell out.
WTF happened to job security? A new round of tech and media layoffs are announced every week (looking at you, Tesla and Microsoft) and booming industries go bust faster than Tswift tickets sell out.
But on the flip side, with layoffs becoming the new norm, we’re starting to detach our worth and loyalty from a corporate job. Gone are the days when quitting a job and jumping between companies was frowned upon: We’re not down with toxic work environments and underpaid gigs.
So how do you prepare for the ending of a job, whether by choice or by layoff?
Join Carolyn and I as we chat about:
Caro and Gill’s layoff experiences
Reviewing your severance and why it’s worth consulting a lawyer
Things you can negotiate in your contract up-front
What to do right after you’ve been laid off
The power of vulnerability (and why everyone is sharing on social media)
Finding empowerment and detaching your worth from a job
Signs your workplace is toxic
How to know when to quit your job
Advocating for yourself before you quit
PS: If you’ve been toying with the idea of launching a podcast but aren’t sure where to start or how to grow, check our consulting services at teachmehowtoadult.ca/howtopodcast!
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Episode 87: How Do I Travel The World On My Own
Taking on the world by yourself can seem overwhelming, but if Eat, Pray, Love taught us anything it’s that solo travel can lead to some of our most liberating, life-changing experiences.
This week we’re diving into one of our most frequently asked questions for our in-house globe trotter, Gill: How do I travel alone? Travelling solo might feel entirely out of your comfort zone, but the benefits of taking time to explore a new place (and yourself) on your own terms can be a serious game-changer for your mental well-being, confidence, and fulfillment. So buckle up, because we’re taking you on a journey through the good, bad, and best parts of flying solo!
Taking on the world by yourself can seem overwhelming, but if Eat, Pray, Love taught us anything it’s that solo travel can lead to some of our most liberating, life-changing experiences.
This week we’re diving into one of our most frequently asked questions for our in-house globe trotter, Gill: How do I travel alone? Travelling solo might feel entirely out of your comfort zone, but the benefits of taking time to explore a new place (and yourself) on your own terms can be a serious game-changer for your mental well-being, confidence, and fulfillment. So buckle up, because we’re taking you on a journey through the good, bad, and best parts of flying solo!
Join us as we chat about:
Gill’s epic trips and why she decided to travel on her own
How travelling solo can be healing during hard times
The importance of setting an intention for your trip
How to keep the vacation sparks alive when you’re back home
How to decide where you should go, and when
Ways to combat loneliness when you’re on your own
Tips for putting yourself out there and meeting new people
Planning your trips with “possibilities” vs. a strict itinerary
Key safety tips you need to know while travelling solo
Gill’s brutal experience getting mugged in Lisbon
3 key tips for anyone who’s thinking about travelling alone
We hope this episode inspires you to take the leap and book your next solo trip! You won’t regret it.
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Episode 66: How To Ditch Toxic Positivity and Feel for Real, with Psychotherapist Whitney Goodman
Unpopular opinion: It’s NOT always healthy to find the silver lining in everything. Some things just suck, and we don’t always need to look on the bright side, at the expense of *actually* processing hard feelings.
Our culture is obsessed with a “good vibes only,” and “everything happens for a reason” state of mind that makes us feel like we’re failing if we’re not happy 100% of the time. Trying to see the positive isn’t always positive, sometimes shit happens that doesn’t make us stronger, and we’re ready to break up with toxic positivity so we can fully experience our emotions AND our loved ones’ feelings. (Because nothing is worse than platitudes.)
Unpopular opinion: It’s NOT always healthy to find the silver lining in everything. Some things just suck, and we don’t always need to look on the bright side, at the expense of *actually* processing hard feelings.
Our culture is obsessed with a “good vibes only,” and “everything happens for a reason” state of mind that makes us feel like we’re failing if we’re not happy 100% of the time. Trying to see the positive isn’t always positive, sometimes shit happens that doesn’t make us stronger, and we’re ready to break up with toxic positivity so we can fully experience our emotions AND our loved ones’ feelings. (Because nothing is worse than platitudes.)
So this week we called in author and psychotherapist, Whitney Goodman, to help us ditch toxic positivity and get real with our emotions. Whitney is the author of the book Toxic Positivity, a columnist for Psychology Today and appears regularly in publications like The New York Times and Teen Vogue.
No one should have to pretend that everything’s ok when it isn’t, so if you’re looking for some validation, you’ve come to the right place!
Join us as we chat about:
The signs of toxic positivity and why it gets in the way of your healing
Finding the balance between optimism, negativity and toxic positivity
How to deal with friends and family who dismiss your struggles
The productive VS annoying way to complain
The impact of social media on toxic positivity
How to show up for others in a supportive way
We hope this episode helps you deal with your shit and feel all of your very valid feelings.
Follow Whitney:
Toxic Positivity: Keeping It Real in a World Obsessed with Being Happy
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Episode 65: How To Hack Your Memory And Clear Brain Fog
We all know that the years start coming and they don’t stop coming, but we’re starting to have trouble remembering them. Our memories are an essential part of who we are and this week we learned there’s A LOT that can impact our ability to remember the good old days (or just that person’s name we met five minutes ago, tbh).
If you’ve been feeling some brain fog lately you’re not alone — surprisingly, there’s a lot that goes into maintaining our memory, especially when a global health crisis cuts off the stimulation our minds need to stay sharp.
But we’re diving into hacking our brainwaves and training our minds so that we can actually remember all the things we need to do today. May the odds be ever in our favour!
We all know that the years start coming and they don’t stop coming, but we’re starting to have trouble remembering them. Our memories are an essential part of who we are and this week we learned there’s A LOT that can impact our ability to remember the good old days (or just that person’s name we met five minutes ago, tbh).
If you’ve been feeling some brain fog lately you’re not alone — surprisingly, there’s a lot that goes into maintaining our memory, especially when a global health crisis cuts off the stimulation our minds need to stay sharp.
But we’re diving into hacking our brainwaves and training our minds so that we can actually remember all the things we need to do today. May the odds be ever in our favour!
Join us as we chat about:
The three pillars of memory maintenance
How to stimulate both sides of your brain
The impact of staying physically and mentally active
Why sleep rules everything
How managing stress and anxiety can strengthen memory (and why we blackout when stressed)
Quick memory hacks to help you stay sharp
We hope this is an episode you won’t forget!
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Episode 58: Teach Me How To Be Alone But Not Lonely
Humans are social animals – we thrive off connection – and after two years of almost constant isolation and working from home, people are feeling lonelier than ever. But being alone and being lonely are two very different things, and we’re here to tell you that getting comfortable spending time on your own can be the ultimate game-changer for your health, happiness and relationships.
It’s all about reframing our idea of being alone. After all, personal time is a luxury in our busy lives, and making space to relax, reflect or get creative in solitude has amazing positive outcomes. Even if you thrive off social connection (we see you, extroverts!), finding fulfillment on your own is essential. So, this week we’re exploring how to combat loneliness and enjoy being alone!
Humans are social animals – we thrive off connection – and after two years of almost constant isolation and working from home, people are feeling lonelier than ever. But being alone and being lonely are two very different things, and we’re here to tell you that getting comfortable spending time on your own can be the ultimate game-changer for your health, happiness and relationships.
It’s all about reframing our idea of being alone. After all, personal time is a luxury in our busy lives, and making space to relax, reflect or get creative in solitude has amazing positive outcomes. Even if you thrive off social connection (we see you, extroverts!), finding fulfillment on your own is essential. So, this week we’re exploring how to combat loneliness and enjoy being alone!
Tune in as we chat about:
Why people are feeling lonelier than ever
How alone time can help you learn about yourself
The importance of finding personal hobbies
The real reason those “mental health walks” do wonders
The power of microconnections and how to make them
Ways to be part of a community
Redefining your narrative and shifting your mindset
The mental health benefits of giving back
How to increase your productivity during alone time
We hope this episode helps you feel a little less lonely and embrace the beauty of time with yourself!
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Episode 54: How To Survive The Holidays with Your Mental Health Intact
Happy holidays friends! Today we’re throwing it back to an oldie but a goldie from 2020 because these tips are so relevant this holiday season… and TBH, who didn’t need a little breather this week!?
While the holidays can be super joyful for many, they can also come with a ton of stress, pressure, grief, and loneliness for others. So, today we’re diving into five expert-backed mindset hacks to make it through this week with your mental health intact.
Happy holidays friends! Today we’re throwing it back to an oldie but a goldie from 2020 because these tips are so relevant this holiday season… and TBH, who didn’t need a little breather this week!?
While the holidays can be super joyful for many, they can also come with a ton of stress, pressure, grief, and loneliness for others. So, today we’re diving into five expert-backed mindset hacks to make it through this week with your mental health intact.
Tune in to learn more about:
Setting clear boundaries with yourself and loved ones
The benefits of an *easy* gratitude practise
How to “gamify” holiday drama and stress as a way of (pretty damn fun) coping
Dealing with grief and the loss of loved ones during the holiday season
Creating new traditions and making your own meaning during the holidays
Stay safe and happy holidays to you and your loved ones.
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Episode 42: How To Stop Overthinking Everything
If you’re an overthinker like us, worrying about the future, dwelling on the past, and overanalyzing every single decision can be totally paralyzing in your day-to-day life. Overthinking can make decision-making impossible, and it can create tons of unnecessary stress that holds us back from living a life we truly want. And TBH, it’s usually all over nothing!
If you’re an overthinker like us, worrying about the future, dwelling on the past, and overanalyzing every single decision can be totally paralyzing in your day-to-day life. Overthinking can make decision-making impossible, and it can create tons of unnecessary stress that holds us back from living a life we truly want. And TBH, it’s usually all over nothing!
But today can literally be the day you take control of your thoughts rather than letting your thoughts control you. Spiralling thought patterns are learned, and they can also be unlearned. The key is just to identify what’s triggering your overthinking, and then work on changing your mindset. In this week’s episode we have tons of expert and research-backed advice on how to do exactly that.
Tune in as we chat about:
The difference between ruminating vs worrying
Why learning to just act and “think less, do more” can change your life and propel you forward
Why you should carve out designated time to overthink/worry
How to rewrite the stories you are telling yourself in your head
Tricks for taking back control over your thoughts
Tips for challenging perfectionism
The 10/10/10 test for gaining perspective
How simple mindfulness practices can calm your racing mind
We hope this episode helps you take control of your thoughts! If you have tried and true tactics for stopping those overthinking spirals, we would LOVE to hear them, so DM us if there’s something else that’s worked for you!
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Episode 32: How to Drink Wine Like A Pro
Possibly the biggest sign that you’ve unlocked adulting status? You seriously know your way around wine. It’s always impressive when one person at the dinner table knows which wine to order with every dish, and the hottest vinos to put on your radar.
So, in this episode, we’re talking all things wine 101 with wine expert Lauren Power. We cover everything from how to host a wine tasting and the most popular go-to grapes, to the winemaking process, food pairings, and the proper temperature to serve your favourites! We also dive into an important chat about mastering our mindset around drinking, consuming with intent, and how to take a dry month if you want a break.
Possibly the biggest sign that you’ve unlocked adulting status? You seriously know your way around wine. It’s always impressive when one person at the dinner table knows which wine to order with every dish, and the hottest vinos to put on your radar.
So, in our latest episode, we’re talking all things wine 101 with wine expert Lauren Power. We cover everything from how to host a wine tasting and the most popular go-to grapes, to the winemaking process, food pairings, and the proper temperature to serve your favourites! We also dive into an important chat about mastering our mindset around drinking, consuming with intent, and how to take a dry month if you want a break.
Lauren runs in-person and virtual wine tasting events to help people explore and develop their own personal wine palates, and she’s the sales and marketing maven behind her family-owned wine and spirit importer, Treamici Wines.
Listen to our chat to learn more about:
The key grapes and regions to know
How to figure out your palette and wine preferences
The six most popular wines to order
How to actually do a wine-tasting, and notes to know
Tips for ordering wine off restaurant menus like a pro
When to decant and proper temperatures for serving wine
Easy, no-brainer food pairings
How to have a more mindful relationship with alcohol
Tips for taking a dry month
We hope this episode helps you feel more confident when it comes to choosing wine and drinking like a pro!
Follow Lauren:
instagram.com/laurenpower_wine/
Wines mentioned in this episode:
Veuve Clicquot Rose Champagne
Louis Bouillot Perle d'Aurore Brut Rosé Crémant de Bourgogne
La Marca Prosecco DOC
Henry Of Pelham Cuvée Catharine Rosé Brut VQA
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Episode 29: How to Get Fit And Motivated At home
It’s so hard to stay motivated to exercise in the colder months, and when you throw in lockdowns, working out just seems impossible. We’ve heard from a lot of you that are struggling to stay active right now, and we’re right there with you. So we called in the delightful and motivating fitness expert we all need, Cassie Day. She’s an athlete, coach, nutritionist, fitness personality and CEO of All Day Fit, a fitness community with online and in-person classes and personal training that takes a 360° approach to wellness.
It’s so hard to stay motivated to exercise in the colder months, and when you throw in lockdowns, working out just seems impossible. We’ve heard from a lot of you that are struggling to stay active right now, and we’re right there with you. So we called in the delightful and motivating fitness expert we all need, Cassie Day. She’s an athlete, coach, nutritionist, fitness personality and CEO of All Day Fit, a fitness community with online and in-person classes and personal training that takes a 360° approach to wellness.
Cassie dishes on so many helpful tips for getting motivated to move at home, shares the single most important moves to gain serious strength and tone, and talks about how we can all have a healthier mindset towards fitness and food. Plus, we share some of our own tricks that have helped keep us motivated, from investing in good gear and signing up for workout challenges, to game-ifying workouts and scheduling exercise with an accountabilibuddy.
We’re also learning what it really means to embrace fitness for our overall health, and not just for appearance, so we’re ready to say goodbye to restriction and diet culture, and to add in more holistic movement into our everyday life, like mobility stretches and walking.
PLUS if you slide into Cassie’s DMs on Instagram and share your fave part of this interview, she’ll hook you up with an exclusive offer to her online fitness hub, All Day Fit!
Let’s all help each other stay motivated to move at home! Listen in for:
How we’ve been staying active at home: 2:23
Cassie’s journey as an athlete & how she starting All Day Fit: 14:10
How the pandemic has affected Cassie’s approach to exercise: 16:19
The key benefits of exercising during these lockdowns—especially for our mental health: 18:46
How to stay motivated & find routine when we’re stuck at home: 21:36
Budget-friendly equipment & props to use at home: 23:58
Three at-home workouts for limited equipment & time (AKA the best bang for your buck!) 26:08
Stretches & mobility movements to fix bad laptop posture and pain: 28:50
The 6 foundational movement patterns for balanced training: 32:51
The *best* go-to moves for targeting your core & butt: 36:15
How to approach food & fitness with a healthy, body-positive perspective: 39:21
We hope this episode helps you listen to your body, get moving and keep pushing for the life you want to live. Remember, in the words of Jillian Michaels, “Fitness isn’t about building a better body, it’s about building a better life.”
Follow Cassie:
Workouts mentioned in this episode:
Cassie’s Kettlebell Complex - bets bang for your buck workout:
Animal Flow:
Cassie’s Stretches for low back, neck & shoulder pain:
Cassie’s top moves for core & glutes:
Dead Bugs: instagram.com/tv/CADIIkcHLAW/
Single Leg Exercises: instagram.com/reel/CI8aWwPnvzg/
Glute Bridges: instagram.com/p/CKhAaxyH4oq/
Mobility movements:
All Day Fit’s 6 Foundational movement patterns: instagram.com/p/CKKLQ8IHim8/
90/90 stretch: youtube.com/watch?v=2uW-9KD5XOM
Equipment mentioned:
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Episode 27: How To Feel Healthier in 8 (Totally Doable) Steps
How you doin’? Any guesses what our listeners voted as their #1 goal for 2021? Improving their health—both physical and mental.
It’s been harder than ever to take control of our health in the past year (71% of you said the pandemic has negatively affected your health, while 62% are working to improve their mental health right now). So, today we’re diving into 8 legit doable ways to feel healthier, starting with the four pillars of good health: Sleep, nutrition, physical activity, and stress management.
How you doin’? Any guesses what our listeners voted as their #1 goal for 2021? Improving their health—both physical and mental.🏋️♀️🧘🏾♀️
It’s been harder than ever to take control of our health in the past year (71% of you said the pandemic has negatively affected your health, while 62% are working to improve their mental health right now). So, today we’re diving into 8 legit doable ways to feel healthier, starting with the four pillars of good health: Sleep, nutrition, physical activity, and stress management.
OBVI, while we love watching them on TV, we’re not doctors (sorry mom and dad!) or health experts—we’re about as qualified as Joey—so please always consult with your doctor before making any big changes, and never rely on Google (or podcasts) to diagnose yourself.
We’re really passionate about making this year the one where we truly prioritize our health, so we’re sharing all of the research and info we’ve gathered to help make small, healthy changes.
Let’s make this the year of you!
Listen in to learn more about:
😴The crucial reasons you need to prioritize sleep, and how to get more
💧All the wild ways drinking more water can change your life
🍽 Why there IS NO one-size solution to eating healthily, and why we’re advocates for learning what *your specific body* needs for nutrition
👩⚕️The big role gut health plays in your overall health
🏃♀️The power of walking and exercising for pleasure, not punishment
🪑🙅♀️Why sitting is the worst and how micro-exercise can combat that
🤝💗How to get help when your mental health is suffering
🧠The power of a mental health toolbox
💊Why vitamins can be a key factor in your wellness
📆The appointments you *should* be booking every year
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Episode 25: How to Crush Your 2021 Goals
The holidays can be super jolly and joyful for some, but they can also come with a ton of stress, pressure, grief, and loneliness for many. So, in this episode we’re diving into five expert-backed mindset hacks to survive the holidays.
It’s the perfect time to plan our 2021 goals as a roadmap to accomplish our dreams and set our intentions. And this isn’t your basic let’s-set-some-new-year's-resolutions chat. We dive into why you need to set clear goals vs. ambiguous resolutions, and give you our secret sauce to pandemic-proofing your plans for 2021.
If you want to take control of your life, goal-setting is where it’s at...goals give you focus, direction, motivation and a clear benchmark for measuring your success and progress. So we’re breaking down what a SMART goal is, and eight ways you can plan and execute any goal you set.
Listen to our chat to learn more about:
The results of how you all responded to our goal-setting polls on social
Finding your “why”
Setting positive, future-thinking goals
Establishing “SMART” goals
How to integrate your goals into your daily routine
Scheduling your non-negotiables
Mapping out a pandemic-proof plan
The importance of accountability
How to deprioritize to make room for your new goals
How we broke down our individual goals for 2021
PLUS download our free goal setting cheat sheet that outlines all of the steps to creating and achieving your goals for 2021.
We hope this helps you absolutely slay 2021 with clear direction, motivation and planning, no matter what awaits us in the new year. Thanks joining us on our journey this year and supporting this podcast, it has meant the world to us. Happy New Year, friends!
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Episode 24: How to Survive The Holidays with 5 key Mindset Hacks
The holidays can be super jolly and joyful for some, but they can also come with a ton of stress, pressure, grief, and loneliness for many. So, in this episode we’re diving into five expert-backed mindset hacks to survive the holidays.
The holidays can be super jolly and joyful for some, but they can also come with a ton of stress, pressure, grief, and loneliness for many. So, in this episode we’re diving into five expert-backed mindset hacks to survive the holidays.
Listen to our chat to learn more about:
Setting clear boundaries with yourself and loved ones: 1:50
The benefits of an *easy* gratitude practise: 4:08
How to “gamify” holiday drama and stress as a way of (pretty damn fun) coping: 5:30
Dealing with grief and the loss of loved ones during the holiday season: 8:16
Creating new traditions and making your own meaning during the holidays: 12:10
We hope this episode helps you survive the “most wonderful time of the year” a little better during these particularly strange times. Remember, you’re not alone—we’re all on this together. Stay safe and happy holidays, friends!
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Episode 21: How to Cultivate Resilience and Master Your Mindset
It seems like pivot and resiliency are the hottest buzzwords of 2020. After all, change and adversity are the only constant in this life, and if this year has taught us anything, it’s that the more you focus on building a solid foundation within yourself, the more external chaos you can handle.
Shifting our mindsets, perception and reactions is far from easy, but that’s the key to healthily recovering from turmoil and trauma. So, we called in mindset and success coach Leisse Wilcox to teach us everything we need to know about how to cultivate mental resilience and turn whatever life throws at you into a beautiful story.
It seems like pivot and resiliency are the hottest buzzwords of 2020. After all, change and adversity are the only constant in this life, and if this year has taught us anything, it’s that the more you focus on building a solid foundation
within yourself, the more external chaos you can handle.
Shifting our mindsets, perception and reactions is far from easy, but that’s the key to healthily recovering from turmoil and trauma. So, we called in mindset and success coach Leisse Wilcox to teach us everything we need to know about how to cultivate mental resilience and turn whatever life throws at you into a beautiful story.
And Leisse is not just your average coach. She is a coveted mindset coach, podcast host, AND bestselling author, who is changing the global conversation on emotional health & wellness. She literally wrote the book on turning adversity into opportunities for growth, joy and beauty.
Listen to our chat with Leisse to learn more about:
👊 Our tools for bouncing back from adversity: 2:08
🙇🏽♀️ Why your mindset matters: 8:50
✨ The meaning of emotional alchemy (turning the dark and heavy pieces of your life into something beautiful and light): 10:37
🔟 Leisse’s 10 steps to cultivating emotional alchemy: 13:11
😬 How to avoid toxic positivity and *actually* deal with your sh*t: 25:46
🤗 Ways to process and feel your feelings: 28:33
💃 How to make a difficult life change with grit and grace: 30:31
💆🏾♀️The importance of staying in the present moment and “zooming out”: 34:27
🙏Why gratitude is the key to mindset: 38:52
We hope this episode helps you harness resilience and a positive perspective to deal with whatever life throws at you.
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Episode 20: How to Navigate the News Right Now
With COVID-19 numbers surging around the world, the upcoming US election, and the onslaught of disasters that 2020 has served up, there is more news being consumed than ever before, and it can be seriously overwhelming trying to stay up to date with accurate info, without going crazy. So we did our homework on how you can stay informed without sacrificing your sanity.
Welcome to this week's Quickie, our super fast take on all the adulting things that matter to you. This week, we’re diving into something we all need help with right now... how to navigate the news responsibly, while protecting our mental health.
With COVID-19 numbers surging around the world, the upcoming US election, and the onslaught of disasters that 2020 has served up, there is more news being consumed than ever before, and it can be seriously overwhelming trying to stay up to date with accurate info, without going crazy. So we did our homework on how you can stay informed without sacrificing your sanity.
Listen to our chat to learn more about:
🧐 The importance of reading beyond the headlines & fact checking: 2:00
👥 How to avoid confirmation bias and learn all sides to a story: 2:45
⚖️ Identifying innate biases in the media: 4:12
👩🏫 Finding sources that *explain* the news, rather than just breaking it: 6:13
📱✉️ Different ways to consume the news that work for YOUR lifestyle: 8:42
🙅🏾♀️ Drawing boundaries on your media intake for your mental health: 11:27
🤗 Good news resources for when you need a smile: 14:46
🙀How to stay up to date with COVID without having anxiety: 16:02
We hope that these tips help you stay informed and navigate the hectic news we’re surrounded by these days responsibly and healthily.
Fact Checking Resource: https://www.snopes.com/
Media Outlet Bias Check: https://mediabiasfactcheck.com
The Media Bias Chart: https://www.adfontesmedia.com/
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Episode 18: How To Cope With Grief and Loss
This week’s topic is a tough one, but it’s something that we’ll all have to navigate at some point in our lives despite most of us feeling totally unequipped to cope with it. We’re talking about grief, with the help of mental health professionals Eleanor Haley and Litsa Williams, the founders of popular website and podcast What’s Your Grief.
This week’s topic is a tough one, but it’s something that we’ll all have to navigate at some point in our lives, even though most of us feel totally unequipped to cope with it. We’re talking about grief, with the help of mental health professionals Eleanor Haley and Litsa Williams, the founders of popular website and podcast What’s Your Grief.
Whether you’re grieving the loss of a loved one, the general uncertainty of the pandemic, job loss, a breakup, a difficult diagnosis, or the loss of connection with the people you love, you might be experiencing grief in ways you didn’t even realize.
How we’ve coped with grief and loss
For Gillian, the recent loss of her incredible Grandma left her feeling overwhelmed with grief and emptiness, leading up to and after her death. While she’s still processing her loss, she’s working to keep her memories alive, and she’s found some helpful ways to cope:
Creating new rituals with her family to remember and honour her Grandma on special occasions
Baking her Grandma’s famous recipes
Talking about her grief with friends and family
Learning how to stop shutting out her memories, and rewriting the painful ones with positive thoughts
For Cailyn, the loss of her Opa and the diagnosis of a close relative had her spiral into waves of grief. She’s found ways to cope by:
Carving out set times for her to feel her grief
Watching happy upbeat content—laughter is the best medicine!
Sleep, exercise, eating well and going on walks with her dog
Opening up to her husband and close friends when she needs to talk, cry or vent
How to identify your individual grief coping style
Tapping into your individual coping style can be really helpful as you figure out how to cope. The first step is to acknowledge that there is more than one way of grieving. Eleanor reminds us that grief is different for everyone: “We think of grief as mostly being an emotional experience, but the reality is that it’s more than that. It’s cognitive, physical, and spiritual. It’s all sorts of different types of experiences.”
You can start by thinking about who you are, what coping mechanisms have worked for you in the past, and have an open mind about things that you think might be helpful for you. For example, someone who processes things more cognitively may find it helpful to get involved in advocacy, planning a memorial, or reading books on grief. While someone who is more of a creative thinker may find comfort in creating art that expresses their emotions, journaling, or writing a letter to the person they have lost.
Finding coping mechanisms that can help you make meaning from your loss and provide you with a new purpose can be very, very healing. “We want people to recognize that there are so many different ways to cope and the best thing to do is think about yourself: What are my strengths? What are my preferences? What are my resources?” says Eleanor.
Coping with anticipatory vs. unexpected grief
“Anticipated losses often allow our brains to start creating a space to imagine what the world might look like without that person,” says Litsa. “You can start to imagine the feelings that might come and create a space to do what we call Anticipatory Grief, which is to start processing the loss before it happens.” However, the looming loss can still impact you more than you expected. And in some cases it can trigger more shock for someone who thought they prepared because the reality of the world without their loved versus the idea of a world without that person is so different.
With unexpected losses, our brains haven’t created that space where we’ve tried to imagine a world without that person: It comes with shock, disbelief and overwhelm as our brains try to catch up to those things that it didn’t get to prepare for in advance.
What not to say to someone who is grieving
When it comes to providing support for someone who is grieving, don’t try to find a silver lining. “Stay away from anything that begins with the words ‘at least’, because ‘at least’ is looking for some sort of silver lining or positive in the situation. And just because the comment may be true (or true someday), it doesn’t mean that someone is ready to hear it or that it is helpful in the moment,” reminds Eleanor.
It’s also important to understand the difference between providing comfort vs. support. Comfort is our attempt to take away pain. It’s our desire to find a silver lining because we’re trying to bypass pain and get to a place where your loved one will start to feel better. But someone who provides support is there to lean on. They walk with the griever without trying to change, suppress them or find their meaning for them.
Litsa points out that sometimes people worry about bringing up the person who died, an anniversary, or sharing a story, but that can often be the most helpful and comforting thing to do. “That’s the kind of gesture that shows people that you’re there for them for the long term, that you want to be there to remember their loved one, and that you’re not just there for the first couple of weeks or months after a loss when everyone tends to show up. Be the person who sticks around long term who is still checking in a year later, five years later, ten years later.”
Eleanor also suggests getting comfortable with silence and not having anything to say. Don’t feel the need to always fill that silence. You might attempt to comfort your loved one by trying to relate to their pain, but that doesn’t always land well with the person who is grieving.
Getting comfortable talking about loss, as a griever and a supporter
“Grief is figuring out how to have an ongoing relationship with a person who has died,” says Litsa. “That means that we’re figuring out how to still talk about them, remember them and live a life that’s still informed so much by their presence in our life. We need to remember that that’s a good thing.”
Even when we get to the best place with our grief it can still be hard, painful and bittersweet. But connection is often what we’re striving for, not disconnection, and the best way to convey that to the people who want to help is to tell them exactly what you need. Lista says when you’re direct about what you need from others—whether it’s a hug, a vent, or a cry—it allows them to show up the way that you need them to.
It helps to express that you don’t need someone to fix that pain or take away the bitter part of bittersweet...that’s just always going to be there.
How to deal with loss during a pandemic
A lot of people are unable to have the types of memorials, services, rituals and support groups that they normally would have if it weren’t for the pandemic. Eleanor also notes that our current isolated world can also bring up past losses or non-death losses for a lot of people, which is perfectly normal.
“We encourage people to have an open mind for things you may not have considered before”, says Eleanor. Things like online or virtual therapy, virtual support groups, journaling, or artistic expression through painting, writing or creating can help you cope while social distancing.
Eleanor and Litsa also recommend their free 10 Day Coping With Grief Challenge to help you discover new coping skills from the comfort of your own home.
After losing multiple loved ones during COVID, Litsa found that reaching out to people who were grieving the same loss as her was helpful for her process. If you are unable to have a funeral or service for your loved one, you may be yearning for connection and conversations with others who are remembering the same person. Litsa suggests reaching out to friends-of-friends to your loved one, even if you’re not that close, and saying: “Hey, I’m feeling really sad and missing [this person] today, and I need somebody to talk to about that.”
“Sometimes when we’re vulnerable, struggling and grieving, we limit things to our inner circle of people,” says Litsa. “But especially in moments like this when the world is more disconnected than ever and we don’t have those same grieving rituals, I think it can be really important to open your mind about who might be a support to you that you haven’t thought about.”
How to survive the holidays when you’re grieving
One of the most difficult things to process when dealing with a loss is coping with the picture that we had created in our minds of what our life was supposed to look like. What our holidays, weddings, family, and special occasions should look like. “But one of the things that happens after a loss is that all of that is disrupted. We’re grieving the future that we thought we were going to have,” says Litsa.
To cope with grief during these special events and holidays, Lista suggests trying to shift your mindset to acknowledged both the loss of our expectations, while also being able to say to yourself, “just because it’s not what I imagined, doesn’t mean that it can’t still be good, meaningful, and filled with love, while also still being filled with loss, sadness and a bittersweet want for what we thought it would be.”
Litsa reminds us that we can carry both of those things together: “If we can go into the holidays or special milestones knowing that that’s what we’re trying to do, it can at least help give you permission for the fact that there will be tears and difficult moments on days that we thought would be wholly joyful. And there will still be lots of joy and we should give ourselves permission and space to feel both things.”
Identifying and managing grief triggers
The first place to start when trying to manage your grief triggers is to acknowledge that they are going to happen. While there may be times when you’ll want to try to avoid them (AKA at work), in general Litsa and Eleanor don’t recommend trying to close yourself off from all of your grief triggers. “When you do that you end up closing yourself off from your loved one”, says Eleanor.
“We often see that the intensity of these experiences diminish over time. So something may cause a sting of sadness, but they also might have a little more warmth to them, comfort, or a continued bond,” says Eleanor. It’s important to create space for both of those emotions and to understand that it is perfectly normal to feel sadness and connection at once.
Litsa also talks about creating “grief space”—a set time and space dedicated to your own grief. Having a set time to manage your grief allows you to set those overwhelming and unmanageable feelings aside in a healthy way and come back to them later when you have the time to unpack them.
Doing this regularly allows you to practise feeling your emotions rather than shutting them out so you can gain more control when triggers do pop up. And it’s not that it gets easier or that the grief goes away—you just get stronger and develop the tools to manage it and integrate your loss into your daily life as you move forward.
Finding balance between grieving and living life again
It can be difficult to balance feeling your grief and jumping back to living your life again. That’s why Litsa is a big fan of the dual process model of grief. One of the underpinnings of this model is that grieving and getting back to your normal routine happen alongside each other. “Part of grief is taking a break from grief”, says Litsa. “It’s creating those spaces to set it aside for a while and engage in healthy avoidance.”
Eleanor reminds us that grief is forever, and our relationship with grief changes over time. “We often think we have to feel pain all the time or we’re forgetting or betraying our loved one, but that’s not the case. Take a break from grief. Have moments of laughter and joy. These are not betrayals.”
Why alcohol and grief aren’t always bffs
“For some people alcohol and other substances can be either numb or intensify their emotions, and it can affect you in different ways”, says Litsa. “One of the things that we know about alcohol and how it affects the brian is that it quiets down the anxiety center of our brain which keeps our emotions in check. When we quiet that down, suddenly our emotions come out more and can be more intensified.”
Litsa stresses that this is why it’s so important to carve out time to deal with any feelings you may be pushing down or repressing. The more we give space to those feelings, the less likely they will come out in an unhealthy way when drinking.
We hope that this episode helps you find ways to cope with whatever you’re experiencing. If you ever need support, know that you can reach out to us.
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Episode 12: How To Stress Less and Manage Your Mental Health
If you’re feeling super overwhelmed right now, please know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE, and whatever you’re feeling right now, is 100% okay to feel. We’ve been feeling pretty damn stressed and a little moodier than usual if we’re being honest, so we’re really glad we are able to share this conversation. Because the more we open about how we’re feeling, the easier it is for others to share and normalize their experiences, too.
Many of us deal with some level of stress at the best of times, but when you toss a global pandemic and quarantine into the mix, it’s safe to say that almost everyone is feeling anxious and uncertain right now in some capacity. While some of us have been able to take this time at home to slow down and re-connect with the things that matter, others are struggling with unemployment, health issues, insane workloads, financial instability, loneliness, teaching AND parenting their kids, and just general WTF-is-the-future-going-to-look-like anxiety.
So, if you’re feeling super overwhelmed right now, please know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE, and whatever you’re feeling right now, is 100% okay to feel. We’ve been feeling pretty damn stressed and a little moodier than usual if we’re being honest, so we’re really glad we are able to share this conversation. Because the more we open about how we’re feeling, the easier it is for others to share and normalize their experiences, too.
We recorded an episode with therapist Megan Rafuse a while back, and we’ve put together a few highlights from our interview that are super relevant and helpful for anyone who may be feeling stressed today. Her advice and exercises have really helped us navigate our own stress and anxiety during this time.
Megan is a mental health innovator who specializes in millennial wellness. She’s the owner of the Toronto-based therapy clinic, Shift Collab, which offers one-on-one therapy and mental health workshops, catering to busy, highly-driven young adults. We hope Megan’s advice will resonate and offer some coping strategies and stress relief, so carve out a little well-deserved *you* time and read on for our key takeaways.
How can you get out of a stressed, anxious mental state?
“As women, we tend to be givers,” says Megan. “We want to support everyone else and sometimes that comes at the expense of ourselves.” We’re often stuck in a state of what Megan likes to call “Should-ing on yourself” and “Must-erbating”, where you find yourself thinking, “I should have done this, I shouldn’t have done that”. To combat this, Megan suggests we start challenging our “shoulds” with “coulds”. Flip the script and try saying, “I could have done this, but I have compassion for myself now, so I’m telling myself it’s okay that I didn’t.”
Another helpful strategy that Megan recommends is to think of your emotional and mental wellness as a bank account, and be aware of how many deposits you’re putting in versus how much you’re withdrawing. Start by making a list of things that make you feel fulfilled, like painting, working out, watching Netflix, calling a friend, etc. Then take your list and rate each item on a scale of 0-10 (0 being minimal nourishment, and 10 being the most nourishment) to figure out how much emotional “money” each one can add to your emotional bank account..
The key here is to be compassionate with yourself, notes Megan. “If I’m having a really tough day, I might not have the energy to do something that’s a 9. [So] I might not go for a long run, I might do a 2 and watch netflix and order takeout. And that’s okay, because putting $2 in your emotional bank account is better than none. It’s about not shaming yourself.”
And we all know that a reasonable level of stress is inevitable. It’s a part of our everyday lives and that’s what has helped humans adapt and survive over time. But when you start feeling too overwhelmed and burnt out, Megan recommends checking in with yourself and asking: “What have I done recently to put money back into my emotional bank account?”
“Things like our daily commute, how much time we spend at work, and relationship challenges [are] stressors. And stress tends to compound, [so] we need to know what helps us deal with our stress in order for us to be able to cope with it,” says Megan.
This exercise has been so helpful that we created an emotional bank account worksheet for you to use.
You can download it HERE!
How can we avoid the stress and added pressure of social media?
We would be lying if we didn’t admit that we sometimes compare ourselves to others on social media. Especially when we’re stuck at home in quarantine, it can add to the anxiety that we’re not doing enough or being productive enough when we see what everyone else is up to. Megan refers to these thought patterns as “compare and despair”. We compare our current state to other people’s curated highlight reels on social media, and then we despair and project negative thoughts about our own lives. Megan reminds us that “Our brain doesn’t have the capacity to recognize that Suzy probably took 100 photos to get that one shot and she used a filter.” So when you’re going through the compare and despair rabbit hole, Megan recommends to pause, let yourself slow down, and to take a social media break.
How can we identify the areas of our lives that are stressing us out most, and find more balance all around?
“A good way to manage stress, and burn out as well, is to think about our life as a pie,” says Megan. Start by drawing a circle with 8 slices that represent different areas of your life, and then rate how you feel in each area out of 10.
The key is to understand that you’re not going to have a perfectly rounded pie: “I think it’s kind of bullshit that we have to expect ourselves to have a fully round pie. Nobody has one, we will never have one. And it’s awesome not to have a fully balanced pie, because there are some areas in your life that you’re investing more time and energy into than others.”
This exercise will help you identify areas that you’ve been neglecting and may need to spend more time and energy on. It also allows you to give yourself some recognition for the areas where you’re crushing it!
If you’re eager to start doing this exercise, we’ve created a life balance pie downloadable for you as well! Download it HERE !
How to support loved ones and set boundaries when you’re at capacity with your own mental health
According to Megan, stress and burnout wants us to isolate. When showing up for others becomes too overwhelming and you need to focus on yourself, she suggests tackling this straight on and having an open and honest conversation. She recommends saying: “Hey I know I’ve been bailing on our FaceTime dates [for example]. I really care about you and value our friendship, but I am really struggling. Can we put our FaceTime dates on hold, but can you keep reaching out and send me a text every once in a while?” This helps remove the guilt and avoidance that can amplify if you just ignore your plans with people.
It can also be hard to support your loved ones when you personally don’t have the mental or emotional capacity to take on any additional stress. How can you take care of others if you can’t take care of yourself first?! If you find yourself in this situation, Megan suggests total honesty by acknowledging that you’re both struggling and that neither of you have the capacity to support one other. Then, you could brainstorm who else you can both lean on for more support. Not sure how to broach that convo? She recommends saying: “I hear you, and I really care about you, but I also don’t have capacity [right now]. How can we support each other through this [in a way] that doesn’t feel like it’s going to drain us even more?”
How do you know if your problems are “bad enough” to seek help?
We’ve both been guilty of letting our problems fester for too long, or if our problems are even big enough in the first place to warrant talking to a friend or going to therapy. So when it comes to dealing with these thoughts, Megan’s advice is simple: “There is no such thing as ‘bad enough’. If you feel like you’re struggling, reach out. Start with the people that know and love you.”
We hope that our chat with Megan helps you find some ways to manage your stress and anxieties, and also helps you to know that you’re not in this alone.
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